PLEASE HELP! My husband and I have not had s*x in three weeks!!!!?

Question

Okay this story is a little long, but to some it might sound interesting. A long time ago, I asked my husband why we didnt have s*x alot. He said "Well, I see myself as a king and you are my queen and queens don't have s*x alot" About to months later I asked him againhe said "I dont want to see you like the other women I have dated, I dont want to see you as a s**t".

Then he and I were cuddling on the couch the other night and we were discussing s*x and he said "I want to chase afer you, don't make yourself so easily accessible, I want you to start turning me down."

So, I started to little tiny things like bending over extra nice and it started to really turn him on, I did what he told me and I turned him down. It is worth noting I NEVER EVER turn my husband down, because well.... I love having s*x with him. After having two kids and being married almost four years, I am still drawn to him like a moth to a flame! He is just absolutely gorgious to me!

So last light, he was at the computer and we had been sorta flirting with each other, and I asked him "What time do you get off work tomorrow" he replies "seven O clock" I looked at him and said "well, I can get you off sooner than that". He says "OOOOOO, Nice". But, like 98% of the time, we went to bed. What am I supposed to do? I am a stay at home wife and mother of a one and two year old. I do everything I can in the bed room. I dress up for him in nurse outfits, I have done the whole leather and a whip thing(because he asked). I am at my whits end right now!!! I guess you could say when it comes to s*x, I want it more. I dont get it because when we first got married we used to have s*x all the time. We havent had s*x almost three weeks.

Oh P.S. he has told me in the past, he would rather cuddle than have s*x. I know most women would love a man like this, and I love him with everything I have, but I have needs and I am scared to confront him about this, because when I do, it just pushes him further away sexually.

Answer 1

Wow. Discuss it with him, tell him your feelings..

Answer 2

so your man likes the challenge of the chase more than the goal itself.  I'd run him a merry chase.  Be tempting, but don't offer.  Look s**y and desirable, but make him seduce you, don't try to seduce him.  Don't turn him down flat...next time tell him you aren't really in the mood and see what he can do to get you into the mood.  Trust me, if you don't give him a challenge, he'll get bored and find someone that does.

Answer 3

I find this odd. This man is ridiculous honestly.

There is a chance he probably isn't sexually attracted to you anymore.

Gah. I really dont want to say this but do you think he may be cheating ? Getting it from someone else ?

This doesn't make sense to me at all.

Answer 4

You need to express your needs to him.  You two have to come to a compromise.  I really don't understand what he is talking about.  The only reasons I can think of why he doesn't want to have s*x is because he is either not attracted to you anymore or he is cheating.  Maybe you should let him catch you masturbating.  If he asks why, tell him you need it and it's better than you cheating on him.

**I also think that he wants you to turn him down because he doesn't want to have s*x.  This way, if you turn him down, it doesn't look like it's him.

Answer 5

well I have always said you are hot so just give me a call and I can help you out

JK

Answer 6

tell him about it...maybe its something with u. u said u have to kids eh? that can do a lot to a persones body....but who knows just talk to him

Answer 7

I guess he likes playing hard to get. Better start role-playing or something. I don't think there is anything wrong with you to feel that way. You sound like a wonderful mother and wife, who just has her needs like every other woman. Not sure what's up with your husband.

Answer 8

This might sound a bit extreme but maybe he's turned g*y. No joke ive heard it can happen to alot of married men who loose interest in thier spouces. On the other hand ask him if needs to see a doctor about his s*x drive.or buy a Vibrator.

Answer 9

This doesn't make a lot of sense. Either he is getting it elsewhere, he has erectile dysfunction, or he has some other sexuality issues. Quit turning him down; this is a strange game.