PLEASE HELP!!! THIS is IMPORTANT TO ME!!!?

Question

so really recently my parents got divorced and im living with my mom. she has really changed. she has gotten meaner and like started dating. when ever i ask her about it she doesnt tell me anything and is just like yea i am dating. and then all of sudden she has gotten like almost an addiction in to chat rooms. this past 3 days she has been on them non stop and she has changed so much. last night i got thirst at 4 in the morning and went down stairs and i heard her talking on the phone with some guy. and belive me i have tryed talking to her and nothing helps. so dont tell me to try to talk to her. i cant go to a counselor or anyone cause im not paying and its summer. im only 13 and i have no idea what to do. does anyone no what i should to do to get her back how she used to be.

Answer 1

So what about your Dad?  Can you talk to him?  Your mom is sounding just really depressed and not knowing how to deal with things, and seems to be looking for the comfort of a marriage from somewhere else.  I'm sorry it feels like she doesn't care about your feelings! the only the I could suggest is to try and see if she wants to do something together just the two of you.  And sometimes these things just take time.  I hope things get better for you soon, just hang in there!

Answer 2

right now your mom is dealing with A LOT of stress. if she won't listen to you when you talk to her, try writing how the situation makes you feel. leave it somewhere you know she will see it. when she reads it she will come to you. right now I know it is hard but try to give her some space to do her own thing. I am sorry you have to go through this. i hope this helps you.

Answer 3

Ok well if this happened to me i would have felt your uncomfort to this situation. I will say this though that your mom is going through some moment of loneliness,try asking your mom if you and her could interact and do something together anytime.Then she will feel less lonely hopefully this person she's dating interacts with both of you and you all can get along.If this dont work give it some time if it lasts a long time or longer then before try talking to her.

Answer 4

Your mom is going through a really hard time. Maybe she needs to feel like she's still attractive, and she's doing this by going onto chatrooms, and talking on the phone. Try to talk to her and tell her your concerns. Start out with saying, 'I want to respect your privacy but, mom I'm concerned, I feel like...... It's very hard on children when the grown ups around them go off into there own world. Divorce isn't easy on anyone. Good luck

Answer 5

Your mom sounds like she is lonely and is trying to make friends.There are places to get free counceling too if you feel like you need it. She is going through ALOT its scary being alone ( without a partner) and needs somthing that YOU cant give her.....Its NOT your fault and its NOT her fault.....Do you have any friends?A preacher?Also talk to her without yelling or accusing.13 is a VERY hard age.....so is being newly single

Answer 6

The way your mother used to be is history girl ,,,, There's nothing you can do in your position ,,,, If your life style has changed to the point where its getting unbearable then you might consider living with your father if that's possible ,,,, She's going to do what she wants to do ,,,, There's no changing that ,,,, I do think that as a parent she should keep you as her first priority though ,,,, All you can do is just be there if she wants to talk but don't try to force anything ,,,, That would just be contra-productive ,,,,    //

Answer 7

u should try to take out from whom she was talking and then talk to that person whom she was talking .i think it will help

good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

That totally blows, and i wish i could tell you i knew how it feels but i really don't

I think the best thing to do is to show her your hurt and talk to a close friend or one of her friends ?

Answer 9

talk to her one on 1 and let her know how u feel.