PLEASE I need serious ADVICE!?

Question

For the last year I have been living with my older sister because we trust each other financially with paying bills, and plus we started out attending the same college together in the area. The problem is that this last year has been living a nightmare. I feel like I'm consistently walking on my tip toes to get around her because she is the most sensitive person to live with. (E.g.) She has her own room, but for some reason won't sleep in it, she would rather trash the living room making it her 2cd bedroom. I dare not say anything or I'm being a B*Ch to her, and if I rent a movie that's too scary she will cry and scream I take it out, so I never get to finish anything I want to watch unless she is gone. She is NEVER gone!!! She quit school, doesn't work, is always sleeping, or laying in the bath tub when I need to use the bathroom, and she is the biggest lost soul. She is always crying, depressed and complaining about money, yet every time she has money she spends it all on a new hobbies that is suppose to help her "Find herself" I never interfere with her ideas of trying to find herself, but its becoming a problem trying to live peacefully with her. Plus she wants to move with me everywhere I talk about moving, and I don't know how to let her down. I'm really afraid she is suicidal and because she doesn't have anybody else but me in her life, so if I leave her I will feel guilty all the time... All we ever do together is talk about her deppression. I'm going insane just living with her, and I once mentioned gettting her some help and she completely freaked out on me and made feel like sh*t. I don't know what to do anymore!! Please give me some advice???

I would really appreciate it...

Answer 1

sounds to me like your sister really may have some serious issues going on. but i think you are adding to them by letting her make you feel like you did  something wrong. there's this saying that family is the one who will really do you in. just when you thought you could trust her to pay her half of the bills now she's not working and all so depressed. she see's that you have her back no matter what. when you speak of help for her she starts to act as if she wants to harm herself. i say present getting help for herself or she has to leave, watch how fast she tries to get it together. mean what you say, say what you mean. and even though it might hurt you to put her out. she needs help.

Answer 2

Talk to an experienced adult or maybe your college counselor, they will help you from there.

When you tell your sister about it, tell her it's because you love her. She needs you right now so being mean would not be an option but you can let her know that you want some space. Or just wait till she gets better (with professional help, preferably), then she'll naturally un-cling herself from you!!

I hope this helps, good luck!