PLEASE MOTHERS COULD YOU ANSWER THIS why do parents take security blankets away from children?

Question

I'm not a mother so i would like their prespectives. But as a 26year old woman (dont have kids yet) here's my possibly unique maybe even crazy perspective. As a child I had one since always now I had mine taken away repeatedly but always managed a way to get a new one, I simply dont see the problem how in gods name is a blanket a problem? Im 26 I STILL sleep with one the guys Ive been with have never found it an issue they thought it was cute.... I mean its a blanket especially in this day in age with all the c**p out there on the streets and even drugs/cigarettes/alchol and violence can be seen around preteens?

Answer 1

I've never thought about it in some of the ways I see here, but I have eight children, and I can tell you - in today's world, one needs all the security one can get. Some people start off sucking their thumb - that one gets yanked quick. Some twirl their hair - that's me, still, at 40. Some go in for the teddy or blanket, and with this one I really don't see the harm.

The only 'reality check' a parent instills by taking away a beloved toy or item which comforts their child is a vision of a mean-spririted parent. A four year old doesn't understand the logic, and it won't be the message he'll remember - all he'll know is that they took his thing!

Parents, let them have their security blankets and their teddy-bears. If the friends see it and tease, assure your baby that those kids have their own, and they're just too chicken to admit it! :)

Leave the baby his little corner of security - if the adults here are any indicator, none of us ever stop needing it!

Answer 2

My mom never took my blanket away. when I met my husband I still had it.  I was 18.  He thought it was odd but other then that he was fine with it.  I am 25  don't have my blankie anymore but I still have a throw I use all the time. Yes even in the summer.

Now my husband did take my first childs blanket away when she was like 5.  I thought it was un nessisary but she found replacements.

7 years latter and we are still together,  Currently expecting our 3rd child today. ( I think I am going into labor)

Answer 3

Maybe because they don't want them to be 26 years old and still carrying around a security blanket? It's just like parents who eventually don't want their kids to suck their thumb, but some just never stop. I know a guy who is 29 and still sucks his- his parents telling him to stop and trying to getting him to stop just made him want to do it even more.

ps- not being harsh about the blanket by any means. I still have a pillow that I carry around with me, but my son has sort of taken it away from me. lol

Answer 4

I would never take away my children's security blanket. The blanket  are not allowed to leave the house. But if that blanket makes my child feel comfortable and relaxed, there is no way I will take it from them!!! Everybody has something that they go to when they need to feel safe and secure.

Answer 5

Children have to learn how to cope, and this is part of that process.  Learning to deal without having their security blanket or stuffed animal or whatever the object is helps them learn how to cope with other issues that arent so trivial.  It can even also go towards helping them understand death.

As an adult, I have a favorite blanket that I need and sleep with stuffed animals.  But as an adult, I also know how to cope if I cant have these things with me.  Children dont know how to do that until they are forced to.  

Its harsh, and some parents feel like they are being mean by taking away the security items.  But in the end, its something that has to be done at some point or they will never learn those coping skills.

Answer 6

I think parents think that they are doing their kids a favor by being cruel and taking away their security blanket. It's meant to toughen them up and make them cope with the harsh real world and disappointment. With the state of the world today I question these parents' motives. My daughter is 2yrs, 10mths and has a "blankie" that she loves. I would never dream of taking that away from her. Imagine having something that means the world to you..like your grandma's necklace or your mom's wedding ring..something you treasure and love and someone comes along and tells you that you have to give it up and then takes it from you. That's how I imagine little ones feel when they're told to give up their blankets. Just isn't right in my opinion.

Answer 7

my parents never took ours away, we just grew out of them, i know some parents who even make sure to buy their new borns a security blanket that wll be easily cleaned and durable, and last for many years. theres no harm in it. i agree with you!

people just want thier kids to grow up i think...

Answer 8

I don't know why people do this I have a five year old who still sleeps with her blankie and she is getting ready to go into kindergarden what is the harm

Answer 9

I don't think I would take a child's security blanket or stuffed animal from them!! Geez I still slept with my security teddy until I was 18. I remember exactly when I stopped sleeping with him, because it was the day my fiance moved into my apartment with me. Now, my fiance STILL has a security blanket, I think its cute, when we go to his parents for the weekend he always has to pack it up to bring with us!! and he is 21 now!! I don;t think I would be able to break my daughters heart by taking away her blanket when she is older!!

Answer 10

I don't know why people take away their childs security object..

My children all had security blankets.. My 2 daughters (the oldest and youngest children) gave up their blankets by age 3-4... They still had them but most often left them on their beds and only cuddled them as they slept..

My middle child (my son) was extremely attached to his...  As he neared kindergarten age we sat down and talked....  We agreed to cut off about 5 inches from 1 edge of the blanket and I made him several handerkcheif sized pieces he could carry to school in his pocket... Because carrying the whole blanket would be impractical...    Over the course of a few weeks at school he started taking the pieces less and less and leaving his blanket on the bed more and more...  By 3 months into kindergarten he stopped taking the pieces all together and only slept with the blanket...

All 3 of my children (ages 20, 18 and 11 now) still have their blankets... They each keep them in their cedar chests with all the other items of their childhoods they love and want to keep around...  (I.E. favorite toys, their first outfit their baby book, etc.)

Answer 11

I think some parents do this because they feel its time for their child to learn that things will not always be there when they want them or need them..NOT TOTALLY SURE ON THAT SO DON'T QUOTE ME

Neither of my daughters had security blankets

Also some blankets just need to be retired...it gets dragged through muck and scum and god knows what else and is torn to shreds and stuff like that...some things are just not salvagable(sp?)

Answer 12

it depends how attached they are..if its just for sleeping then i say who cares, but thereis kids that will take it to school and stuff and then they could get made fun of

Answer 13

my parents never took my blanket away, my brother tried once, i remember it vividly, i was 4, i remember nothing else untill kindergarden, i still have my blanky. I'm 25 and married. My hubby cuddles with it as well. Its in good condition, except on the edges, i just sew it back togther.

my parents never saw it as a problem, probably cause i didnt carry it around with me everywhere (another reason its lasted) i only used it at bed time or snuggle time :P

When i was a teen, and had boys over, obviously soooo worried they'd find it, i'd shove it under my bed! Then once my boyfriend(s) found out about it, they thought it was cute. Then they would show me something they had from when they were a baby, like a stuffed teddy or something, its a great very personal thing to bond over.

My hubby still has his first pooh bear!!!

I learned how to deal with grief w/o loosing my blanky, I had fish, and lizards, and other animals that just didnt have a very long life expectancy. I also had relatives and friends of the family pass. Having my blanky at night, it helped because i could sqwish it, it still does. I can hold my husband, but I can't sqwish him like I can sqwish my blanky.

Answer 14

Rotating blankets and toys is a smart thing to do.  If the kid gets too attached to a toy/blanket.... then the trauma of losing it or having to give it up later is terrible.  I rotated the toys and stuff for my kids just to make sure they didn't have to suffer later.  

Lose the pacifier by 6 months and the bottle by 12 months for the same reason.

Answer 15

I still have a wooby and my hubby even remembers to pack it when we go away, if I forgot. Now that is love.. :-)

Our seven year old has one just like moms.