PLEASE PLEASE help! my parents are giving me a hard time. i need ADVICE!

Question

my parents fight ALL the time and it's really annoying and they are BOTH immature. it's hard for me because sometimes they will have huge, gigantic, loud, violent fights, and the way that they make up is really wierd and stupid: They will happen to be in the same room and it's like some sort of silent "lets be friends again" agreement and they will giggle and hug. They totally disregard the emotional stress that i go through. When they are not mad at each other, they like to vent their emotions to me and tell me how much they hate one another. When they are not mad and i try to talk to them about it, they change the subject. If i told them to go to counseling, they would not listen, they always think they are right and that counseling is for crazy people - which i think they are. The reason they are not divorced is because my mom is scared my dad cannot afford to buy his own house and if he lived on his own he would have poor health and no one to talk to. I'm scared that if they stay together they will hurt themselves in an argument. what should i do?

Answer 1

Try once again to talk to them. If not, try to find a way to get a divorce that's good for your dad. Tell them how you feel! I hope this helps.

Answer 2

my parents do the same thing too. they haven't fought in a while but that's cause they like never see each other since they both work. but when they had they're last fight about 4 months ago and they were close to a divorce and they were trying to rant on and on about how much they cant stand each other i would get upset and tell them both how much i cant handle it when they talk about each other like that to me and it didn't work all the time but sometimes it did. i also tried to tell myself over and over again it happens all the time it doesn't mean anything but it only worked like once or twice. another thing i tried was to go over someones house when they were fighting well if it was daytime if it was night time i put on some music so i could drown the yelling and stuff out. but about them hurting each other my parents never got that far expect once about 5 years ago when my mom threw something at my dad but it missed him thank god. all i did was yell at them to stop cause that's pretty much all i could do i was only like 8. you cant do much since it might affect you but its there lives try your best to talk to them about how if they are going to fight at least don't do it around you and when they try to talk to you about they're problems say you don't wanna hear it and walk away. if you need to talk to someone about it they have people at school you can talk to about everything that's going on when my parents were fighting and my dad was drinking i talked to one of them and they helped alot and they also dont tell anyone anything everything you say is between you and them. i hope i helped and i hope they start putting your needs first cause your they're child and you dont deserve to be put through this.

Answer 3

They sound immature. I think you just have to wait out until you can get out on your own. Their relationship doesn't actually sound that bad, it is just that it is not an appropriate relationship within which to have kids. Tell them they must leave you out of their dramatics and that they should do their best to provide privacy to you on account of their heated relationship. Tell them you respect their right to have the sort of relationship that they want but they must take active measures to insulate you from it since it making you emotionally upset. Do they have parents or siblings who could intervene on your behalf?

People don't change. You must wait it out. My parents were like this and now that my father is dead my mother is obsessed about him and how much she misses him. Apparently they enjoyed this lifestyle even though it made me a wreck. I made my father build me a room in the basement and I got early admission to a residential university... both those things helped. Time passes quicker than you think.

Answer 4

Next time they make up, say why did you fight in the first place?Are you BOTH bi polar?

Answer 5

Okay i kind of in a way know what you are going through. Both of my parents are divorced and i used to have to hear the fights and arguments. Its healthy for a couple to fight and argue as long as its not abusive (verbally, mentally,physically). But this seems to me like its something you need to one night sit both of them down and tell them how you feel, otherwise this may never get resolved.

Answer 6

It's hard being in your position because I could imagine the emotional toll it takes on you. Ever heard this saying you can pick your friends but not your family, well it's true. Adult relationships are very complicated and not the easiest. It sounds like they love each other because they stay together. You said you've talked to them and there's no results for that. So when they vent to you, turn it around on them and vent to them to how tired your listening to their arguing and screaming. Tell them to how it's affecting you to the point you don't even like being at home. That might open their eyes to seeing how they are making you uncomfortable. Tell them of your concern of them getting physical and then where is that gonna leave you. When they start to get out of hand anonymously call the police and see their reaction to that. Adults to tend to act a littIe diffrenet in these circumstances. I know it's hard being in your position but they need to consider your feelings not theirs.

Answer 7

to quote Ann Landers MYOB the are the ones to determine their relationship and you need to keep your self out of the middle