PLEASE READ- I've had a stalker for about a year, and my friends beat him up...?

Question

Okay so here is the deal. I had a stalker for about a year. I don't know how to explain this but where I live, there are three predominant areas. One of the areas is where he lived, along with all of my friends so whenever I visited a friend or went to hang out there, he would be following. He has a yellow car, so it is distinct. He also showed up at my school twice, and followed me downtown (started in his area to meet with friend then went downtown) and he was there too... But besides all this, I recently told my friend about this and he went and beat the c**p out of him with another friend of his. Why am I so livid about this? I was so mad at my friend for doing this and all I did was yell. And now I feel horrible. Just to put this in perspective, I am 18, stalker is about 24, friend is 19 and friend of a friend is 20...

Thanks in advance

Answer 1

Did the fact that they beat the stalker up scare you?

Because, in my opinion, they deserve a medal.

Stalking is terrible for the victims.

You should go to the police, and file a complaint against the stalker.

Then, apologize to your friend - and treat him to dinner and a movie or something - for he may just have saved your life.

Not all stalkers are friendly.

Answer 2

ok

Answer 3

Wow, thats scary ... LOL yellow car .... maybe you should say something to him, you better call the PoPo ... stick this foo, he can't be doing this to you. Buy yourself a 9 MM and make sure you always have some backup weapon, like a baseball bat or peppermint spray, spray it in his eyes or a pocket knife ... wait don't do that, you'll go to jail for assault. Call up your cousins, tell them this dude got beef with you.

Answer 4

the guy got what he deserved there is a law if you stalk a person you go to jail so i advise if he starts it again call the police

Answer 5

Your friend is a good one, he's there for you. Since you yelled at him, do you think he will *take care of your worrys*?

Answer 6

you are messed up.. Apologize to the friend you yelled at..He may have saved your life!!!  Turn in the stalker to the police he may be dangerous and intend to hurt you. Or he may go on to hurt someone else... take charge and stand up to him get him arrested and please apologize to the hero that saved you by beating up the stalker in the first place.

Answer 7

It depends did you yell at him because you were worried about him ? meaning your friend. If so I understand I'll be scared if someone like this happened the stalker might be a phsyco or something you should be careful. If not I don't get you .. do you know the stalker? your ex anything? .. Anyways tell your parents inform the police if needed try not to involve someone like yourself with the stalker especially in violence.

Good luck .. And make up with your friend the stalker isn't worth someone as caring and protective as your friend.

Answer 8

Maybe beating him up wasn't the best way to approach the problem, but your friend's heart was in the right place. He was there for you . I suggest you go there and apologize, but put lightly beating the guy up wouldn't solve the problem. Atleast you know your friend is there for you. As for the stalker, who knows what will happen. Now the stalker knows that you noticed him and so as your friends. The future now is faint, but inevitable. He may get angry or irritated. But another turn is that he himself may stop. If he does stop then just ignore it and move on. If he becomes irritated then you do have to face the music one day honestly. It HAS been going on for a year, it doesnt seem right. You should do something.

But as for your friends I really do suggest apologizing. Sure it wasn't the right move but he was still there for you when you were down. He was acting like a nice friend though not responsible. Apologize and lightly (repeat: LIGHTLY) add on that it wasnt the right thing to beat him up.

What your next step is about the stalker really depends on what he does in reaction to your friends actions. Hopefully he will stop. Maybe he will get irritated; if that's the case then you have to face the music but try to make the discussion very lightly -- as in don't let it get out of hand. However if the stalker does come to you it is time to mention any other friend or ADULT mostly to help.

I wish you the best of luck and you're lucky you have a great friend who's there for you! :) hope this helped!