PLEASE answer I REALLY need your help!!!!!

Question

I'm 15 and I don't know what to do. I think I may have anxiety and/or depression, but I don't know. I often feel mad and overwhelmed. I don't really remember what it feels like to be happy. I get annoyed easily and lash out. When I went to NYC the other day I was freaking out (not in an outrageously conspicuous way) when I was inside a small and crowded cafe. I have trouble sleeping (it takes me 2-4 hours to fall asleep) and for some reason I always feel guilty. I also am lethargic quite often. I know why I'm depressed though- my step dad is an alcoholic. Also, I want to get away and live with my father in a different state, but my Mom isn't letting me and my Dad is tight on money now. I don't even think I will be able to visit him in the summer like I've done for the past 8 years. I didn't tell him about my step dad cause my mom didn't want me to. I also miss my friend that live in my Dad's state cause I haven't seen them for a year. If I'm already having issues now, when school starts and I have homework and tests, I'm afraid I'll have an anxiety attack.

Answer 1

Maybe you should try talking to a school counselor.  If you can, call your dad or email him and tell him about what's going on and tell him that you would like to live with him.  Maybe he could make that happen.  Does your mom know about your depression or about your fear of having an anxiety attack?  If she doesn't, tell her.  She might take you to the doctor and get you some medication.  If it's getting worse, I really think you should go to the doctor if you haven't already.

Answer 2

Maybe you need to go to a psychiatrist. You could also try to get out of the house for a while like staying at your friends or family's houses. I'm so sorry about that.

Answer 3

If you don't feel you can talk to your mum about how you're feeling, I think you should tell your dad, or maybe there's another family member you could speak to?

If not you could try ringing a helpline, there are some listed on this teen advice site.

Answer 4

doesn't sound like you need a therapist but a family doctor to be put on antidepressants.  

Answer 5

Going to al-anon meetings will help you learn how to deal with your dad. It helps a LOT! Your mom is trying to look out for what's best fro you I assume, but you shouldn't have to keep any secrets from your dad and she shouldn't be asking you to.

I was diagnosed with depression when I was 16 and started on Prozac. It may help you at least until you can learn how to handle your illness. Maybe you need anti-anxiety meds, maybe you need anti-depressants, but no one online can tell you. You need to see a therapist or psychiatrist or something. How does she know what was said in these meetings between you and your therapist if they're supposed to be confidential? Don't tell your mother what happens in the meetings. Hope that helps!

Answer 6

it sounds more like panic attacks to me , its best not to give advice in these matters on line ..it would not be accurate, the best idea is talk to a person in a position of responsibility a teacher perhaps and follow any guidance but you must tell them everything.dont worry , it never helps , but do talk about it!.

Answer 7

You need to talk with someone at your school. You are depressed.

It is very difficult to live with an alcoholic because you never know what might happen next. Sounds like your mom is his enabler.

Can you get to an Alateen or Alanon meeting in your town without your mother knowing? People in those groups will help you. There might be an Alateen group at your high school.

You need to talk with someone soon. Look up Alateen groups on the Internet for your area or check the telephone book. Any AA group can tell you where those meetings are held.

Good luck, Hon. Wish I could be of more help.

Answer 8

you need to tell your real father about ur stepdad. i think ur mom's being really selfish by asking u to lie to ur dad and not taking u to therapists anymore just because she doesnt like what they have to say. its about u-not her, and theyre probably saying u need to get out of the house and be raised in a better environment. It looks like your greatest ally at this point could be ur dad, and even if money is tight, he loves you. if he cant have u move in right now, then at least he acn try and figure something out to make sure that you're getting everything u need-especially since school is starting soon and things are stressful enough as it is.

Good luck and stay strong!!! :)