PLLEEAASSEE HELP! friend problems.?

Question

i have asked this b4, but i wanna be sure wat to do.i have a best friend, i always feel like she tries to compete with me over everything, my other 2 friends think im right too.well, wenevr i get something new, she will go shopping to get better things, or if i get something we "both" wanted, she will ask where i got it, and if i dont tell her she gives me this dumb loook and gets mad at me, i dont wanna be mean, i just want something i can i call my own, in elementary school, i wanted to be a model, then she did, i dont think she could be model no affense, then i wanted to be a fashion designer, this started in 5th grade, now we are entering 8th grade and she stilll does it, i wanted a guitar forever, then she said she had to have one, then she got it, it hurts me cuz i feel like she tries to take everything away from me. the way i draw is like guitar hero drawing stuff, then she tried to draw like me, but she suks. she never stops complaining, her life isnt even bad, she always gives me an attitude wen i ntell her she is wrong about something, she will fight until she gets her way, she braggs about being blond, her hair looks like a pile a garbage and ****. its not even a pretty color, no affense to blonds, she doesnt take carte of her hair, im brunette, now she might wanna dye her hair brown, she is a very selfish person sometimes. she copies my style and even my words sometimes itz sooo annoying, my friend said she looks at herself(she is obese) then looks at me (im average) all the time, i dont wanna be mean, i want her to be herself. is she just plain mean? or jelous? or ashamed of herself? what should i do? what do u think about this??? HELP ME!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I don't want to come off as a know-it-all or anything, and im sure this probably will to an extent, so i'm just apologizing ahead of time.

but man, this is so middle school. & I have to admit that yeah, middle school sucks. but once you get in high school and look back on the way you were in middle school, you will be amazed. I know it seems like this is a huge deal to you, but there are so many more important things out there.

try to consider that maybe your friend is depressed [this is probably why she talks about how her life sucks, people rarely say stuff like that JUST to get attention. theres probably a real problem there and so many kids get depressed in middle school becuase there is so much ridiculous drama that its hard not to]. but anyway. maybe shes depressed and has low self esteam, which her weight probably doesn't help. and having a friend who thinks things like her hair is ugly or not perfectly taken care of probably just increases those problems. even if you arent flat out mean to her about it, she probably senses that you feel like you are better than her. which isn't right.

why does it matter if she is jealous or not? maybe she is. is that such a horrible thing? is it horrible that someone wants to be like you? no. that should be a compliment to you. I know middle school sucks, but try to just get over it and be a good friend to this kid, she sounds like she needs somebody.