PLZ HELP..!! I Dont Know WHAT To DO..!?!?!?

Question

Ok I'm on the 7th grade and homeschooled since the second grade....I what to go to public school I'll tell you why...Sometimes my mom (my"teacher") doesn't want to do scoool so I have to do it by myself! Also when ever I tell them (my mom and dad) that I want to go to public school they tell me that if I want to go that I have to move out even tho I'm only 13! They say that public schools do not like homeschoolers and that if I go that will put me on meds & I have to get some shots or what ever...I what to graduate in high school, I want to have friends...I'm triedof homeschooling, I'm tired of doing school by my self sometimes! I'm TIRED! When ever I try to tell them about letting me go to school (which I've tried EVERTHING) they just blow me off...But the weird thing is that they both went to public school and graduated! I need to know what to do?? Should I try to move out and go live with family? PLZ HELP ME!!

Answer 1

You should ask your family members if they would let you live with them and go to school.

Your parents are being mentally and emotionally abusive telling you lies about being given shots they are trying to turn you into a crazy person, you just shouldn't have to live like that.

Add me to your contacts if they ever become ecessively abusive I will help you find the social services agency to contact.

Answer 2

Yes, look into moving in with other family members. While I think homeschooling can be great, it sounds like your parents have some serious issues just as parents. Be courageous enough to call social services or child protective services if they say you can't move in with other family. Before you do ANY of this, keep a log of your days--what you were responsible for, what your parents did or didn't do, how much you had to teach your sister, what your parents were doing during your school time, anything. It's important to have some sort of documentation. Also, talk to family members without your parents knowing. Talk to the most trustworthy one first. See what help they may be able to give you before you take any steps towards moving out.

Answer 3

You're in a very difficult situation and I think you're acting more grown-up about it than anyone in your family! Since you sound so grown-up about this situation, I'm going to answer your question the same way.

What you need to do is to call the Administrative Offices of your local public school system. You can find their number in the phone book, probably in the "blue pages" which is a little tiny section listed by city. Look for your city or town or county name, then look under schools under that. Another option is to call a local school and as for the main number for the county or city school administrative offices or the superintendant's office.

Tell them what you've told us here. Tell them that your mother won't do the school some days and you have to do it yourself, that some days you even have to teach your sister. Tell them that you don't feel that you get enough chances to meet kids your age and you feel like home school is prision. ALSO, tell them what your parents said will happen if you do - that you'd have to move out, get put on drugs, etc. Tell them that you don't understand why they'd say those things, but that you can't get them to listen when you say you're unhappy with homeschooling. If you tell them all the stuff you've said here, and ask will they please help you get into public schools, I think they'll help.

Now, if they don't or can't help, and you still want to push the issue, you can call the department of social work. If you call the library or the police NON-emergency number (don't call 911) then they can tell you how to get in touch with a social worker. Tell the social worker all the same stuff.

Some people might think your parents are abusing you by not educating you when they should, by trying to scare you away from public schools, and by not giving you social opportunities. I don't know if it really is abuse or just very strict parenting, but a social worker will help you decide what to do.

Most states require that a parent sign registration forms for public school. That means that moving in with another family member won't help unless you can get your parents to sign the form or unless they lose custody of you, which is pretty extreme, and I don't know if you want to go that far.

Good luck and good for you for standing up for yourself. Some people do well in homeschooling but it takes a very dedicated teacher/parent to make that work. I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

That really sucks, school is such a good experience in life. That is what most people remember of being a kid. You should check with a relative, maybe an aunt, is kind of bad to tell you to move out, but if there is the chance for you to live with family and be in a good environment, maybe they won't mind that much.

Good luck

Answer 5

Wow. I guess I don't understand your mom, if she's going to homeschool then she should homeschool! Maybe she's really run down... or maybe she lazy like I know I would be!! I don't think that's fair- but I do know one thing- you don't want to go to public school. I'm homeschooled to and have been forever but my friends started school after being homeschooled she started in 9th grade. She says it really wears her out, the teachers and students are frustrating and it takes over her life the only benifit is one or two shallow friends. I do have one suggestion though- Learning Language through literature, Rainbow Science, and teaching textbooks are easy but teach you well and they are mostly do-it yourself, and I hate school but I like those programs. Also- I can be yoru friend if you want... obviously we couldn't become terribly close because well neither of us can really give out information to the other- that wouldn't be safe- but here's my AIM and my email:

AIM- BumpSetSpike459

Email: [e-mail]

That isn't my primary email but I don't want to give my primary out on here so email me and I'll give it to you.

I'm 13 and homeschooled. I'm in 8th grade and next year I'm going to be a tutor. I don't have many friends, being homeschooled and all, and all my life we've moved around so much the few friends I do make I don't get to know much- the only time I ever saw them was for the hour at church.

But don't report them- that could cause problems- and if you did it out of anger it could ruin all of your lives.

Answer 6

well good advice would be go to the nearest public school and tell them whats going on, they would be more then happy to help you out.  and they wouldnt not like you just because you are homeschooled its about the education not who u are.

Answer 7

It is time for a deep breath and some perspective- you are feeling cooped-up and bored. Please do not call some random authorities- please work this out with your parents. Even if you get everything to work out your way, your parents will not be able to trust you any more and you never know what kind of child services will be forever at your door. Tell them exactly what you want, and why. But also ask yourself how you want YOUR kids to treat you when you make decisions for them. I always tried to see my parents' point of view, and now, as my kids are learning at home, I try to put myself in their shoes.

   There is always a compromise- how about sports or one subject at a school, or Scouts or a hobby? My kids are in PA Cyber, and have online classes and will get a diploma, if you are concerned about one.

   There is always a way, and crappy situations don't last forever (even if they seem to drag on). Good luck and keep us posted!

Answer 8

Ahh! :/

that really sucks. I dont know what you could do, unless you just bug them about it everyday to the point where they say yes.

sorry :(

Answer 9

I feel sorry for you.  I don't care for public school because it can be a very bad, negative experience for some, but not ALL children.  Your parents are giving you a generalized bias about public school.  I have a lot of the same biases BUT they only hold true for a FEW cases.  Many, many children go to public school and actually get a good education and have a good experience.  Homeschool is not for everybody, just as public school is not for everybody.  

I don't know your parents problems but I am a working homeschool mother of two and I don't always feel like doing school with them, and I do expect them to do it on their own at times.  It is a part of being independent and growing up to be able to take responsibility for your education.   I bet a lot of your work you could do on your own.  (my girls are 11 and 12 and I know they can do some on their own)  And also  I would consider helping a little sibling part of being a good, caring sister.

I also went to public school, and I sent my older children to public school and that is WHY I homeschool now.   I know that it is not always a good thing and that homeschool can SOMETIMES be better.   Your parents want what is best for you and they are using scare tactics to encourage you to stay on the course they set for you.  

Have you felt this way for a long time or just recently?  Perhaps your parents need you to stay home to help out with your little sibling?   Is your mom working to try to give you a home?  It is a good thing for all family members to work together for the betterment of all.    Please don't move out on this issue.   You need to get a better dialogue going with your parents that is free of ultimatums.   Do you have somebody  you both respect who could help you communicate?   Maybe it is time for a change and that is not a bad thing.  You need to talk this over more so you understand your parents fears and concerns a little better and they can understand what you need also.

Answer 10

well maybe living somewhere Else is best and shame on your mom what a terrible teacher I'm sorry but only your mom can let you go and they don't put you on meds or anything Else like that you are always welcome to return to public schools they just give you a test and see what level your at i agree home schooling can be lonely talk with maybe an aunt or uncle tell them your concerns sounds like your mom has a problem if you need friends join a home school group that can help or join a program like mine we have real kids real teachers all on line check it out at www.k12.com good luck to you my dear i hope it will work out for you we will keep you in our prayers good luck

Answer 11

With all do respect some home schooled children or teens are kinda of different because they have never been on a publisc school. Public school will not make you take meds (unless your health requred it) You do have to have shots (but you still have to according to the drs). If I dont take my sont o get his shots I get in troube for neglicting my child! (That is what I mean of you have to get shots).

It seems your parents have issue with public school and it's not fair that they are literally telling you either you stay here or you gee out. Legally they can't do that.

This is a bad advice but if you really want to go move with a close famile membes

Answer 12

It sounds to me that your parents are giving you ridiculous excuses to keep you from going to public school. Ive went to public school all my life and I got a great education (with a few flaws now and then). The system isn't perfect but you learn alot more things at a public school than a private school. For example at home school you don't really get in touch with world cultures, different genders, and interactions with different "races". This is very important to learn especially if your going to be around a socialized environment every day. The more you are isolated from society, the more it can damage you phsycologically in the future.

Try to work things out with the public school administration if possible and keep on pushing them to make the proper arrangements for you.

If nothing else works, then try to talk to a relative and convince them to take your side. If it comes down more drastically then you should move in with a family member who will definitely see your needs and will be willing to place you in public school.  

(Dont worry public school isnt bad, just make sure to hang around the good crowd and youll be sheltered the rest of your school days.)  

IF YOUR PARENTS CONSIDERED THEMSELVES GOOD PARENTS, THEN THEY WOULD TRUST WHAT YOU WANT AND DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER. IF NOT, THEN THEY JUST WANT WHATS BETTER FOR THEMSELVES, AND NOT GIVING ANY THOUGHTS OF WHAT YOU WANT OR WHAT YOU WILL EVER WANT...

Answer 13

The school will not put you on meds.  You will need to get vaccinations.  Have they not even gotten you kids your vaccines?!  It sounds like your parents are extremely paranoid and/or had ridiculously bad experiences in school.  Is there anybody else you can stay with?  Another close relative?  Call the school and talk to an administrator.  Ask them what you need to do to get enrolled in school, what forms are necessary, what the process is, etc. etc.  Take that information to your parents and see if you can rationally talk with them and explain why you think the public school system would be beneficial to you.

Answer 14

I'm sorry you are going through this, but I have some questions for you.

Why doesn't your mom feel like homeschooling some days is she sick, depressed or just lazy?

Do you have any friends out side of your home?

Do you go to church?

Is there an adult friend that could act as a mediator?

Maybe your parents need to hear someone besides you to talk to them and help them with the situation. Maybe your parents don't really know where to begin. But pestering your parents won't help. You have to find another way.

Answer 15

why dont u try to ask for private school? or ask around for help, try finding a home or people that would take u in and send u o public school, im sure u can find somthing.

Answer 16

When and how do you approach your parents? Perhaps if you approach them reasonably and rationally, rather than when you're really pissed about the issue, they'll listen. Here's an idea: make an "appointment" with them for a "meeting;" a time that you can sit down and focus, without interuption, on each other.

Prepare for the meeting by brainstorming (yourself) about the pluses and minuses of both homeschooling (included the pluses, even though you really want to show why you DON"T want to homeschool anymore...this will show that you DO value what your parents have done for you, but that you've also completely thought through the issue and found some fault in the current setup) and your perception of what public school has to offer.

Remember that your parents are right when it comes to shots, at least here in California. Unless your parents sign a document stating that they refuse to give you shots for religious reasons, you'll have to catch up on all your boosters before they'll let you enroll with the masses.

Most likely, your parents believe they're doing what's best for you given THEIR knowledge of your local public school offerings. They may not be HEARING you.

Here's an opportunity to show how mature you're becoming and take a proactive role in decision making about your future.

Answer 17

i was homeschooled from grade 3 to halfway through grade 8.

my parents never considered letting me go back to school for the longest time and also basically gave me the choice of being homeschooled and living at home or going to school and leaving home.

my advice is...dont move out. youre only 13 and youll likely have way more problems if you leave. you might not be able to be in school anyway since you might have to work, which i assume youre not doing now.

my parents let me go back to school at the end of grade eight. i told them i wanted to be able to adjust before i jumped into high school. as you get older, your parents will probably be more willing to consider your requests as long as you are respectful and polite when you ask. i know its tempting to shout and scream and throw things at them, but try and be calm. your parents have your best interest at heart even though it doesnt always seem that way.

hope everything works out for you. youre in my prayers.

Answer 18

Do you have a phone? Dial 411 and ask for child services.

Answer 19

Wow that's a hard one... Why don't you go talk to the principal of the public school you want to go to and see if he could help you talk to your parents.

Answer 20

Call your state's child protection services and report these jerks for the child abusers they are. You do not have to stay in an abusive situation.