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Question

Hi me and my partner are secretly getting married on December 20th, We plan to tell close family the next day and send out announcement cards to every one else. I have akready made the cards and they are looking beautiful. I am just strggling with the final details. First of all what should be printed on the outside of the card:

"Just to say......"

"Marriage announcement"

"We'd like to let you know....."

etc (dont wanna put "elopement" as the wedding is in my home town)

And what about inside the card:

"Mr So and So and Miss So and so

were joined in marriage

at a secret ceremony on December 20th

2008 at 3.45pm. We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner at The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday 3rd January 2008."

"Mr So and So and Miss So and so

were joined in marriage

at a private ceremony on December 20th

2008 at 3.45pm. We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner at The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday 3rd January 2008."

"Mr So and So and Miss So and so

were secretly joined in marriage on December 20th

2008 at 3.45pm. We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner at The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday 3rd January 2008."

What do you think?

PS: Everytime i post a question asking for help with my wedding people have a nasty habit of judging my plans. I should not have to justify why I dont want my family there, so please try not to say "they'll be so hurt" as you dont know them."

Answer 1

If the marriage is supposed to be a &quot;secret&quot;, then why bothering letting anyone else know about it?

And if you don&#039;t want anyone else there for the ceremony, why would you want anyone else there for the celebration dinner?

Just go with &quot;Marriage announcement&quot;. The second wording is the least offensive of the three you have there.

But if you&#039;re not even letting anyone about the wedding until after it&#039;s already done, then you clearly don&#039;t think much of your family. I wouldn&#039;t expect many guests at the dinner, just to warn you.

Answer 2

Dont say &quot;secret&quot;  Just say the middle one:  Joined in a private ceremony.  For the outside, you dont really need to say anything,

but it could be something like, In a celebration of love...

Miss Jane Regina Smith was wed to Mr. Jonathan Alexander Murphy

on December 20th, year 2008 (dont include time, now irrelevant).

Please join us for a dinner reception at The Oaks, blah blah, (and include time)

You probably need to do RSVPs too.

Answer 3

i agree with the majority, say &quot;private ceremony&quot; on your wedding announcement.  &quot;your attendance is requested for a reception at The Oaks, Norwich on Saturday 3rd January 2008&quot; yada yada yada.

congratulations and i hope it all works out :)

Answer 4

The front could be anything.  Here&#039;s a list of ideas:

- &quot;psst...&quot;

- &quot;You&#039;re invited&quot;

- &quot;Special news&quot;

- &quot;Love is in the air&quot;

- &quot;We just wanted to say&quot;

*Personally, I like the idea of the front saying, &quot;Love is in the air...&quot;

This is a handy site: http://www.everythingaboutweddings.net/w...

Mr Smith and Miss White were joined in marriage at a secret ceremony on December 20, 2008.  The new couple would like to invite you to join them for a celebration dinner.

Place: The Oaks, Norwich

Date: Saturday January 3, 2008

Time:

Please RSVP

If I have to pick one, I&#039;d pick the first one.  I don&#039;t like the wording of &quot;secretly joined in marriage&quot;, I like the idea of a &quot;secret ceremony&quot;.  Although &quot;private ceremony&quot; sounds better, it seems like you had a really &quot;elite&quot; guest list and the people receiving the announcement were excluded.  Just stick with secret ceremony...it sounds really romantic and sweet.

Just ignore the people criticizing your choice.  We all have our own reasons for doing things.  You shouldn&#039;t have to justify your choice to anyone.

Answer 5

How about saying something like this?

We did something naughty and now would like you all to come join us for our party?

Mr Z &amp; Mrs Z got secretly married on ... day and would love for you to come celebrate with us?

You are right, its your wedding and you have the right to decide how you want it to be?

The most important thing is that you and your partner  want it this way.

Have a happy married life.

Answer 6

why should u secretly do this. if u love this person you should not be afraid or embarassed to do this.Or if ur trying to say that u have that family type thatthey jux judge and blah blah blah all the time then i guess it&#039;s okay to do so.Jux have a really good plan 4 what will happen later on. B/c I had a family member who did the same thing.And it didn&#039;t do well.  

Answer 7

I think &quot;private&quot; just sounds better than secret.  Really, though, you don&#039;t even have to put that much in there, just that you were joined on that date and would like to invite them to...  There&#039;s no need to explain why they weren&#039;t invited or provide any justifications.  Congratulations!