PLZ HELP!!!!!! Wedding Announcements!!! No idea what to <span title="doooo?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?">doooo?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!...</span>

Question

Hi me and my partner are secretly getting married on December 20th, We plan to tell close family the next day and send out announcement cards to every one else. I have akready made the cards and they are looking beautiful. I am just strggling with the final details. First of all what should be printed on the outside of the card:

"Just to say......"

"Marriage announcement"

"We'd like to let you know....."

etc (dont wanna put "elopement" as the wedding is in my home town)

And what about inside the card:

"Mr So and So and Miss So and so

were joined in marriage

at a secret ceremony on December 20th

2008 at 3.45pm. We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner at The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday 3rd January 2008."

"Mr So and So and Miss So and so

were joined in marriage

at a private ceremony on December 20th

2008 at 3.45pm. We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner at The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday 3rd January 2008."

"Mr So and So and Miss So and so

were secretly joined in marriage on December 20th

2008 at 3.45pm. We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner at The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday 3rd January 2008."

What do you think?

PS: Everytime i post a question asking for help with my wedding people have a nasty habit of judging my plans. I should not have to justify why I dont want my family there, so please try not to say "they'll be so hurt" as you dont know them."

Answer 1

I agree w/ private

(although when everyone reads it they may be wondering who was at the private ceremony)

Or, you could just leave out secret and private and say, &quot;miss so and so and mr so and so were joined in marriage on.......&quot;.  

Good luck!  : )

ETA:  The answer below mine is an awesome idea!!!

Answer 2

Actually most times a wedding announcement looks just like a wedding invitation.  Usually there&#039;s no &quot;front&quot; to a formal invitation/announcement.  If yours is really informal and you&#039;re using a folded card, then you needn&#039;t use such stiff language on the inside.

I would never use the word &quot;secret&quot; or &quot;secretly&quot; - your ceremony was private.  For an informal invite I&#039;d use:

Miss So and So and Mr. So and So  (always list bride first)

were married in a private ceremony on

December 20, 2008.  (don&#039;t note the time, they don&#039;t care)

We would like to invite you to join us

for a celebration dinner at

The Oaks, Norwich

on Saturday, January 3, 2009 (keep your date formats the same)

Answer 3

My husband and I got married quick without any family (military), but here&#039;s what we put on our reception cards and vowel renewal ceremony

&quot;He slipped the ring on her finger

a promise made for life...

Join us as we share their joy

now that they&#039;re man and waife!

A party to honor the newly married

Blank &amp; Blank Last Name

(this was in a different color and font)

Date

Time

Address

Hosted by  blank

Please RSVP phone number by date

(This was in a smaller font at the very bottom)

Answer 4

Hi.  You have two questions the same.  Here is what I said in my other answer.  Congrats by the way.

I like.....&quot;We&#039;d like to let you know....&quot;

OR.....&quot;We would like you to know&quot;

For the inside, I like your 2nd one, with a few modifications:

~ I would leave out the &quot;Mr.&quot; and &quot;Miss&quot; formality;

~ no need to put in the time that your wedding was;

~ include the TIME of your reception AND the address (no need for the city, state unless this is in a far away city/town.)

Example:

Brian Thomas Johnson

and

Sarah Lynn Taylor

were joined in marriage

during a private ceremony

on December 20, 2008

We would like to invite you

to join us for a celebration dinner

to honor our marriage on

Saturday, the third of January

two thousand and nine

at six o&#039;clock in the evening

The Oaks, Norwich

address

Good luck and I hope this helps to answer your question!

Answer 5

I would use the words &quot;private ceremony&quot; rather than saying anything about &quot;secret&quot; in the announcements.  I think the second one sounds the best.  

Answer 6

I like the 3rd outside option and the 2nd inside option.

Answer 7

The outside could just read..Mr. &amp; Mrs.__________

The inside should read like the second example...about a private ceremony. That style has more taste  than the others.

Best wishes in your future!

Answer 8

I would go with the one that says it was a private ceremony. Don&#039;t make it sound so secret, even if that&#039;s what it is. And, please don&#039;t think I&#039;m judging you on this, just giving advice because I&#039;m sure you have your reasons for doing this. But, you&#039;re family will not be hurt that you got married in secret, they will instead be very angry and it will take a long time to forgive you guys. I only say this out of experience as a close family member of mine had a secret wedding as well and it really hurt his mother and siblings to the point that they were angry. But, you do have your reasons, so do what you will, but go with the private ceremony statement, it sounds best.