!!!POLL!!! Was I wrong (this deals with my child so parents I appreciate your input)?

Question

My daughter was not picked up at school today by her carpool ride and had to wait 45 minutes. This the first time we tried this out with friends of ours and we got theirs and my daughter to school in the morning and they were suppose to pick her up today at 4

This is the e-mail I sent them and now my wife is furious with me and the kick of it all we are moving in a week and will probably never ever see these people again.

" We are not going to be able to do the car pool anymore as Faith was not picked up today and the school was to incompetent to call us to let us know she was waiting in the school lobby for forty five minutes. I am not to sure who was at fault with this whether it was just a simple misunderstanding but it is unacceptable to us and for my child to have to wait at school for a ride.

So for the rest of the school year we will be taking and picking Faith up from school. I understand this was a first time mistake but I am not going to allow it to happen again as this could lead to child neglect charges brought up against us if the school wanted to go forward. "

Thanks to all your inputs

Answer 1

i probably would have called them to see what they said but i do not think there was anything wrong with what you said..and i would not want to take the chance of my kids sitting there either not for the child neglect but just so she did not have to sit there like that so i think your wife should kind of calm down it is no big deal and they should have called you or something at least not just let her sit there

Answer 2

I'd have done the same thing. you're moving anyway, also it depends on how old the child is...under 12 definately would have been pissed. Over...its a lil different. But your email actually doesnt sound mean at all, so i think its fine.

Answer 3

Sounds fine except the part about child neglect charges.

Answer 4

i think you did the right thing. i think your wife should consider herself lucky you didn't knock on their door and tell them in person, which probably would have caused an un-nessecary scene of stupid excuses.

i probably would have done that though, just to let them know how upset i was, and to try an understand why they would have done that.

i am sure their child made it home safely.

everything you said in the email covered it perfectly-you told them the reason without sugarcoating it, and told them of thepossible consequences that might have or would further occur if you allowed them to continue to carpool.

they sound very irresponsible, and you did the right thing. i would only accept this in an emergency, and even then, the parents better call me to let me know, long before 45 min of my child being stranded at school!

Answer 5

i would be a little upset also and voice that i was but i would allow them to explain. Depending on their reasoning maybe give them a second chance but send my daughter with a cell phone to call if it happens again (then i would go off on them)

Answer 6

i understand why your wife would be mad......she didnt want to dissapoint or insult the "carpoolers" but i dont think that your email was insulting, but maybe you could've talked to your wife first...but i wouldnt have let my child go with them any more either...even though im 12 and i dont have a child lol

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Answer 7

I don't think that was wrong i would be very upset if my daughter was left at school. If someone says they are going to pick them up then they need to be there on time to get them. Not make her wait! That is mild compared to what i would have said!

Answer 8

You didn't say anything rude. In fact I would do the same thing if this happened to my daughter. There are creeps out there too, who love it when girls are left alone. They love to watch schools for that kind of thing to happen.

I don't think you did anything wrong at all. They had a responsibility and they didn't follow through with it.

Props to you for saying something. Most people would just sweep it under the rug and hope it doesn't happen again.

I'm sure your wife didn't want to burn bridges or anything..which I don't think this did at all. It just politely made them aware of the situation.  

Answer 9

lol. Sounds good if you are never going to see these people again. Possibly a better way to go may have been to ask first what happened.

Answer 10

No, I don't see anything wrong with it. All you did was just write an e-mail telling them about the situation. I think you did what any parent would do, I mean that would make me very frustrated that they didn't take her home.  At least now, she is back home with mommy and daddy.  

Answer 11

i think you were fair. The email wasnt that harsh or anything.

idk I'm not a parent but i've had to wait at school before because my mom was late and it was awful. i didnt have a cell phone then and i was soooooo worried coz my mom had never been late b4. (she had a flat tire)

you should get ur daughter a phone so she can call you next time that happens!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

It's pretty much what I would have said only I would have left out the part about neglect charges.