POLL for parents !?

Question

Lets say your DAUGHTER or SON is 13-16.

She/he has a baby.

First, what would you do?

Second, would you treat that baby the same as if your son or daughter had him/her when she was married?

Explain.

Thanks alot!

Even if you don't have kids yet, still answer!

Answer 1

Wow - that's a tough one.... there is a HUGE difference between a 13 yo and a 16 yo!!!!!!!!

Depending on the situation - are they still a couple?  do they love eachother?  is he willing to help out?   how do his parent's feel?   (or conversely - her parents?)  

Is adoption an option?  

do the other parents want to help out?  

I would consider adopting the child as my own - esp if my child were only 13 and in this situation.  

I would be there to help out - no matter what - as that is what a parent is to do - and the baby is innocent does not not need to suffer.   The baby would be treated the same --- but I would not accept them (the new parents) living together or continuing to sleep together unless they did marry.    I still have standards that I expect to be met, and if nothing else, they will be met in my house.  

I would be disappointed, hurt and upset....  but life will and does go on --- and I would hope that I would be a good and supportive parent.

Answer 2

first - I would strongly encourage adoption - I think a teen that young has no business with a baby - I'd all but insist.

I would not be so concerned about them being married  - no teen needs to be married either.

I imagine I'd have to be much more involved in caring for the baby if my kid was an unmarried teen. But I'd have to step in a lot if they were married as well -- assuming they were NOT living with me.....

I would think they were much more responsible and mature if they waited to they were older and married to have baby - in that case I would not have to step in as much to care for the baby because they'd be able to do it themselves.

So I'd treat the baby different depending on how old the parent was and how much help they needed. It would be a lot more fun if the parents could take care of their own kid and I could just be grandma!! If the unmarried teen & baby are living in my house I know I'd have to take care of teh baby all the time, and it'd be more like I was a parent then a grandparent.

NO 13-16 YEAR OLD HAS ANY BUSINESS HAVING A BABY - IT RUINS THE TEEN & BABY'S LIFE!!!!

Answer 3

well i don't know what i would do i would have to accept it because i was pregnant with my daughter at 16 and had her when i was 17 i wold love her kid know matter what MARRIED OR NOT

Answer 4

First of all, I would freak out.  Especially if my son were 13 and had a child.  After the initial shock wore over, I'd probably try and figure out how to handle the situation.  I would help them out as much as I could with the baby, let them live with me and help them out financially.  

As far as how would I treat the baby?  Well, that's hard to say.  If I'm providing all or most of the support then probably like my own.  But I would try to respect the boundaries and let the baby's parents do the decision making, just make some suggestions.

That's what I think I would do.  I hope I would do that at least, but I'm not pro teen pregnancy so that might not be how I would react.  Hopefully I'll teach my son well enough to know that you don't have the money or emotional maturity to have a kid at 13 or 14.

Answer 5

My daughter is almost 12 and I thank God everyday that she is a good girl-my husband and I are very blessed with 3 wonderful (most of the time) children.

Your question makes me feel bad for any parent who may be going through this...I know that kids make mistakes but this kind of mistake shows a lack of responsibility.  I would encourage my child to give the child up for adoption-to a couple/family who is longing for a child.  My BIL/SIL have been trying for almost 3 yrs for a child and it is hard and expensive to adopt in the US.  If more young moms would give their child(ren) up for adoption to a loving home there wouldn't be such an issue when it comes to adoption.  I would ask my child to do this so that he/she could still experience childhood, high school, college, etc...Even though there are a lot of young parents out there I feel it would be tough to continue with a normal life when raising a child.  This is just my opinion and the suggestion I would give my son or daughter...I pray I am never in this circumstance.

Answer 6

1.support her/him

2. treat them like a grandson/daugrter,make him/ her get a job and surppot the kid and souport ur child and give guidence

Answer 7

I would be very dissapointed and so would my husband!!

I would have to say I wouldnt help my child because they got themselves into the situation!

Answer 8

Follow the plan outlined in the movie Juno! Duh!

Answer 9

Honestly, I know I am going to get thumbs down for this or some harsh remarks but, because I have all boys, insist upon a paternity test. If I had daughters I would no beyond a reason of a doubt that the child was her's but that's not the case and sorry everyone, but you really don't know who she's been with or how faithful she has been. All it takes is one argument to lead to a need to be comforted to a one night stand. Heck, all it needs is the one night stand. If, after the paternity test proves with out a doubt it's my grandbaby, we go from there.

Answer 10

Simple...If some LITTLE boy got my daughter pregnant...I'd murder him!!

Answer 11

I can't say for sure what I would do. I know that if I had a child who came home and announced a pregnancy, (either daughter or son's girlfriend )I would first encourage them to keep the baby rather than abort or put it up for adoption.

I would either stay home with the baby or hire a sitter/daycare so that that my child could pursue an education, at least finish high school and hopefully college. I would not however watch the baby full time as if it were my own. My child would take responsibility for his/her child in the evening and weekends.

I believe I would love my grandchild no matter what events brought it into the world. Naturally I would prefer that adulthood and marriage came first, simply for my own selfish reasons of not wanting to raise my child's child, But also because I would not want to see my own child have to miss out by growing up so fast.

Answer 12

I would try to help as much as I could. I probably would treat the baby more like it was my own since my child would still be a kid their self.

Answer 13

I would be a litle dissapointed in my child, but work with them on what they want to do as far as the baby goes. If they want to raise it, if they want me to raise it as my kid, or give it up for adoption. I wouldn't allow an abortion. As far as the baby goes, I would always love my grand son/daughter the same no matter the circumstances.

Answer 14

I would always, always help my children thru anything!!  I may not approve of what they have done, but I will never turn away from them!  I don't think that being married or unmarried would really enter into my mind at this point.  But, rather the hardship and fear of her trying to deliver and raise a child at such a young age.  It really does take its toll on a family, and it makes it very hard for her later in life... but I would support her and help her because I love her and want what is best for her.