POSTNATAL DEPRESSION ..LACKING MOTIVATION TO CLEAN FLAT

Question

My flat is chaos ..messy and dirty..i am usually a good house keeper but now because of my depression and because of mother in law who is just waiting for me to clean the flat i feel like leaving it get worse and worse... but i can't take it anymore ... i really want to leave in a clean tidy place but i kind of lack the energy and motivation...i kind of wait for MIL to go back home ( abroad) in 17 days (i keep a mental count down !!!) then i can dress the way i want and put on VERY LOUD music and clean the whole place PROPERLY.

i am still recovering from traumatic childbirth (8 weeks ago), not feeling well but once i cleaned the kitchen properly and after 2 days it was such a mess so i thought i would wait till MIL ( who is used to village life) to leave London and then i can do some CITY cleaning , not village one, if you know what i mean (i am not sure i can manage to communicate properly, because of my depression , i hope so)

pls help motivate me to clean the flat, where can i start from? how?

THANKS IN ADVANCE

Answer 1

have an afternoon nap, get 3 friends round, drink lots of tea and biscuits and give them a mop and bucket/mr muscle/dusters - have one doing the washing etc..

next day, talk to your health visitor and demand (yep, demand) help

MIL will have to help, make dinner for the freezer etc, she'll be off soon enough

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i don't trust doctors either, that's why you have to talk to the health visitor, tryst me, i got to a stage of postnatal depression where i wanted to commit murder, literally, without help it can all go really, really bad. your husband sounds ok, lean on him. cleaning is only one of the woes, join a group for mothers and babies, just to get you doing somthing.

Answer 2

I had post partum depression for a long time, I never knew what was wrong with me. I had two tramatic births, and am now "fixed" to prevent me from getting pregnant again. Are you speaking to a proffesinal? Meds can help you get through this. It wasen't till my youngest was 8months old that I finally was able to seek, help.

Answer 3

why doesnt she help you? surely being a mum herself she knows how dificult the first few weeks are, and you have depression too. Leave the housework. Get hubby to help with the main things...washing up, washing etc and sod the rest, enjoy your new baby, relax and look after yourself, you are number 1 in all htis, your baby needs you fit and well and calm, not stressed, so if shes not willign to help you, then get ehr to go to a hotel or a b and b and get ehr nose out.

when i had my son, my mum and mopther in law at the time, never came round and didnt do soemthing for me, i never expected it or asked, they just did it, because theyd been there and they knew how much it helps!

good luck, and relax, cleaning can wait!