PPD??????????????????

Question

how many of you ladies went through PPD and how did you handle it? (Espeically the feeling lonely part)i am also married happily for 1 yr. and have 2 children 1 girl 2 1/2 and one newborn son born 8.8.08. what can i do to keep my mind busy??......i feel like everything is just diapers and milk breastfeeding and the house ....i cant even keep up with it. my husband is very souportive but hes at work all day...and i dont have much family to be here to help me. id just like to here what someone elese has to say... thanks

Answer 1

I had it horribly, and not only did I have to deal with the domestic life with a stupid husband, but I had to go back to work full-time, which I was still under the terms of the illness, which made suicide seem like a great option.  You just have to remind yourself that this too shall pass... it might seem like it won't, but it will, and you'll be a better person for it.  If you're religious or spiritual, say a little prayer for strength and patience, not only towards the others, but towards yourself.  Your body just went through major trauma, it's still trying to heal in all aspects.  Good luck.

Edit: Also forgot to mention that I took Lexapro, which helped immensely.  If you're not breastfeeding, it's definitely something you might want to look into.

Answer 2

my cousin had it with her baby last year and the way she got over it was with our help. when her husband would come home he would be on baby duty so she could have some time for herself. other days we would go over to take care of him with her. She liked having a routine with the baby, and bonding time.

Answer 3

First thing is pray and second try to make the 2.5 yr old feel more like a big girl. If you are babying the two of the PPD can set in and real fast because you feel like you have 2 babies and not a toddler and a baby. Help the girl do big girl things and congratulate her with toys, goodies and clap when she does things on her own, but don't forget to tell he how much of a big girl she is. If you get her settled down it will be much easier to clean and deal with new baby. Ask your husband for a neck rub or bubble bath after the kids are asleep and talk to him about how you feel

Answer 4

Oh, my friend, you are NOT alone! Just remember that!!! I went thru that w/ my 2nd child and it was awful! My husband thought I was crazy and would yell at me and was not sensitive at all to my feelings! I finally went to the doc and burst out in tears and said, "I feel like I hate my baby and I know that's not right!!!" Her eyes got HUGE and diagnosed me right away w/ PPD. She gave me a prescription of anti-depressents, which I only took temporarily and I felt sooo much better! My doc called my husband and explained what was going on and he was MUCH more empathetic to my needs and feelings!

Please, please, please seek help from your doc!!! It's not an uncommon thing, so you need to get help while you can! The thoughts that go thru your head are horrible and you know in your heart that you shouldn't feel the way you're feeling! It's a constant back & forth struggle between your head and heart and it's tough! I know! I also had a new marriage and the responsibility of having to care for 2 children was very overwhelming and it sends you on the downward spiral of darkness and lonliness.

If you don't have family in the area that can visit you and keep you company or help out w/ the kids, then pick up the phone and call someone! Just talking to another human being (adult-wise) is great therapy! I'm sure you doc or ob/gyn can point you in the direction of some support groups of women who are battling PPD and it'd be a great way to make new friends!

When I was diagnosed, my husband called up his sister to babysit for the day and we went to the beach and rode on all the rides on the boardwalk. It was like we were kids again and it was a great way to clear my head and start over! Try to find a babysitter so you and your husband can do something similar. It'll bring a smile to your face and once you crack that 1st genuine smile, the battle is 1/2 won! Good luck!!!  

Answer 5

yes with all three babies i had it. its debilitating and the only way i coped was to not stay cooped up in the house but to get out and about. Oh and anti depressants helped a bit too. best of luck xx

Answer 6

Sounds like you have the baby blues, which is a lesser version of ppd. Make sure you are taking your vitamins, and get out of the house a bit. Go with the kids and get some vitamin d (sunshine) and then go out by yourself, with the baby who is nursing, and take a break. That's part of the hard part of staying at home..It can get to you a bit..You really need a break.