PREGNANT AT 13 PLZ HELP ME!!?

Question

i'm a straight A student.

never get in trouble

mom and step dad are strict about boys plz plz help im scared and i'm still young.dont make any mean comments.

yes i know for sure i took the test 5 times!!

i have been pregnant for 2 weeks and a half.

tell me what to do plz!!

Answer 1

you need to talk to your mum or some other trusting adult maybe your teacher if she is a woman.you need someones help who is the father can he not help you i hope you get it sorted  

Answer 2

Those straight A's are going to become D's real soon...

Tell your parents and wait for the charge against the father, unprotected s*x is stupid but at 13 it is S T U P I D ! ! !

Answer 3

It is not my place to judge you, nor anybody else here so please ignore the meanies telling you you're stupid and too young etc. Those comments are quite frankly not helpful.

Your parents will have to find out at some point, but right now the most important thing is to see your doctor, or go to the family planning clinic to discuss your options. 

Please don't put it off or try to ignore it. I promise you the sooner you take action and come to a decision the better.

Good luck x you WILL be ok whatever the outcome.

Edit: OH MY GOD YOU LITTLE LIAR!!! Some people will do anything for attention. 'Straight A student' but not intelligent enough to hide your previous questions and answers are you??!! HOW DARE YOU!! You are an insult to people with real problems.

Answer 4

i just read the answer you gave to the other question like this from another little girl who thinks she is pregnant. grow up! you cant accuse guys of drugging you or forcing you when they didn't and if you are pregnant no amount of crying will help you deal with a baby. i had my son young and took responsibility for my actions - it worked out fine and my partner did not get arrested!!!!

tell your parents and go to a family planning clinic to discuss your options carefully.  

Answer 5

Hii, If you want to keep it tell your parents, yes they will be angry but they will have to learn to deal with it.

If you do not want to keep the baby and you are not agaisnt abortions, then contact your doctor because they cannot tell your parents because it is confidenial, and if your still scared they will go to a different doctor.

And you should properly tell the father aswell, thats if  your going to keep it, I know your scared I would be to but it will be ok in the end.

And just incase you were wondering I suggest an abortion because your so young the baby would change your life

xxxx

Answer 6

Hmmmmm Very interesting.  11 minutes ago you answered a question by a 12 yr old that claimed to be pregnant and yet you didn't say anything about your pregnancy.  YOu also told her to tell her mom that she was forced into s*x or that she was drugged.

What is wrong with you?

Answer 7

first Juno now this. do you American girls not tell you parents anything... TELL YOUR PARENTS. and if you are gonna do 'IT' again, use ******* protection.

whats a kid your age doing having s*x in the first place? when i was your age i was too busy studying and playing to do that.

EDIT: if her mum had an abortion with her she wouldn't feel anything. i hate abortion prefer adoption but in some cases that isn't possible. pregnancy a labour could KILL a girl her age.

EDIT EDIT: is this question a lie? if not listen and tell your parents now, if it is then there's something seriously wrong with you.

Answer 8

Aw hun, I know you're really scared right now, but you really have to tell your mother at least. Granted she'll be mad & shocked with you, but she's your mum & she loves you. She'll tell your dad, it'll sound better coming from your mum.

You have 3 options open to you:

1) Continue with your pregnancy & keep your baby.

2) Terminate your pregnancy.

3) Continue with your pregnancy & place your baby for adoption.

What ever you decide to do though hun, you will need your mum around for support & your mum & dad need to know.

If you feel you can't tell your mum at this time, then do you have a close relative living close by, your Grand Mother or an aunt perhaps or an older female cousin, or even one of your mum's close friends ? Perhaps you could go speak to them & they could accompany you & help you tell your mum.



Good Luck.X :-)

Answer 9

seriously hunny why are you even having s*x at 13. I mean I am 19 i had my daughter when i was 18 but at least i was already out of high school and that was still too young. you haven't even experienced anything yet. I know it may be scary but you have to tell your parents. Granted they will probably be Very disappointed in you...trust me when i say that they can only be mad for so long...but you need to let them know.  

Answer 10

You have to tell them. It's the best thing you can do, for both you and this baby.

If you want to get it aborted, then the earlier the better, and you can just forget about it. if you want to have it, then you've got to make it clear to your mom. what if the baby, in the future, asked about what happened when you were pregnant and you said that you hid it from your parents for months?

Answer 11

Even though things seem hopeless, you really do have a lot of options.  First, you need to forgive yourself for making this mistake and vow not to do it again.  You can't change what has already happened, but you can come to terms with it.  You will feel better, and it will be better for your little son or daughter.  Please tell your parents.  Although they will most likely be shocked and maybe hurt by your lack of judgment, they will come around and help you through this.  If you are not interested in raising a child, please know that there are thousands of families who would love to give your child a good home.  You will feel sad to give your child up, but you will know that you are giving he or she the best life you can give them.  And please choose to give this child a life.  Your baby didn't choose to be conceived in a tricky situation.  Make it right by giving your child a happy, healthy life after it is born.  I will be praying for you.    

Answer 12

You know what, that's not even funny. My sister is 13 I would go nuts if she came to me and said she was pregnant. Why are you even having s*x at 13. I don't get it!!??

Let me tell you Pregnancy is not all the fun. So you brought yourself into a lot of aches and pains, that you may or not be able to handle. I can't even handle it sometimes.

You need to tell them, or just leave the positive test out in the open for your mom to see, with a note that says you so sorry and don't know what to do.

In most states you cant get an abortion or see a doctor without parental consent. I know where I live is like that.

34 weeks pregnant, 21 years old.

Miscarried at 17 (with the man I married).

SOME PEOPLE are giving REALLY bad advice, and seeing they are 14 yrs old, they should not be giving advice.

I don't think anything I said was wrong.  You need to tell your parents, and I don't know what fantasy world some people live in but where is this magic pill that you can take within 70 days? All I heard of Is the morning after pill. And its way to late for that.

Still Need to tell your parents, do you really want to live with whatever choice you make in silence?

That can cause serious mental health problems in the future. Trust and believe me I know!

Answer 13

you're an idiot.

seriously, who comes up with a question like this? what's the point in it? on one of your answers you told a girl that was pregnant at 12 that she was out of her mind having s*x at that age and that she should lie to her parents and say she was forced into it. wtf is your problem? there are actual girls that are your age that really are pregnant and need help.

get a life.  

Answer 14

As scary as it is for you, you have to talk to your parents and tell them. They are not going to be happy, but then you know this.

Once the dust settles, they'll come up with a solution for you which will be in your best interest.

I doubt you'll make the same mistake twice, you seem quite upset and scared. Talk to your mum now.

Best wishes to you hun. xo

Answer 15

Yeah, right. I also read the answer you gave to another girl claiming to be pregnant at 13  (or was it 12 1/2?) Don't you have anything better to do then to make up tall tails on Answers?

Answer 16

tomorrow is monday. before school starts go to the school counselor and tell her. she will work with you every step of the way. dont tell many friends.......as when the word gets out everyone will know and so Will their parents..and they will call yours. u will tell them when the time is right. but talk to the school counselor first.

God............ i feel so bad. my daughter is 13 and to think it could be her............. very sad dear. i had a child at 21 and i felt to young and never had extra money and i was working. the best thing is abortion or adoption. dont hurt your chances for a future by keeping. many ppl want to adopt a baby. you an even help pick the home. research open adoptions..... they r nice.

please understand you cant keep it. your life will be better if you dont.

im sorry and please dont have s*x again.

Answer 17

kind of the same thing happened to me. except i was 17. If you go to planned parenthood they can help you and discuss your options for yourself and the baby. no, i'm not telling you to abort. But, they will cover EVERY option. Good luck.  

Answer 18

**** all those people okay.

I'm 14, and practically married to my boyfriend.

So what you do, if you have a boyfriend still have him help you.

You don't have to tell your parents.

They're pills, that you can have 70 days from your unprotected s*x so if it hasn't been longer then 70 days your okay.

There kinda expensive but not as much as having a baby.

Just get those pills, and calm down.

Answer 19

You need to talk to your parents. I don't know how you could possibly get through this without them. You made a big mistake by having unprotected s*x. We all make mistakes, so I will not judge you. And you know what, your parents may be a little upset or disappointed with you at first, but I am sure they love you very much. And they will support you through this. Strangers can't help you decide what is best for you. Someone who loves you can. If you are scared to tell your parents, you should tell another family member, or a very close family friend who can help you tell your parents. And understand that if your parents are strict about boys, this is one of the reasons why. You are too young to be a mom, but this situation will surely make you grow up a little faster. Good luck!!!

Answer 20

hey there,

first off .. everyone else.. where do you get off telling this person that its best to have an abortion...

you obviously havent been through this before!! mean comments are uncalled for... non of you are all perfect!!! we all make mistakes!

the first thing that you need to do lovey is tell someone.. leaving it won't help its not going to go away..

yeah i am sure that possibly your parents will freak out but hopefully they will support you in what ever descion you should chose to make.

having a baby is a huge thing i had one at 16. she was born just before i was 17 and do you know what it was the hardest thing i ever did.. but well worth it...i was lucky i had a good support network around me and my partner has stuck by me...

only you can decided what to do..at the end of the day you are the one that is going to have to live with the consequences of your actions..

the sooner you tell someone the better hun good luck i wish you all the best x

Answer 21

Ignoring the taunting such as "You're in heaps of trouble now" would be a good idea.

Another good idea would be to tell your parents and the man/boy who impregnated you. Though I hold that the pregnancy is primarily your responsibility, assuming the s*x you engaged in was consensual, as you should be aware of the possible consequences due to engaging in such an activity that does not remove the responsibility of those around you to aid you and the one who impregnated you to help you.

Hopefully your family and friends would be supportive of you but do expect a general backlash from those who already do not like you. Such people will use any excuse to justify their feelings of contempt.

You are then left with two choices:

1). Have the child and either raise it.

OR

2). If you do not wish to have a child then abortion would be a suitable option or if you have objections to abortions you could have he child and then put it up for adoption.

I recommend number two but it is completely up to you.

A word of warning (as if the rest of this was not): Expect people around you to wish to take charge due to your age. You will have to "be strong" as the saying goes. Good luck.

-EDIT-

Ah, it seems you are an attention w***e and are lying. If such is true, then please follow my new instructions:

1. Choose my answer as the best so I can have 10 points.

2. Log off of Yahoo! Answers

3. Run a nice, deep, hot, bubbly, bath. (excessive commas were intended for effect)

4. Strip down and climb in the bath making sure you have a razor blade within reach.

5. Relax.

6. Relax even more.

7. Pick up the razor blade and cut your femoral artery. (The femoral artery is located on the inner side of your thighs. It has a really strong pulse and is easy to find for any person who gets "straight A"s.)

8. Now allow yourself to relax even more as you bleed to death.

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11. PROFIT

Note, you may avoid the posting pictures on the internet IF you do not have a laptop due to the fact that you can only bleed for so long before you die but other than that, none of my instrustions are optional. You MUST follow them IF you are trolling or if you lied about the "straight A"s. No exceptions.

Answer 22

Tell your parents. Its the best thing you can do at this point. Make an appointment with a DR to comfirm the pregnancy. Then from there you are going to have to go over your options. Keep adoption in mind. I think 13 is a little young to be raising a child.

Answer 23

Gees these people are mean :/

Just calm down and tell them. They'll shout and scream but they'll calm down soon anyway! :)

At your age you can't do anything without your parents being there with you.  

Answer 24

I tell you what I would tell my child if they were 13 and pregnant- two things=get an abortion right away with or without your parents consent and NEVER have s*x again unless you WANT to make a baby. Turn yourself around because otherwise you are just a dysfunctional statistic. In my practice I NEVER see success stories from babies who are hhaving  babies and keeping them (or giving them up for adoption). That is a big mistake, save your life.

Answer 25

Well, I'll just copy and paste the answer you yourself  gave to a girl who was 12 and 1/2 and preganat shall I?

(Quote)...I'm sorry but ho do u have s*x at 12 and a half or 13!!?!?!?

second, do not, i repeat DO NOT, get an abortion it's horrible, what if u were never born! Tell your mom they boy forced you to do it or tell her you felt drugged.or just tell her it was a big mistake and start crying and say i love you mommy, do u hate me?

and definitely put it to adoption but still visit the baby so it knows you care! Go to one of those pregnancy psychologist and your mom should know what to do for the rest once you tell her..... (End Quote)

Sound familiar??

For the suckers who believe this c**p, this Quote is is the askers own words, NOT MINE!

Edit; Some of you people are so stupid! You're a bunch of suckers!! This question is bull. Before you give a thumbs down READ what answerers are saying and why they are being rude. This girl is making up c**p! To the 6 or so people who are smart and realize this chick is full of it. Well done, keep up the good work.

Sheesh!!

Answer 26

i  think the first thing you need to do hun is to speak to somebody about it, whether its your mom or a nurse, the longer you leave it the less options you could have....please tell your mother though, you may be suprised at how supportive she will be and once you have that support you will be able to see things more clearly..good luck hunny x

Answer 27

Tell your parents. Please.

They will do everything they can to help and support you, I'm sure. Even though they will be angry with you, which is unavoidable.

Just remember that they love you and will not judge you.

Next, decide what you are going to do.

Keep the baby (Think about it, this is the REST OF YOUR LIFE)

Get an abortion (A very difficult decision to make)

Give it up for adoption (This could be the easiest option - but remember the child may want to discover their true parentage and go looking for you - be prepared for this)

No one can make this decision for you - only YOU can make it.

This isn't going to be easy - but you did a very foolish thing and you must live with the consequences. I'm not judging you, we all make mistakes but PLEASE be careful next time!

I'm sorry this wasn't much help, but it's the only advice I can give you.

REMEMBER TO TELL YOUR PARENTS! Or, at least a trusted adult or teacher.

You are too young to handle this on your own, you must confide in someone.

Good luck

EDIT: Wow, I just read your previous answer to a girl claiming to be pregnant at 12. Right little attention seeker, you are, eh?

Answer 28

i got pregnant with my first when i was 15 yea not as bad as 13 but still sucks to tell your parents although i lived on my own so i guess its a little different scenario neway just tell them..your gonna have to anyway and then you can discuss your options and wants and then you can either have an abortion..or have the baby with or without there support...or give it up for adoption to a family who is ready and needy for a child...don't be selfish if you were ready to have s*x you should have been ready to make this decision..this is a life your dealing with..a real live person...you cant be scared of your parents now i think you already passed the point of no return hunny

Answer 29

tell your parents the truth of what happened dont say some guy raped me or anything just straight out tell them i had unprotected consentual s*x and i got pregnant. they will be mad but will also help and support you in whatever decision you make. having a kid at 13 will be tough but that is up to you. if you abort you will have to deal with all the emotional trauma and the what ifs. or you could have the baby and give it up for adoption. talk with your mother and dr about your options but you need to decided SOON cuz at 6 wks your baby already has a ehart beat a brain. tell your parents SOON so you can get this out of the ay andmake the decision

Answer 30

wow, i am just so shock. Is the father willing to benefit for your baby?Please,please please tell your mum and dad, i know its scary but you do need to tell them.

One thing to make sure is that YOU DO NOT GET AN ABORTION. I know, I'm not in charge of you but if your mum was thinking to have an abortion (you) how would you feel? Gutted, sad, and you will regret it.

When you've told your parents, tell them that you understand if they don't accept the baby and introduce them to the father.

For the father, if he does not believe you go to the doctor with him and let the doctor explain everything how you got pregnant. If he does not want to help i any other way, that's your choice whether you want your baby to see him when they grow up.When your baby grows up tell him/her the truth, if they ask.

Please tell your parents, if they love you, i'm sure they would like to help you, after all it is their grandchild.

Good luck, PurpleSlayer

xx :)

Answer 31

your 6 and a half weeks pregnant not 2 and a half, there is nothing more to say really, you have to tell your parents! and go from there, you shouldn't have had s*x in the beginning and now are paying the price for it really. if you act like an adult then you have to face the responsibility's of an adult.  

that if your childhood and teenage life pretty much taken over now by a child and your life is 2nd to the baby's now. get ready for some big changes to happen.