PREGNANT and dont know what to do...?

Question

I'm 7 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend doesn't want it and wants me to get an abortion but I'm against abortions and don't want to kill my baby.

he keep asking me to think about it but iv made up my mind and i don't want to lose him...what can i do?

Answer 1

Stick to your beliefs and do not get the abortion.  You will spend the rest of your life a mess if you do.  Apparently, your boyfriend isn't up for the responsibility, so you have to be the adult and do what is best for you and that baby, not what is best for your boyfriend.  Good luck, dear.  

Answer 2

Never do anything just because someone else tells you to believe me i should no .  Its your body . Its your baby. Do you want it? Im sure once the baby is here he will change his mind dont do it for him please u will regret it for the rest of your life. He will come round in the end if he doesn't he doesn't need to see the baby but im sure he will change his mind in the end but then will it be to late? if you've made ur decision please stick to it and enjoy your baby

Answer 3

If you give into his demand you will regret it every day. If he can't stand by your decision then go to your GP and see what support groups are in your area and tell a close relative as you need to tell someone.

Be assertive with your boyfriend and if he doesn't want to know, his lose.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

Do what you think is best for you. If he doesn't want it, then that's his problem.  There are millions of single mothers in this world that make it work on their own.

Answer 5

I would sit down and talk with him.

And tell him that its your decision because the baby

is in your stomache. But i suppose you could add in that

if he decides to leave you then he will have to come and visit his

own daughter or son because you dont want to be an only mother and have to tell your child that your father left before you were born

because he decided he didnt want you anymore.

Just chat with him about it and dont hold ANYTHING in.

tell him everything and anything.

Answer 6

Keep your baby that would be the right thing to do if your boyfriend runs than he will be the one missing out and you will definitely be the better person your child should always come before ANYONE else even if he or she is still in the womb!  Good luck to you!

Answer 7

You keep your baby- let him go and enjoy all the blessings that baby will give you. He will be the one missing out and won't even realize it. My oldest daughters father did that too now that she is four and I am remarried and my husband has adopted her he now realizes all that he missed out on and can't say a word about it. You will find a man one day who will love you (and respect your decisions) and will also love your child. Believe me- it happens.  

Answer 8

If you are already against abortion, don't let him talk you into it. You will never be able to live with yourself if you do. Men sometimes don't feel the connection to a baby until much later, sometimes even after the baby is born but there is still a good chance he will warm up to the idea later on. If he leaves you over this then he isn't worth killing your baby over. If you want him more than the baby, but still don't want an abortion, consider adoption. Other than that surround yourself with positive people and don't let him get you down. Everything will be fine.

Answer 9

It is YOUR body.  The reason abortions are legal are because the government believes all women have a RIGHT on whether or not to carry a child.  It is YOUR decision.  Don't listen to him, don't murder your child because your bf is freaking out.  If he doesn't want children, he shouldn't have s*x.  If he's not ready, he needs to keep it in his pants b/c that's the only surefire way of not having kids.

You accept the risk when you have s*x. Birth control is only a preventative measure, not a failsafe against parenthood.  And I honestly believe too many people in this country use abortion as birth control.  It is not the last resort birth control, it is the end of a life and people need to take it more seriously.

If he doesn't want to be in the child's life, he can pay child support.  That's his choice.  If he didn't want to have to make that choice, he should have exercised self control.

Answer 10

Don't take this the wrong way hun, but if he is pushing it so much, I'm not so sure I'd stick around much longer, if at all. Any man that tries to push you to do something you don't want to has control issues, and that is not good for you. If you want the baby, then have it - because when it comes right down to it, that is YOUR choice, not his. Consider this - if he is pushing something this serious now, what is your life going to be like later? Personally, I am appalled that he wants you to do something so serious. I urge you to seriously think this through before you make any rash decisions.

Answer 11

You have to follow your true instincts on this, and if you want to keep the baby then that is what you should do.  

However, it is not easy on your own bringing up a child.  If you keep the baby and loose the father then you must not blame your child for this choice, if you decide on an abortion and keep the man, he may well leave you anyway in the future.

I am a strong believer that if he really cares for or loves you he will want to stay whatever your decision.

So you need to make your decision on the premise of how you feel about having a baby/child which will change your life and you will have for the rest of your life, and being with this particular man.

Remember you need to do what is best for you, and your future, and if you decide to keep the baby you will need support, which you need to start getting now, especially if the father will not be around.

Answer 12

DITCH THE BOYFRIEND.. IM 6MONTHS PREGNANT GOT PREGNANT AT 14 IM 15 NOW MY BABY DADDDY IS 19 N DONT CARE HE HAS A KID AND IS DENYING IT AND ******* AROUND WITH OTHER YOUNG GIRLS... HE TOLD ME TO GET AN ABORTION.. ITS JUST NOT A GOOD IDEA TO KEEP HIM AROUND OBVISULY HE AIN MAN ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF A KID s***w ALL DEAD BEATS...

Answer 13

Well since you have your mind set on keeping it.. you just have to hope that he turns around, and becomes a good father. and if not.. well thats too bad, but at least you have a wonderful miracle. Where as if you got an abortion and then broke up with him down the road.. it would have been pointless, boyfriends don't last forever..but children do! Good luck!! :)

Answer 14

It's not his decision.

He can say he wants you to get an abortion all he wants but in the end he obviously doesn't have respect for you because you don't want it and he keeps pushing you for one.

You should tell him to keep his d i c k in his pants if he doesn't want what could happen if he doesn't.

Tell him to man up and take responsibility for what he helped create!

Answer 15

tell him sweetly "ok honey I'll have an abortion, give me the money and il go do it"  then when he hands over the money GO SHOPPING!

What a b*****d! i'm sorry but he obviously doesn't love you if he wants to push you into an abortion,he should respect your feelings AND the baby.

ENJOY YOUR PREGNANCY!! XX

Answer 16

tell him that you love him and you dont want to lose him despite the fact that you want to keep the baby. explain to him that having an abortion mean killing a life and that you are against it. tell him that you are sorry that this happen but it did, and you both are going to have to deal with it because its the responsible thing to do. or you guys can look at adoption. have the baby and give it to a couple that really wants it.  some hospital let you give them the baby no questions asked.

Answer 17

Your body- your decision- end of story.

You have to decide- is raising a baby alone more important than your relationship?  If he didn't want a baby- he should have insisted on you guys using protection.

If you do not believe in abortion, your only options are adoption or raise it as a single mom.  

Either way- do what you are comfortable with and what will make you happy.  

Answer 18

Explain to him, that it is your choice and while you apreciate his opinion it really holds no value. It is your choice and no matter what you chose he has to accept it.  

Answer 19

do what you feel is right obviously you want to keep it and If he dosent want it then maybe he should keep it in his pants sounds like you need to pick between your baby or your boyfriend and if the baby means that much to you tell him see ya  

Answer 20

You don't say how old you are so I suppose you are quite young. There are several things that you should do and first of all, it to talk to your parents about it and make your wishes known to them.

Second you need to contact a crisis pregnancy center in your area; there are quite a group of them that are owned and operated by the churches, I know the Baptists have several of them around the country.

Third, find a good doctor to help you through your pregnancy, if you are real young, you will no doubt need some special care and help.

Both your parents and a good pregnancy center can help you with many things you will need to deal with during your pregnancy.

Please don't let anyone talk you into an abortion as if you do you will regret it te rest of your life. I know because through the years, I have had to counsel many women that took that avenue and ended up with all kinds of  regrets and psychological problems.

No matter which way you wold go, you will live with your decision the rest of your life, so stick by the choice you have made.

I do wish you well, and I will remember to pray for you, that all goes well and that you can deliver a beautiful, healthy and happy baby that even if you decide to give it up for adoption, in years to come you will have joy in your heart because you did the right thing and gave life to an innocent person.

With love,

Answer 21

    Well, first, Congrats on the baby!!!!!!. As for your boyfriend, he knew the consequences of having unprotected s*x. If he doesnt want to take responsibility, then he has confirmed what kind of man he is. do you want your kid around that? you and your body come first ALWAYS!! Do what YOU think is best. If you have a good relationship with your mom or dad or both, you should look to them for support. I think you can do  this!!!! be strong lady!!!

Answer 22

I'm glad you don't want to kill your child. Think of other options like adoption, foster care, open adoption or keeping your child yourself. Maybe family members will help you raise your child. Don't let yourself be pressured into an abortion, you cannot change your mind later.

Answer 23

Let it live. s***w that guy! he's awfully mean. You should take care of it. It also needs lives. God made it so more people can experience the joy of world! You can be a fighter i believe in you:) ♥ good luck!!!

Answer 24

im gunna twist things up a bit. im gunna ask YOU a question...

if ur man cares for you and is man enough to have s*x with you and get u pregnant, but then wants you to kill a precious miracle that the two of u created together, why would you think for even a second that u dont want to lose him? if hes gunna be a lil kid and ask u to get an abortion, he was never right for you. he obviously doesnt give a $h!t about u if hes askin u to do that. now think to urself, who is more important to u? ur baby who just asks for a chance at life? or someone who cares nothing for u enough to ask you to "get rid of" your baby? its all you now..

Answer 25

speak to someone else - maybe your parents or a best friend you know you can trust - how old are you?

Don't let him make the decision for you but you havn't given many details here for anyone to advise you on whats best\right\wrong given the lack of details people will just post that they are against abortions or not

Answer 26

Keep it.  That is what you want that is what you do.  Men come and go but children are with you for the long haul.  Trust me.  It might be best that you lose him.  A real man would back you up.

I had a loser, now I have a real man....no real man would react the way he is.  What a whiney little *****.

Answer 27

Tell him that if he really loves you, he would respect your decision not to kill the baby. Tell him that the baby is a representation of your guyes loves for each other.

Answer 28

My boyfriend (now fiancee) suggested it to me when we first found out. We both cried so much because we knew we weren't ready. It is absolutely amazing how much we both matured as my pregnancy progressed. He is working hard now and got us a little cozy apartment, talks to his son every day and can't wait to meet him. and we love each other very much. I could not ask for a better man ^_^ Maybe yours is just really scared, as mine was as well. Or really young? We are 20 and im still prego. But if he is really pushing it, I would tell him to stop pushing the subject, and u are going to keep the baby no matter what he says anywayz. It's either he steps up and takes responsibility, or pays child support.

Good luck!!

Answer 29

  you will regret it until your dying day if you abort the baby, it is still early days for your guy ,an unexpected wammy for him , give him time to ajust. he must be o.k if you love him tell your family , they love you ?give them time too. there is a saying a baby brings its own welcome look after your self . let us all know of the happy arrival in march.xxxx  

Answer 30

i was in the same situation!

tell him your keeping it.. the happiness you'l get when your babys boy is nothin that any lad can do!

when you have had your baby he will probably come running back (thats what my boyfriend did, he wanted to be a dad in the end)

you have got your family and friends and through the pregnancy you wont want a lad in the way of your moods and cravings! haha

good luck, you will be fine

xx

Answer 31

Your boyfriend isn't worth c**p if he won't stand by you and the baby you two created together. You didn't get pregnant by yourself!!!!

STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF!!!!! If you want to keep the baby, by all means keep it! If you end up getting rid of it for your boyfriend, chances are you two won't make it long term anyway and then you will be stuck with the decision you made for the rest of your life and you will regret it the rest of your life.

These are decisions not to take lightly. Good luck to you.