Pain then heavy bleeding after s*x (gave birth just under 3 months ago)?

Question

My friend had a baby almost three months ago and she's just texted me saying that she was having s*x and it started to hurt so she stopped and then started bleeding a lot and it lasted a while. She said it's pretty much stopped now but I'm curious as to what that might be and if it sounds like something related to the fact that she had a baby recently or if it might be something completely separate. We're both very "wait-it-out" types and she's planning on waiting a couple days to see if she feels any worse. My main concern, though, is that she's anemic and she's been really tired. I feel like she probably just had s*x too early, but I just want to double check other people's opinions as to what it could be.

Answer 1

I would wonder how much "a lot" is.  I am assuming since she did not go to the doctor or hospital - that it really wasn't a lot or she would be having near death experiences.  My definition of a lot is probably very different.

She could always call the doc... not have to go in but just see what the nurse says over the phone.

Was it time for her period?  Sometimes having s*x gets mine started a little bit early.  That would be my bet.  I don't think 3 months ago of giving birth is relevant really.  Most women are completely healed in 6 weeks.

Answer 2

I have 3 children and all 3 of mine I had to wait 6 weeks after I had my baby and then went back to see my doctor and she gave me the okay to have s*x again, she should call her doctor. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Some women experience very heavy bleeding for over

two weeks after birthing while others have no discharge at all

after this time. I have even heard of one who bled heavily for over a month.  I know from experience that it has to do with the amount of rest the new mother has - and not with s*x.

Painful s*x can be attributed not just to physical trauma such as tears and episiotomies. Rapidly declining levels of oestrogen and progestrone after birth causes the vaginal and v***a areas to become more acidic, there is a decrease in

lubrication, the tissues thin and become sensitive. The loss of lubrication makes the vaginal and v***a areas more prone to irritation and pain before birth. Irritation can be from things such as soap, santiary pads, tampons and condoms.

As far as havng s*x too early, everyone’s experiences make them an expert in their own right - so what is right for one couple may not be appropriate for another. Most couples wait for the magical 6 week mark  and are dreadfully disappointed when that incredible pre birth s*x doesn’t happen.  The physical facts are that within six weeks of birthing, your uterus should be back to its pre-pregnancy weight and size. Breastfeeding assists in stimulating the hormones released around this function.   This is the reason that you are meant to have a six week check up and then are medically are ‘fit’ to commence intimate relations.  Ignored and unaddressed are the emotional and psychological changes that have occurred.

I have had 2 children, birthing them naturally. With the first one, I was so devastated, shocked and horrified at my experience and unprepared for the hormonal and bodily changes, that I was really uninterested for months afterwards - even though I did have s*x at  that 6 week mark - to please my husband. However, with the birth of my daughter, I was in a much better space, prepared and ready and was ready to go within a week. It all depends I guess, on your birth experience and the damage ( physically and mentally) that you have endured and the meanings you place upon those experiences in relation to  s*x. My advice for you and for your friend is to keep an open and honest communication link with the partner and take things slowly – with little pressure – and connect again with yourself as a sensual being, before attempting to intiate s*x agian.