Paranoid about all my friendships. Need some help.

Question

Im 15 and every girl at my school cant help but be nasty. Someone always has a problem with someone and its in my ear all the time, even if it has nothing to do with me. People around me are always in arguments and so many people i thought where my friends have gotten angry at me for stupid reasons or have broken my trust. Most of the time its other girls fighting but when people turn on me it hits hard. Now i've become paranoid. I think all my friends are talking about me, or are annoyed at me even though i know i havent done anything wrong. I've switched groups 3 times this year and all this parnoia has begun to affect my friendships. I've spoken to my friends about this and i know sometimes i have nothing to worry about but it just lingers there. Everyone has told me including my mum has told me just to forget about it. But i cant.

Please i need some help.

Answer 1

They more than likely don't like you because you are prettier than them. More often than not this happens when a cute guy likes you instead of them so they all want to put you down (jealousy, it happens). Even if you don't think that is the case, you need to realize you look in the mirror at yourself everyday so you are used to how you look!

Finally, who cares what other people say about you? It's not your problem. Actually, you should feel better about yourself knowing you have such a celebrity status (celebrities get gossiped about left and right!). If i was you, I would just focus on school and laugh off what other people are saying! Honestly!

Answer 2

Talk to your friends about it again. Or go out and do things with other friends, everyone has tons of friends.. so why dont you spend time with your 'other' ones instead. Thats all you can really do, if you find out they are calling you and talkin about you then tell themm where to go coz you can gett better friends than them. good luck XD

Answer 3

If this is a severe type of paranoia and its really affecting every aspect of your life, talk to your parents or siblings, or even trusted teachers.

But your probably just thinking about things too much. only have friendships with people who you trust and make sure that they trust you.  

Answer 4

You remind me of my ex. I loved her for being crazy though, it was something we shared.

The best way to get past all this is to not let yourself go so easily. If you fear people's trust hold more of what you value inside you. Your friends are just friends and if they're talking about you behind your back then don't let it get you down. They don't mean anything if all they are are a bunch of backstabbing kids. Hold yourself in a high regard. If things get really bad with them at school, please stay strong and get away from them as best you can. Isolation can sometimes be the best salvation. But most often it isn't. Recognize that you are much more then what they or anyone can give you credit for. They act like they do because it's high school drama. It's like that everywhere. Just try not to let it affect you too much. Kids are kids, and you're always unique and extraordinary no matter what.

If you need anything or just an ear I'm here for that. I've been through close to the same thing, but I remember when my ex at her high school went through some seriously bad things and I don't want that to happen again, or at least help best I can to get you through it.