Parent Problems. PLEASE HELP

Question

My parents are overly protective. They refuse to let me go anywhere or do anything unless one of my brothers is there to tag along. What the **** is their problem?!?! I'm 16, and I'm not stupid. They're constantly reading my mail, bitching about my friends and being worried that I'll get kidnapped or some **** . Help? Things I can do or say to make them trust me? <3

Answer 1

Ok, talk to them! Feel free to speak how are you feeling.If they say the same s**t you explain here then tell them politely: &quot;Mom/Dad, I know there IS a really dangerous world there outside, but I&#039;m 16, not 6 and I would like you to let me be free!&quot;DO  NOT SNEAK OUT!  it&#039;s really dishonest, always tell them about things you are going to do.

Ok invite your friends after school and prepare a dinner for your parents, your friends and you. Then tell them something like &quot;Mom, Dad, This is Julie, this is Max,and this is Taylor.Tell them nice stuff about them.

HOPE IT HELPS A BIT!

Answer 2

here, maybe have them sit down and explain that you&#039;re older now and that soon enough you&#039;ll be gone. My parents are somewhat the same

-__- anywho maybe open up to them and let them know where you are at all times. You just gotta make them trust you first then let them know that you&#039;re not a little kid anymore^^

Answer 3

talk seriously to them...

Answer 4

have u done any thing dishonest   that would make them distrust you  talk to them  

Answer 5

Change your mail&#039;s password!!!!  Then you&#039;ll know that they can&#039;t read it.  Besides, you only have 2 more years to go until you become a legal adult, and when you do become one, they can&#039;t be overprotective anymore.  Just two years!

Answer 6

I have the same problem. They love and care about you, that&#039;s why they&#039;re overprotective. I would talk to them about how you feel. That you are getting older and that you need more privacy, more independence.

Answer 7

GOD DUDE SNICK OUT!!! THATS WHAT I WOULD DO!!

Answer 8

hahahaha i have the same problem.... but i try to show my parents that i&#039;m responsible by babysitting more

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Answer 9

go to jail that way they don&#039;t have to worry about you. also i think you have done something to make them this way in fact i know it. i think you diserve them doing this. also leaving with out them knowing hhhmmm do you think that might be why they are doing this. p.s. that is dishonest!    also i am 13 and i know that!

Answer 10

run away from home, lose your virginity and come home drunk a week later.

that&#039;ll teach em&#039;

Answer 11

i had the same problem give them examples of things you can do with ur friends make sure all ur friends hav meet ur parents so u can say im going put with tom and u no him hang out with the right people make sure they know that ur responsible and u no when to scream but just really sit down and talk to them about how you feel and what i have to do is tll them exactly what ur doing make sure u have ur cell and say my im going out with Tom at 4 we are going to the movies his mom is driving can u pick us up at 9 or what time do i have to be home and nick and brain and tracey are coming something like that and call when u get there and say im at the theater or im going to chris&#039;s house can i spend the night but never lie they want whats best for u cause the love u if u want to think so or not i am 15 so u dont think im like some parent telling u this but good luck hope i helped  

Answer 12

If your a girl and an attractive 1 at that then any parent would be protective. But yours are so called &quot;over-protective&quot;. your 16 sit them down and talk to them so theey can realize that. you deserve more freedom.

Answer 13

Some parents are so afraid of letting their children grow up, and what the world has in store for them. It is because they love you, sneaking out is not the answer. They need to beable to trust you. Sit down and talk to them about how you feel and what your intentions are. Explain that you need some freedom to learn and grow on your own and be your own person. Tell them that you respect their rules and will follow the things that they have taught you. Good luck.

Answer 14

Hmm......i think you&#039;re a guy....let me see....

maybe u need to go crazy on them.....if u&#039;ve already explained to them that they&#039;re overstepping the bounds and they haven&#039;t listened.....then, you just clam up.......don&#039;t talk to them.......have a face like stone......don&#039;t eat....they&#039;ll ask you what the problem is....u&#039;ll explode and let out your anger.......

Also, get your brothers to explain to them that they can&#039;t always stick up 4 u...that you&#039;re a man..

and give them reason to trust you.......don&#039;t bring any suspicious-looking friends home....

that should do it....

Answer 15

She still thinks you are a  kid. Moms tend to not grow up, you know!. Get someone your mom respects, like her pastor/priest or colleague, to intervene; to show her you are now a responsible girl capable of conducting yourself well away from home. eVEN SO, SHE WILL &quot;LET GO&quot; ONLY WITH TIME. bE respectful -- IT will get you further than swearing and sulking.

Answer 16

just sit down with them and tell them that you feel they are being way to overprotective and you need some space and still have their trust.

just tell them that you gotta learn from the mistakes you make and they should support your choices. just do it your way. but tell them how you feel.

Answer 17

Your parents are not being this way to make you miserable. They are truly afraid of the outside world and all of the terrible things that could happen to a young girl. Because of the extremes that your parents go to with this, they probably will not change. Maybe you could suggest a family therapist? Or do you have a job? If not, and they will allow you to get one, that will give you some much needed time away from the house. Tell your parents that while you appreciate their love and concern for you, they are making your life unbearable. Maybe a frank and honest talk will do some good. Just keep trying until you find a strategy that works

How safe is the town you live in? It seems like if you live in a small town you can give them exact times and locations where you will be. Plan on going to places that are pretty safe, well lit, and where a lot of responsible people will be (we&#039;re starting out with church functions, etc.). Offer to take one of their cell phones and call them every 30 mins. Go on &quot;dates&quot; with friends in groups. Maybe after a few times of this, they will lighten up.

Answer 18

Mmm. tricky. At least you know that this is all because they care about you so much. But it&#039;s important they realise that as you get older you need your own space and freedom. Ofcourse, there are probably things you can say but they might not work. What you need is a devious plan!!

Maybe you should tell your parents you are going to the library to study as it&#039;s easier. You go for the day. Would your brother really want to tag along for a whole day in the library? Go. Do this, and study. Do it a lot. reguarly. Your brother will get bored and complain to your parents. After 9 or 10 times of going to the library your parents will begin to realise you tell the truth, and your brother can&#039;t keep going along with you.

Then you can start to use your &#039;library days&#039; to go out with friends, on your own, while your parents think your at the library.

Please, if you don&#039;t like the idea, I can think of another one. Or more help if you want. So edit details and let me know if you don&#039;t like it, or have any questions.  

Answer 19

As a fellow 16 year old, I can understand your pain. Truthfully, if you&#039;ve already tried to show you&#039;re responsible, and they still don&#039;t believe you, then bad luck, but wait out two more years until you&#039;re legal.

OR the option is to try and prove that you&#039;re responsible and able to take care of yourself. You can do your own chores if you haven&#039;t already, like doing your own laundry, doing the dishes, feeding all your pets, cleaning up your room, washroom etc.

Show them that you don&#039;t need to constantly be helped and monitored because you can do everything yourself.

And if you&#039;re indulging in some risky behaviour like staying out past midnight, taking lots of money out (spending lots) at a time, you might want to stop those.

Hope this helps ♥

Answer 20

You earn the trust and if you start by telling them and asking them what it is that you can do to make them know that they can trust you........Ask them to please tell you what it is you need to do to make thing easier for both of you.