Parent/church problems?

Question

okay, my mom's a big time christian. i, personally, don't believe in organized religion. im fifteen and silently and without complaining attend church service when they go just to keep family peace. i was planning to go along with this until i graduate high school and am on my own. but, there's a new problem. my parents want me to start attending sunday school in addition to the church service. i can't stand the kids my age that go to my church and i can't stand the self righteous teachers shoving religion down my throat. i've tried to talk my mom out of it, but she says i need to work on my 'spiritual growth'. i can't go through with sunday school or I'll lose my mind. what should i do?

Answer 1

I had the exact opposite problem. I was the one who wanted to go to church and my parents didnt(they were lazy, but did believe). Anyway, I had to take things into my own hands and go myself, without them. I couldnt stand the kids that were in my cathecism classes either, but it was because they were dumb @sses that were there to socialize. maybe you can use this excuse. Tell your mom that your heart wont be in it because you are annoyed with people that are there. tell her that you would like to continue attending as a family  but not the classes because you feel its not serious. Im not sure if you are an athiest type or just dont want that "organized" type of religion. i know plenty of christians that do not go to church and are still devout. if this is your case, maybe tell your mom how you feel about this and just tell her everything, the truth. however if you dont believe at all, i would just suggest making excuses until your 18 then you can do whatever you want.

Answer 2

try focusing on a relationship with Jesus..read the Bible let Him show you His truth..His love for you is amazing..

Answer 3

         Your parents, and the trust that you have between you and them is what you need to inform them that you do not require additional service from the church. Let them know that you are ready to move on with your stead-fast faith in God. Going to church is meaningles if you do not apply what God says to your life. A person can go to church every sunday, then go doing drugs and hanging out at w***e houses all week long if church is nothing more than a life requirement to them. There is not a single perfect priest on earth, any person who claims that kind of righteousness is a liar.

            The only thing that matters is your relationship with God, and that dose not require church every sunday, or a special youth group. Don't get me wrong, church is only meaningless for those who make it that way. Jesus made it clear that a servant's heart is greater, with that in mind, think about how you may be helping others lives, thats what church is about, and be careful that you are'nt just being selfish with you time.

           "Politics" is something you find in congress, and the church only has that much power over you if you let it. So you don't like the atmosphere of church, then WHAT YOU NEED TO DO is first of all, make sure you are avoiding it for the right reasons, second, make sure that you are going to church because you want to go for God, and third, If you want to go through with keeping your distance from the church, then you have to know for certain that you will not be easily strayed into doing things that you should'nt, whatever keeps the relationship between you and God strong, is the more meaningful way to go.

           HOW YOU TELL YOUR PARENTS: I don't know if your mother is ignorant to what you have to say on matters of religion, so I would suggest going to your fater first, assure him that you are strong in your relationship with God, then speak of your discomfort around the church, and tell him that you would rather stick with getting to know God on a more personal level, such as doing what Jesus did; (going out and helping sinners, or just consoleing with God when you feel the need. Soon after you can break the news to your mother (tell her when she is in a good mood).

take care

    Kemuel

Answer 4

First of all, recognize that your parents really are just trying to do what they think is best for you. But, if sunday school is that big a turnoff for you, it would be counterproductive for you to go. Maybe you could talk to the youth pastor and ask him to have a chat with your mom. He would be likely to understand the situation and help you out. If she can't be dissuaded, try to go with an open mind. Who knows, maybe it will grow on you.

Answer 5

first of all, I just wanted to say, hey, if organized religion isn't your thing, then, ok. Fine. But, personally, Christianity is extremely rewarding. If you've ever seen the face of someone truly dedicated, and you see the peace in their eyes and miracles that Jesus has done, then you'll be set. But, if you don't want to go to church, go up to your mom and say, "Hey mom? I think that I need to explore my own relationship with God before I praise him at church and commit to church. I think God and I need a heart to heart."

Answer 6

Ugh. This kind of thing always twerks my nerve.

Parents like this are too controlling. To obsessed.

I'm Atheist for this reason. I was forced too deeply into religion and it just turned me off.

Maybe you and your mom should sit down and talk and you can tell her how you feel about the Church and religion. Tell her you'd rather not be in an organized religion, rather than something you feel more comfortable with.

Answer 7

Simply put your foot down and say no! No one can force you  that's a personal subject