Parent: your thought on this: Totally unfair teachers at school dance last night?

Question

ok. i go to a catholic high school and the dances arent that bad. its just grinding but last night there were 20 teachers supervising like in the circle walking around with walky talkys telling pple to stop having contact! we protested twice by sitting in the bleachers and chanting "LET US DANCE". (we are allowed to leave at 10:30) at 10:30 we all left to the parking lots and partied with the seniors blasting their speakers and radios and dancing on cars until the teachers start sprinting down taking down names and car keys. luckily my friend and i are fast so we booked it out of there. and the teachers sent out an email to the parents and my mom was p/o at the teachers for being creepy weirdos. and we have an assembly during our break when we return to school on tuesday. What do you think of this and how do we get back at the teachers?

Answer 1

You shouldn't "get back" at the teachers. That's uncalled for. I think they took it too far. What do teachers expect high schoolers to do. Dance with hands on your shoulders and hips? That's middle school. I think that grinding is too much for high school. College is a better time for that.

Now for after the dance- I think that they were right! School grounds is private property. Also schools are usually near neighborhoods that have young kids in the house that you could have easily woken up! I don't think that they should punish anyone. Taking the keys away wasn't necessary, but you know what, it happened. There isn't anything you can do! And hey, you didn't get in trouble!  

Answer 2

The teachers were in the right, dancing is a sin and you should be punished.

Answer 3

I have never heard of a catholic being that bad.

I am a member of Lutheran Church-Missouri Synod Congregation.

Collectively, Within the Lutheran Church,

The three that I know of are the Evangelical Lutheran Church of America, Lutheran Church-Missouri Synod and, the Wisconsin Evangelical Lutheran Synod.

Martin Luther(not MLK Jr. or anyone related to his family) stuck his 95 Thesis on the door of a church in Germany.  He was originally a Catholic priest but, had major disagreement with the Catholic church.

It is the WELS that is, even more conservative than the rest.  They are the ones' that would do this sort of thing.

I understand the part about not touching while dancing.  But I do think they went overboard, for a Catholic school, by taking names and, car keys.

I do agree with the school about, the blasting of the music.  If you are going to listen to music, make it Christian music.  It will still telll the same stories that you hear with secular music but, in a much kinder way.

You can dance without spooning.

Answer 4

If you change schools then teachers have no one to babysit therefor they do not have a job.

Answer 5

You're going to be lucky if they let you have any more school dances this year.  They might cancel homecoming, or even prom...they're not obligated to provide dances for you, and a lot of people who send their kids to Catholic school want them to be educated with some values and morals, which really doesn't include dry-humping at a school dance.  

I went to Catholic school and we wouldn't have been allowed to behave that way.  If your mother is really offended by it, maybe she should take you out of the school and send you to public school...from what I've seen with my kids going there, they really pretty much get to do whatever they want.

Answer 6

Oh yeah, your teachers are SO unfair. It's called DON'T LET YOUR GENITAL AREAS touch while dancing, or grind, or do crotch-crotch, or anything inappropriate. You don't like it? Boo hoo hoo, don't go to the dances. You were supposed to leave at 10:30 but instead you stayed there blasing their radios. That's trespassing. "Being creepy weirdos"? Get a life! Deal with it.

Answer 7

Grow up, that is my advice.

You go to a Catholic School, you need to be a bit more mature and realize that if you want to dry hump on the dance floor, maybe save it for somewhere else.

Perhaps your mom should send you somewhere else if she doesn't share the schools morals.

Answer 8

wow they sound like creepers but w/e. i went to public school and there was no joke s*x on the floor served with boozing.   parents/teachers have become too involved.  

Answer 9

If you think that the teachers were wrong, then ask yourself this question -

Would you have danced exactly the same way in front of the Priest or Nuns, and if not, why not?

Would you have danced that way in front of your Grandmother?

If your mother is annoyed with the teachers, then suggest that she go to the next dance and chaperon the kids - I bet she would also put a stop to all the stuff that was going on!

Answer 10

well, if your mom has a problem with the way this was handled, she should not have enrolled you in a catholic school.

if your mom thinks this is creepy/weirdo behavior, then you should be put in a public school where god and religion isn't the main subject and basis of every event that takes place.

as far as the parking lot thing,  that is considered riot behavior in some places , and it was on school property. if you want to "grind" and dance inappropriately, do it in a seedy basement or better yet, have your mom host a party at your house!

Answer 11

How were the teachers being unfair?  Because they wouldn't let you grind all over each other or because they wouldn't let you dance on top of cars, which, someone could have fallen off and since you were on school property, the school would be responsible?

  

Answer 12

You need to remember that the school and teachers have a duty of care and are responsible for anything that may happen to you whilst on school property. In this day of  hiring lawyers and suing for any and everything you may well be fortunate to still have these dances. Also it is nice to have people around you that care for your well being.

Answer 13

LOL!  I remember that happening to me at school in the late 80's-early 90's.  But whatev.  You guys kind of proved the teachers point in shutting you down on the dance floor by partying like rockstars in the parking lot with the older crowd, dancing on cars and stuff.  I'm sure they were overdoing it while patrolling you guys but at the same time, in order to get respect, you must give it and that means, following the rules of the old, religious people.  I personally wouldn't retaliate because most likely, it's a lost cause.  

Answer 14

I can sympathize with you to some degree.  I too went to a Boston Catholic school (maybe even your school!) and they are extremely strict.  Blink the wrong way, and you're in the headmaster's office!  When I was there (which wasn't all that long ago), we weren't allowed to touch at all while dancing.  Trust me, if we were only restricted from grinding, I would have been happy!

But the fact is that grinding really isn't appropriate, especially for kids under 18.  If you want to dance like that in clubs when you're old enough, fine.  But I can see why the school, especially a Catholic school, would forbid it.  

Don't try to get back at the teachers.  Come on girl, you go to Catholic school - haven't you learned by now that you won't win?  Trust me, we tried it - there's just no beating them.   You probably won't be able to have any more dances this year.  I wouldn't be surprised if the whole school got detention, either.  Oh, I remember the group punishments - a few kids act up, and they respond by punishing even those who weren't involved.  Deal with the punishment that surely awaits, roll your eyes behind the teachers' backs, and just go along with it.