Parental Problems. What to do?

Question

my mum drinks heavily and treats me with no respect im thinking of living with my father i have also thought of this once before but my mum promised respect i havent recieved.

Answer 1

Dear big bro

yep its me im at bees. what do you think your doing if you left to live with dad that would mess me up bad. I no at points I say i hate you but ur my brother and i love you dont leave me in that h**l hole otherwise ill never speak to you again.You wont be my brother ull just be another face in the world. So dont run away because then you will be like mum and you have a younger brother and sister and we need you there. And i no you think mum dosent respect you but please please answer me this do you and did you ever respect her after mum and dad split?

dont LEAVE

please...

EVER

ur lil sis

Mum dosent drink heavily only when where brats and when daves cheated on her think about that...

Answer 2

Look, I know how you feel. My mom is a heavy drinker to this day and I'm 23, but my mom use to be on drugs from the time I was born until I was like 12. She did a lot of things that me and my sisters didn't like and we had a ****** up childhood, but I will tell you this. I loved my mom then and I love her now. Yeah, there were times when we all just wanted to run away, but those times when she wasn't around us we missed her dearly.

Your life will never be the same without her and hers will get worse without you. My mom was drunk on my 21 birthday and while we were out celebrating she fell asleep on us in the restaurant and stumbled a few times. It was so embarrassing to all of us that were there. One of my sisters was so mad and embarrassed that she jumped up and left.

Even after all of that I don't think that I would trade her for the world. When she is sober she is the most wonderful and loving mother a person could be. Try to ask her to get help and try to salvage your relationship with her.

From what you said earlier about thinking about leaving I could tell then that you really don't want to and that she really wants you to stay. Maybe you should try talking to her before she drinks and see if there is anything in her life that she is depressed about. My mom is very depressed and she tries the drink it away.

We've asked her to stop,but with the way her life is right now she dismissed any help. What I'm trying to say is I know how you feel and I think that you should hold on to her as long as you can because when she's gone......she's gone.

Answer 3

It is always a hard decision when you are considering which parent to live with. I have been through this same thing with my mom. I suggest you try talking to her about it. I know it is hard, and usually it seems to not work. If this continues, I would just go to my dad's for like the summer. See how that works. Or you can try telling your dad how you feel and have him talk to her for you. =) Good luck sweety.

Answer 4

Your mom has a problem. Try to talk to her when she's sober. Don't be judgemental or accusative. Just tell her how you feel. Start your sentences with "I feel sad because ...." That way, she'll feel less threatened and be more receptive to really communicating. And don't give up right away. It is hard to change, but I am sure that she is trying. Every time that she lapses and forgets to treat you right, give her time to sober up and talk to her. Everytime. She will remember and eventually she will remember to respect you. Ask your dad for help. But don't be so eager to leave your mom. For all you know, you are the only thing keeping her from really falling into the abyss.

Answer 5

with a nickname like zigzag, makes me wonder what you do for a habit????? hey, when anyone is drinking too much, respect goes right out the window. it is not disrespect your mom has a problem with, its drinking. maybe you are the one that can guide her, instead of leave her, to getting some help with the problem. get some adult advice from some people having dealt with this type of thing. leaving her in this way, will only increase her drinking and you still won't have what you want from her. help her, please.

Answer 6

Call up daddy and leave that hoe.

Lol Sherman, "Colt 45 and two zigzags, baby that's all we need..."