Parenting help??

Question

Im 18 and i know its not my place to say but my mom has no control over my little brother who is 10.Last night my little brother didnt get what he wanted so he threw an all out tantrum.He started throwing food away (like the boxes) and then he started tryingto kick our kitten (which we got on saturday).So i picked up the kitten and went and told me mom and all she did was lay in bed and yell at him. Which obvioulsy didnt work.So i told him to go to his room and he went.And she told him he would get any soda or anything special for 2 weeks.But this morning she allowed him to have a soda in his lunch box (he goes to day camp).I try not to get involved but when it invovles me or the cat or if hes trying to hurt himself or others i cant help myself.And then my mom yells at me telling me its not my place to say.I dont know what to do or how to handle this .Can anyone help me?Thanks so much.

Answer 1

You're in a tough spot. He needs tough love at this point it sounds like. He may be crying out for boundaries. When a mom/dad punish for wrong behavior and stick to their decisions, it reassures the child and they know what they can't get away with. If it had been my son, I would've spanked just to be honest, though 10 is almost too old in my book for that. He just needs to know that kind of action can't be tolerated, especially kicking the cat! If his actions are not addressed at this age, your mom will be in serious trouble as he enters the teen years.

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Answer 2

it is hard to NOT butt in ,, but you really are going to have to do that.  Make sure you and the kitty are out of the room and leave.  Leave it all for your mother to clean up and take care of..  maybe she is staying in bed and yelling at him cause she knows you are taking care of things..