Parenting problem... I need help with my 10 year old boy Please answer?

Question

Hello everyone, I´m new at the community and I need your help. We have a 10 year old kid who had fractured his foot some days ago and is in a cast, it covers his leg below his knee, he has to be off his foot for some time because he broke two bones in his foot tripping and falling in the school stairs, the problem is he refused to go to school since last wednesday, he missed wednesday and thursday(he broke his foot on monday, his first day, so sad) he went to school son friday, he had a normal day on friday but now(monday) he refuses again to go to school, he's using crutches and he has no problem with that, but when we try to awake him in the morning he refuses to prepare to go to school, we considered possible reasons and his foot isn´t in pain, he spends his normal day at school, no one is bothering him, on the other side, on friday he received much help at school to take their things and all his stuff and we don´t find a reason because he refuses to go to school, he argues is difficult to start the day and prepare to go to school with the cast on, we help him to get dressed, his cast is waterproof and we really don´t find any reason for his refuses he didn´t go to school today. Please help us, we are a concerned about our boy's behavior because we don´t know why he´s acting that way. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

maybe he has a fear of getting hurt again. or he is being bullied and wont tell you. or he is being catered to so much he doesnt find need to leave the house. i dont know, but you are the parent and that means he will go to school if you say so.

Answer 2

Well no kid likes school and the broken foot is just a bounce for him. He thinks that because he broke his foot that he can say he doesn't want to go to school cause of it to play on your tolerants. Buy you giving into him lets him no that he has won I think that if he can go to school with a broken foot one day then he can go all days nothing wrong with him other than the fact that he is a kid that doesn't want to go to school but you are the parent so tell him that your soory about his foot but still he has to go to school. Make him go and he will have no chioce things like school, homework, chores, ect. should not have a choice involved. Yes I think it is fair to ask what he wants as far as diner and what he is going to wear but responsiblilites no chioce his should do as he is told.

Answer 3

Not sure if you have ever broken a bone before but being in a cast is not comfortable at all, more so a leg cast.

He would have to keep his leg up, otherwise it would just dangle and swelling would increase as would pain and his comfort level would go down.

Add that to the itchiness of the cast, his arms being sore from the crutches....would you want to work feeling like complete garbage?

I spent the better part of a year in a short leg cast and I was miserable!

If I was you, try to get him on the "home-bound" program, that is if your school has one. What that is, they will send 1-3 teachers (each district is different) to your house x amount of times a week and he will do all his coursework from home. That way he won't fall behind and he won't be penalized for absences.

I would look into it.

Answer 4

He probably just doesn't want to go. I mean he's a child..I remember when I was 10 and everyone was trying to pretend sick so they wouldn't have to go. Its all a part of childhood :D Since he broke his foot, he may see it as a legitimate way to stay home. He could be bullied, you just have to ask him everything.

Answer 5

He is 10 years old, YOU are his parents, you don't ASK him to go to school you TELL him that he is going whether he wants to or not.  There is no need to analyze why he doesn't want to go, he obviously figures this is a way to get out of going It is your responsibility to see to it that he goes to school, period.  

Answer 6

Your son needs to be made to go to school no matter what the problem is. You've obviously ruled out all of the truly important reasons he may not want to go. So now that you know he has no legitimate not to, make him.  Be the parent and put your foot down because maybe you don't realize this but you could be in trouble for your son's truancy.  

Answer 7

perhaps he didn't trip down those stairs so much as he was pushed...

this sounds like a scared child.  bullied or harassed.  he likely won't open up due to embarrassment, but somehow you need to get to the bottom of this.

good luck!

Answer 8

spank his butt if he doesn't listen

then send him to school

Answer 9

Maybe he is being made fun of for falling down the stairs. Have a talk with him. Ask him what really happened. He may have been pushed down those stairs but he is affraid to say anthing. Talk to him about it. good luck