Parents, are you able to provide your children with the things you never had as a child,?

Question

things that are available to both your generations?

Answer 1

Yep.  My mother was (still is) of the belief that children should not be (as she calls it) "over corrected".  That meant she rarely (if ever) told me 'no' about anything and I do not remember ever having any consequences for most things.  I knew growing up that if my mom said stop doing something, she really didn't mean it and if I kept on, nothing would happen.  i never really had any respect for her because she was so wimpy in my mind. I didn't respect any authority, actually because I was being brought up in an environment that I was able to manipulate to my own desires and whims and I was never made to submit to authority.  It gave me some problems, obviously.  

I have grown up now (smile) and I have five children.  I am giving my children a respect for authority that I had to find on my own as an adult.  Don't get me wrong, we teach our children to educate themselves and to NOT 'follow the leader' blindly, but respect for ANY authority is an absolute MUST.  I am thereby giving my children a disciplined personality  I never had.

Answer 2

Yes, but I am careful with it. A cousin of mine had an impoverished childhood. He has worked hard and has a good career, wife, and two lovlely children. He still works and plays hard at the expense of his family. Materially they have everything and are spoilt. His philosophy on this is that he is giving them what he did not have. I am trying to meter this a little with my own children. I give them what they need, and give them, within reason, what they want on their birthday. I worked hard, and i don't want them to sit back and think that it will all arrive on their doorstep. I want them to be happy, but also achieve for themselves.

Answer 3

The best thing you can provide is your time ... we have had the old board games like Cluedo and Frustration out .. just have family time ...But I bought my boys and my nieces  a huge paddling pool and water slide ...which was more than I would usually pay .. but the summer`s been great so far ... they love it !! ....we had a tiny 2 ring pool when I was little ....that you couldn`t even get 2 kids in ...  ha ha

Answer 4

I would like to start of by saying THANKS to my beautiful parents, who gave me as much as they can give.

There are many things that my parents couldn't give us due being in a country where there was war at that time.  

Now I am 29, My husband and I have a baby girl we are trying to do what we both wanted our parents to do for us:

- I take as many pictures as I can for my daughter.

(We both don't have baby pictures, only 3+)

- I am going to keep at least one piece of clothing for my daughter when she gets older.

(My mom always regreted not leaving me a piece of clothing for my children to see)

- I play with her as much as I can

(They didn't play with us at that time, they were only concerned about us being safe)

- We have a saving account just for her until she turns 18, for her college education.

(We had to put ourselves into colleges, not too bad I think, but I want to help my daughter)

many more....

Answer 5

i try but i dont have alot of money so i spend everything i can on  my baby but my mum buys her enough 4 both of us anyway

Answer 6

While my parents weren't millionaires, but looking back I don't remember wanting for anything.

The things I never had as a child were stupid expensive toys that broke after a couple of months.  By being sensible and not giving in to trends and hype my parents kept me in clothes and shoes and a decent supply of decent quality toys.

I will be the same with my children.

Answer 7

We can provide them for the grandchildren..

Some of the stuff we find is brilliant...

Answer 8

my parents have been able to give me everything and its made my realise that i will never ever have a child before i can afford one because i want mine to have all the privalige i did.

Answer 9

I try too, I'm here for her, which is more than I had, my mother passed away when I was under 5 yrs old.

It's difficult at times though as i have no older female role model to advise me, but we get by.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 10

Yes, I'm providing my children with a mother.  My mother was always too busy working and unwittingly neglected her children severely.  Love isn't all you need!  Neither does buying us everything make up for not being there!

Answer 11

I always had everything so I'm going to give it a good shot to give my kids everything they need.

My parents gave us everything we needed and most things we wanted.

Answer 12

I can provide things that my parents have provided to me, my brother, and my sister. One big advantage that I can provide to my children is the fact that we live on the same land as my parents, so they always can see their grandparents. I lived about 10 minutes from my grandparents as a child.

Answer 13

Yes. One thing I provide for my child is transportation! MY mother did not drive and my father was always too busy or too tired to take us anywhere, so unless an activity was walking distance, I did not go. I wanted to be in girl scouts, take piano or dance lessons, etc, but did not have a way to get anywhere.

Answer 14

Yes I am and I do not indulge in spending money on children who don`t even know they`re born,,

Answer 15

Yep in so many ways we can provide more for our kids than my parents did for us.  BUT we still hold that rule they used for us...If they want something, they have to earn it.  There's no free ride in our house.  With 7 kids in total, it makes fairness a priority.