Parents, do you do this to your kids?

Question

My dad used to do it all the time. I'd be sitting doing whatever and he'll call me. I'll say "What?" loud enough so he can hear me but he doesn't answer so I go back to doing what I was doing. Then he'd call me again, louder. So I'd say louder "What?" But he STILL doesn't answer. So again, I go back to what I was doing. And then he'll call me AGAIN and I'll screm "WHAT!!!!!" And then I'd get my sorry butt grounded for screaming at him. Do you do this to your kids? If so, why?

Answer 1

When I call my children I expect them to come to me and find out what I want so we are not screaming back and forth through the house. I generally only yell for them when I am doing something in the kitchen and want them to clean off and/or set the table or am calling them for dinner.

Otherwise if they are in their rooms, I usually get up off my fat *** and go to them.  When I am really busy with my writing it may be the main exercise I get all day.  And knocking and being invited into their rooms, I often get more talk time then I would having them come to me, stand there going "what?" and sending them off to do whatever I asked of them.

I abhor screaming through the house back and forth and feel one person should go to the other if it is going to be more than a very short conversation.

I think out of respect you should say, "Coming!" and go to him to find out what he wants. It shows respect and will decrease the times you are grounded.

Answer 2

my freinds mom says:

dont say what to me get your *** over here!!

Answer 3

My parents do, even if they knock on my bedroom door. I no longer shout; I just go answer it. They call you to get you to go to them. Shouting back and forth across the house or through doors is just silly.

Answer 4

When I call to my kids and thy yell back "what?", I usually call back "come here for a second."

I am usually up to my elbows in chores and dn't have the time to seek them out.

One more thing, you might want to concider your dad might be losing his hearing and doesn't hear you at first, and then when you do holler at him he get's both angry at your tone and flustered at his own impendng old age.

It would be best next time to go see what he wants.

Answer 5

You see, if we dont hear you, then we automatically assume you're ignoring us, lol. My kids do that all the time. I dont usually ground them, I just tell them not to scream at me again. But usually if I need them for something, I go to them, that way I know they heard me and they will not tell me no.

Answer 6

LOL, I still do this to this day with my boys. Now 26 and 33. When I call your name you best be appearing shortly...or I'm going to blow.

It is called RESPECT. And you must learn it  to pass it on to your children.

Believe me I see the boys all the time try to "Rule the House.  The oldest is getting his first taste of a teen girl.

It is not easy.

Never be so into your own world that you don't respond to a call. It may be the last one they could ever say.

When you finally go to them it could be to late. Parents get old and have lots of stress.

ie. [kids]

So a stroke , heart attack anything could be wrong.

Get up when someone calls you. Most of all a parent or grand parent.

Answer 7

Yeah, my dad does that to me all the time. But he does it to tease me, so I ignore him. We always tease each other.

Answer 8

no its pathetic

Answer 9

Its disrespectful to yell "What" at your parents... its not going to kill them to get up and walk to the other room.

I used to get popped for saying what to my dad.

Answer 10

My two year old screams "WHAT" to me all the time. You're not two years old though, are you? No. Maybe find a more mature way to answer your parents.

Answer 11

Why not just get up and see what he wants and avoid that entire mess?

Answer 12

i'd probably say "could you come in here?" not play mind games with my child.

Answer 13

My dad and mom do this to me all the time. I'm pretty sure it's just to get you up and come over and talk to them. And not to be shouting across the house. They probably want you to get up, come over to them, and let them tell you  whatever they want to tell you.  

Answer 14

no parents do but i dont get grounded

Answer 15

My parents did it to me.  I think the point is that they want you to get up and walk to where they are instead of yelling back.  I know, it doesnt really make much sense, I mean, why cant they get up, right?  But its just one of those things.  So next time, just get up and go walk into the other room.

BUT, they may not be able to hear you.  For example, I would hollar back at the top of my lungs, but my mom honestly wouldnt be able to here me, so by the time I got to the point where I was screaming WHAT!!!!!, she was already mad because she thought I was ignoring her and then had the nerve to yell what like that with that tone.

Answer 16

try saying "yes Dad?" instead of WHAT!!!! maybe thats the problem? I wouldn't want my kid doing that to me either.

Answer 17

I think it's a whole respect your elders thing you know if your parents call you get up off your booty and go to them they are grown not you LOL

Answer 18

No one ever did that to me. Actually,  I never got grounded because I was a well-behaved girl.

But anyway, in our house we have this rule not to talk to people through walls by yelling - the person who wants to talk to you has to get their a into g and move themselves. They're the ones who want to talk to you, so why should you have to get up?

An exception of this rule at our house, is if you want something/someone from another room and the cat is sitting on you. Then you can yell as much as you want ;-)

Answer 19

I absolutely do this. After getting grounded from everything once for disrespecting their mother, they never again asked what. They came when I called them. I usually ask for them to come to wherever I am, though, when I call them.

Answer 20

I do this to my kids constantly. I might need help unloading the dishwasher, I might need to know certain plans with a friend that evening, I might need to go over some activity schedule etc. I certainly do not want to explain my reason through a yelling match. It's insanity. If I call for my child- I'll give them a minute and they should come to me. I'm the mom, I don't need any other reason.