Parents, does it bother you when other people?

Question

tell you how to raise your child? Particularly people who do not have children of their own? I mean it's one thing if you ask advice, but when someone just starts telling you "you shouldn't do this, you shouldn't do that" does it get under your skin?

Answer 1

YES! especially if they do not have any children of their own. Thats like a single woman given advice to a woman that has been married for years. It dont add up and it never works b/c they havent been down that road yet. Its so annoying, but I take it in one ear and out the other, now if you follow through, then thats your own fault.

Answer 2

depend if i think they have a point i listen because if your really dum and your about to do something really stupid but you dont know its stupid it can only resolt in something bad so i just have an open debate with them with out getting mad and tell them why i do do this or why i dont try their method

Answer 3

yes! i hate that..if someone is giving me advice like my mom or whatever that is different,but for people who have no kids,or who have kids that are total brats to give me advice..makes me mad..lol

Answer 4

It's messed up but if your kids are acting like little heathens and causing problems you may consider taking the advice!

Answer 5

I have a huge problem with this.  Any time anybody tells my son (6) that he shouldn't be doing something, etc..  I get a bit pissed about it.  Even if they might be right...it doesn't matter.  My opinion is that they should talk to me..as I am right there with him.  They have no idea how I am raising my kid...

Now if he happend to be hitting their kid and they told him to stop...I can understand that.  My son doesn't do that, but I am just saying what if.

One time I let my son push a baby cart at the store.  He was having a blast, going up and down the aisles and singing a song.   Some old lady told him to stop and that he was too loud and needed to "shut up".  As angry as I was, I tried to be respectful and I told her that I did not mind what he was doing, that he was just a kid having fun.  She told me I needed to shut him up.  I have never had the desire to hit a lady, until that moment.

My son is absolutely great, very respectful, disciplined, etc..  He was just simply being a kid in a public place.  I guess she thought kids should be seen not heard...I don't know.

Later, we happened to get in line to check out right behind her.  Small store, only one line.   My son happened to pick up a noise maker toy they had on display right by the check out.  He started popping this thing and she looks at me and tells me that I should be ashamed of myself for raising such a little brat.   At this point, my anger was so high that it simply disappeared.  I got an idea instead.  I had my son stand next to me in line, behind her, popping this little toy over and over again.

If she would have simply talked to me in the first place and said, "Excuse me, but I am old and your son is a little too loud for me, could you please try and lower the noise".   I would have been respectful of this and said, "sure, no problem".   But she chose to handle it a different way...

Answer 6

I'm not a parent but when I am I sure that will drive me nuts 2

Answer 7

My girlfriends parents were doing that to her when she was living with them temporarily. It drove her mad to such an extent that we actually started arguing. Now she is living with me and things have settled down a lot. I was not allowed to discipline my stepchild by telling her not to do rude or naughty things in front of me, basically I was told she could do whatever she liked. But her mother was happy for me to tell the child off if she was being bad in front of me or to me.

Now we are having some problems getting her back into a routine. Grandparents can be wonderful but they can also be very tiresome when they tell you how to raise children.

Answer 8

No one should give unsolicited advice. Even if they have children. These people drove me crazy when I raised my kids and they still drive me nuts when they think they have a right to do it when I have my little grandson here.

Every mother (and father) has her own idea about raising her children and if she needs help, she asks.

What I used to do for the sake of family peace was say to people like that "yeah, you are right, great idea" and forget about it the same moment.

You will maybe find it hard, not to meddle when your kids raise children, but I try my best not to say anything until I'm asked for advice.

Answer 9

It drives me nuts when older people try to tell me how to raise my boys based on how it was done when they were parents.  Or people that don't have kids and especially those that don't even want kids drive me really nuts when they try to tell me what to do with my kids.  I hate when people try to give me advice that don't even know my boys at all.

Answer 10

My gma tells me, not suggests things, but tells me what I have to do.  Im 23 years old, Ive been with my husband for 5 years.  I know how to raise my daughter.  Everything I do though she tells me that my daughter will die, or get sick and this that and the other.  She also told me that I needed to get her checked out because she thought that my daughter was not developing right and she was behind because she did not learn to crawl at 4 months old.  I hate it!! I dont mind advise, especially if something works better but I dont like when people tell me that I HAVE to do something or else.