Parents: Child walked in while having s*x, how do you explain?

Question

This did not happen to me, I have no children but I saw this on tv. What would you do and how would you explain to your child what they saw? Especially if they got a really good view and was standing there for a little while.

Answer 1

This happened to me and my husband before when our daughter was like 2 or 3. We just told her that we were cuddling and that is how we show love for one another. She didnt really understand what was happening so it was a good enough answer for her! We started locking the door after that!

Answer 2

The first thing I would do would be to reiterate the standards of privacy and the importance of knocking on the door.  Then I would answer direct questions honestly without a great deal of detail.

Answer 3

LOL! oh...been there done that.

we mostly just answered their questions as honest as we could w/out being too graphic or....detailed.

our oldest boys walked in on my husband and i when they were 5 and 3 so the explanations were pretty tame. if they walked in on us at the ages they are now..I'm pretty sure they'd know what we were doing and they'd scream...run and then be totally freaked out for about a week. LOL

i think every child has at one time walked in on their parents..some remember it some dont.

Answer 4

say that its a special hug mommys and daddys do and u should only do it when ur married

Answer 5

Well, i would say that we were trying to make another brother or sister for the child. And only married people are allowed to do this.

Answer 6

Don't say anything. If they don't ask, they probably have either forgotten it, or will give themselves an explanation that will work until they know "The Truth".

If they do ask, tell them that it is how their parents show that they love one another. Don't go into details. Most children will either forget about it, or dismiss it, depending on their personality.

<3 harlie

Answer 7

my 4 and 5 year olds walked in on us it was dark with the moon light shining in.. they didnt' see much however they asked what are we doing.. and i said making you a brother or sister..  they said okay. how long does it take to make them.. i kinda chuckled, and said i dont know. soon my belly started to grow and my 4 year old daughter said the baby in her belly was bitting her cuz i always said the baby in my belly was kicking me.low and behold 9 months later we had twin girls. and thats as far as it got. my kids have to open many doors to get to our room so we usually hear whats going on and with 3 baby moniters in the house we can hear all three from our room. no more worries for us.

Answer 8

Don't sugar-coat it with BS like, "mommy and daddy do a special hug blah blah blah". Depending on their age, give them the FACTS about s*x. Education is they key to preventing STDs and unwanted pregnancies.

Answer 9

Oh god, I remember doing that when I was 12. OH MY GOD. I had a bad, bad nightmare, went to go tell them and, let me tell you, they did nothing to help. I quickly closed the door and ran away =/

Yeah, I already went through a few s*x ed classes by then, so I knew what was going on. But still!

To answer your question, it depends on the age of the child. If they're young enough, they won't even care. Old enough to have an idea, you might want to talk to them (please, don't get graphic...we just want the minimum knowledge at the time. A young mind can only handle so much trauma).

Hope that helped!

EDIT: Please, invest in a some kind of visible locking mechanism. The kids [will] love you more for it.

Answer 10

Just explain that is how mommy and daddy show there love to one another.  But it also depends on the age to.

Answer 11

i'd say were wresling

Answer 12

s*x between 2  consenting adults is normal and healthy.  the child needs to learn respect and to knock before entering a room.

Answer 13

depending on their age, if they were under 7 i would prolly say its a grown up game, or sumthin, if they were older i would prolly explain it.

Answer 14

Our then 3 year old walked in on us. At her age, I'm confident that she didn't know anything was going on, but it's still uncomfortable. She only stood there for a second and then ran off to her room. We never said anything about it. If she were older and asked questions, I would have talked to her about it.

Answer 15

It would depend on the child's maturity level and age. I would explain that it's how grownups make babies and show affection. I would stress that it was an adult thing, and a very private thing.

I'd personally strongly start thinking about a lock on the door if I was the parent.

Answer 16

It would depend on the age of the child and how "good" the view was.  If it was a younger child and the room was dark, and/or we were covered up (actually happened to me), I would say something along the lines of, "We're wrestling", or something like that.  I think we said we were tickling each other.  If the child saw us naked (lights on or not covered), I would say you saw mommy and daddy doing something that mommies and daddy do.  It's what God planned for us and, even though it's a good thing,  I'm sorry you had to see it.

If it were an older child (my teenagers) and they knew what they saw and they walked in and turned around and walked back out, I would probably  talk to them later about knocking and apologize for not locking the door.  Then I would make a joke like, "Boy, you're probably scarred for life now, huh?"  something to lighten the tension.  Hope that never happens!!:-)