Parents: How was your relationship w/ your In-Laws after your brought your newborn home?

Question

I would like to hear all stories, good and bad, men and women. However, I would particarally like to know about folks who had/have negative relationship w/ their in-law(s) and the outcome after the baby was born?

How did you keep your in-law(s) out of the delivery room? Did you even want to?

Where your in-law(s) overbearing w/ the care and advice of the child? How did you handle that?

I think you get an idea of my question lol. Thank you for taking the time!

Answer 1

Wow...I must have been blessed....I had a fantastic MIL!   She NEVER 'told' me what to do and even backed me up whenever a confrontation would come up.   When the kids got older and started to 'ask grandma'.....after I told them no for whatever, she would immediately say "what did you mom say?".   Miss that lady...will see her in heaven some day.

Answer 2

My MIL is the best! I couldn't ask for a better MIL. If I ever need help she is always there for me. She never was controlling. She accepted my request not to be in the delivery room for the birth of our children. She was even willing to stay at our house with our children so that my husband could be with me and the baby. She wanted to wait until I was ready for her to come in and see the baby. I told her as soon as vistors were allowed she could come in. She made me feel so much better. I feel as if I have known her forever. She really treats me like her own daughter, as my parents treat my husband as their son. Niether of us have any negatives things to say about our In-Laws. We are extremely blessed to have wonderful In-Laws.

Answer 3

I had a great relationship with my MIL - until I had my first child.  I am very close to my mother, and my MIL suddenly felt like it was a competition.  When she felt threatened that my mother saw the baby more than she did, she would accuse me of "keeping her grandchildren away from her" and all sorts of craziness.  My kids are 7, 5 and 4 now and while its somewhat better, it still continues on to this day.  I have to confess, I got so wary of it that I don't make any effort to see her - I do when I have to and its either a holiday or she pushes the issue.  I don't put forth any effort anymore, its too exhausting.  My husband is very supportive of me, so I can't complain there.

Answer 4

my n laws or jels cuz we had baby :(  like after we had our baby girl my mnl said now that baby is going to take all my sons time, he loves the baby more then hes own mother, and you know she still never even talked to my daughter who is 3 now never even bought a gift :(  she said why did they have that little gold digger , and that if i never had a baby , she would see my son more,

Answer 5

i was always closer to my mother in law until i got pregnant. right off she wanted to be in the delivery room and i'm a very private person so i sadi most def no! i explained why and i wasn't mean or anything. so the day comes and i ended up having a c-section but everyone wanted to come in right away so i told them to come in two or three at a time. and that worked out great but i wasn't willing to let anyone hold him yet. that upset her and she didn't call or come to the hospital for  the rest of the week i was there. now my husband is navy and deployed during the birth of our son so i was in our home town for another 3 months before moving back to our home. in that time she called two or three times. i even called her more than that.  

Answer 6

OH GIRL can not stand my MIL never have never will. did not want her in del. room for my first, but hubby said "she comes or i go" i should have told him to go and give me back my car keys. she just sat there in the corner like a lump on a log. i wanted to scream to the nurses to get her out of my room but i was scared that he would leave too. she has always been a total witch with a B. I don't  send her pics of the kids when& if i can get away with it and we do not speak. she never was overbearing about helping out with the baby. she just said i was a lousy mother and called CPS on me. hubby still denies that his "mommy" would do something like that. CAN  NOT STAND HER.

Answer 7

My hubby and I adopted our two children- so we did not have the labor room situation- but I can say this- how do you think my Mother in law felt about us bringing our 2 children home from the hospital, when she told us "why would you want to adopt, you have no idea where that kid came from"- NOT A GOOD RELATIONSHIP.  Our children are now 16 and 19 and we still struggle a bit, but things are better.

Answer 8

well my MIL (which i usually don't even refer to her as that just as my hubbys mom)

we used to have a great relationship too.

up until we got married and i got pregnant then she tried to control everything and pretty much wanted to be the wife to  my husband and the mother to my children.

It is your decision who you want int he birthing room with you, its a very special time in your life and if you dont' want her there then that is fine!

she should respect that decision if she doesn't and gets upset, oh well she will get over it.

i haven't talked ot my mil for over 2 years now because of the things she has done to our family, when we had our third child she didn't even know we were having her.

put your foot down with her now and don't let her take over because if you do then its over.

Answer 9

My MIL was not happy at all! and we were married for 4yrs when my son came...man was she overbearing! Me and my husband fought the whole way to the hospital on whether or not she would be in the room with me...before that he left me and went home to his mom...he came back 2 wks before the birth and when we were seperated my mom called his mom to complain about how she couldn't believe she would be so supportive of her son leaving a pregnant wife (latin moms) and she told my mom that I was a bad wife, I dressed too young ( I was 24), that I was always out in the streets (not true at all unless you call visiting my parents out in the streets) she said I was lazy and never fed her son...(he is fat as h**l by the way lol) and she said that we never asked her opinion on getting pregnant...so that comment right there made it obvious to me and my family that she was psycho and possesive and wanting her son to kiss her A S S.....we were seperated for a yr...they didn't come to my sons baptism or first birthday party and then hubby wanted to work things out....we got back together and she didn't even know...she thought I lived with my parents and he just moved back in the house...then we got pregnant again and OMG she almost had a heart attack!!!!! She was beyond pissed but then she tried to be all nice and then once my daughter was born she started her c**p again and then I just had it! I went soooooo OFF on her and put her in her place! Now she doesn't mess with but I know she dislikes me and talks c**p about me behind my back...when we go to her house she has a hall table with 2 8x10 pictures of her other son's wedding and her daughters wedding and none from my wedding....they have not even been married 1yr and I have been in this h**l family for 10yrs! BS right? I just laugh about it now cause it just shows how ignorant she really is!