Parents I need more advice on Special Reward.?

Question

I have six year old and a four year old. I am giving them special rewards if they do their chores when ask and good behavior has well. Also my four year old for going to potty. He get a sitcker chart. Here want I got so far but would like to get some more if I can..

1. Evening at the park

2. Pick out a snack

3. Pick out a movie to watch on a movie night

4. Pick out for supper.

5. Pick out for lunch

6. A tirp to the zoo. When not to hot.. (I am pregnant)

7. Ride your bike on evening walk

8. Stau up extra hour after bedtime on weekends only.

9. Can spend time with Grandma and Grandpa

10. Spend time with mommy with good behavior.

This want I got so far. I think I could get some more. Thanks.

Answer 1

I kinda don't really think of those things as rewards. No offense. I mean we've done 9 of those things in the past couple of days. We haven't gone to the zoo in over a month, though.

I mean, you want to spend time with your children no matter what, I would think.

Anyway, I don't really do rewards because I just expect my kids to do their chores. They've been pitching in and doing their part for the family since they were two.

Maybe a reward could be....

*A dairy Queen treat on Friday evenings, if all things are completed.

Answer 2

How about get a toy at the store?

Out to eat at a place of there choice?

Play outside a half and hour longer than usual?

Um....

Pick out a T.V show for the family to watch?

That's all I can think of.

Answer 3

How about a special lunch/dinner out with mom or dad.

Answer 4

I usually do a family movie night or family game night that works.

Answer 5

I'm sorry but those are all things my kids get to do everyday. They don't seem Special to me at all. and what do you mean when you say spend time with mommy with good behavior??? they dont spend time with you when they are not good. the trip to the zoo i a good one. What about buying a lot of little toys from the dollar store and putting them in a cool looking box. then they can pick out a toy when they do all of there chores. Or instead of picking out lunch and supper they can help you make lunch and supper. MY kids love to help me make stuff. what about a sleep over for you six year old or gets to have her hair and nails done by mommy and me time.

time.

Answer 6

How about their favourite  treat?  Kids love  treats!

Answer 7

it's good.

but the last 2, I don't know about them. sounds pretty harsh.

family time and chores should have nothing to do with each other. if you want to build strong family values, don't threaten them with not spending time with you or their g-parents... they'll resent it.

I don't know, it just seems cruel to me.

sorry

Answer 8

how about riding in the front seat on a car journey?

when my sister and i were 4&7 we used to get a sticker album, and if we were good we'd get a packet of stickers to go in it - one of those ones where you have to collect all the stickers to fill the album (see www.paninionline.com).

another favourite was to go to the shops and get one of those surprise toys that come out of a vending machine in a plastic capsule.

or you could buy some face paints, and then paint their faces with whatever they like when they are good?

a packet of balloons could work as well - give each child just one balloon whenever they are good, and then don't give out any more until that one has been burst/lost/deflated.  then the balloon becomes a status symbol to whoever earned it.

or you could set up a dressing up box and then add new items to it for good behaviour - this also encourages creative play.

also any activity that requires a lot of setting up or clearing away after should be used for a special reward - for example, setting up a paddling pool in the garden, or making handprints or footprints in paint on a giant sheet of paper, which is great fun but needs a lot of hand and foot washing to make it work (actually, this activity combines quite well with the paddling pool!!)

if your local pool does sessions where you can take two younger children in with just one adult, you could take them swimming and then they'd be getting some exercise and learning healthy habits as well as having fun.  if your pool requires a one-on-one child:adult ratio, rope in your partner or a grandparent to help.

i have to say i disagree with you saying that spending time with you is a special treat - your children need to know they are worthy of your love and attention regardless of how they behave - each child should get some one-on-one time as part of their day/week as a matter of course.  in fact i think this should be true of their grandparents' attention as well, although if the grandparents are administering whatever treat they have earned this could make it extra-special!