Parents: If your daughter was dating someone 7 years older than her, would you mind?

Question

Even if they are both at age of consent.

I am 18 and my boyfriend is 25.

Answer 1

My husband is 6 years older than I am and we started dating when I was 17.  I was of legal consent but we were not sexually active so that doesn't matter. If they are over the age of 17 it is perfectly fine.  Now if the girl is below 17 I would say no way because that is statuory rape if they become sexually active.  God Bless!

Answer 2

As long as she's an adult, it wouldn't bother me. A seven year age gap isn't bad in my opinion, I don't see why I would mind.

Answer 3

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. We're 6.5 years apart... My parents don't mind because he and I are respectful of them, their house rules, and their "expectations" for me (continuing college, getting a degree, having a career). He is also a total gentleman with me so that helps infinitely.

He and I are moving in together (which they aren't too happy about) but they understand that it is what we both view as the next step in our relationship, and they respect us for sitting down and talking it out with them.

As long as you and he are both respectful and as long as he treats you well and you're mature enough to handle the relationship then your parents shouldn't have too much of a problem with it.

Answer 4

You have probably heard it before but it depends on the age of the woman and the age of the man.

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Answer 5

it wouldnt bother me . once over 18 , your an adult and age is just a number . as long as you are happy and you treat each other good , then no problems

Answer 6

You are 18, your parents can't do anything about it. Although in a case that I have experienced, the 25 year old went out to bars and cheated on her, he was violent, pointed a gun to her head..shes still dating him, but hey thats more her problem than anyone elses I'd say. (She is pretty crazy herself.)

Answer 7

I was 17 and my first boyfriend was 24.  My parents allowed it, but they were a bit strict on times (like I had to be home by 10, etc).  It didn't pan out.  We didn't have enough in common to keep it going, but it was fun while it lasted.

So I guess to answer, yes...  I would let me daughter date a guy 7 years older than her.  But look at it this way...  That would be a 13 year old dating my 6 year old right now.  Yuck.

Answer 8

no, as long as you are 18 or older...it wouldn't bother me.

Answer 9

If my daughter was 18 or over and her boyfriend was not a loser, then I wouldn't mind.  

Answer 10

At 18 years old, no. If she was a little younger, I might have a problem.

Answer 11

no because age doesn't matter as long as they love each other

Answer 12

You are a legal adult.  The age of your boy friend is no longer my problem.  

I would tell you to be cautious though.

Answer 13

If she is 18 and out on her own being an independent young woman, she can learn her own lessons in the school of harsh reality.

I'd warn her that 7 years isn't a big deal.....when both are older. At 18 and 25 the chances of there being anything more than physical attraction on his part and infatuation on her part (even if they both think differently) is so remote it's laughable.

I'd hope she protected herself and would at least come out of the learning experience still un-diseased and not pregnant.

Answer 14

When you get your own place, you can do whatever the h**l you wanna do. If not, you might want to honor your parent's wishes.

But trust me, you are still growing and he is grown. You are gonna get bored quick.

I was 14 and dated a 25 year old and when I turned 18, I grew bored. I wanted to explore more out of life (i don't mean sexually either).

Make sure you and your boyfriend are on the same sheet of music too. Many times, older men want kids and marriage. Girl, you don't want that yet. Trust.

But hey, if you all are in agreeance with each other, you know his family, he knows yours, and everyone is dandy, and he's not on drugs or anything then by all means do what you do!

Answer 15

If they're out of the house and the men aren't losers then no - I wouldn't mind.  Could i even talk?  I married a man 13 years older than myself.

Answer 16

I started to date my husband while I was 18 and he was 25.  We have been together for 5 years and could not be happier.  As long as my daughter was 18, I dont see 7 years being a big deal.  My sister is 20 and her boyfriend is 25 I believe.