Parents Splitting up?

Question

My dad has asked if he can come and stop with me for a few nights this week as he hasn't been getting on with my mom. My mind is working overtime thinking he is chaeting on her or her on him, or they are splitting up...Im 23 so Im a big girl but I dont know how I will cope if they split.

Answer 1

How can you say no? say yes of course give them time to sort it out apart and then you can find out what it is all about, but make sure he understands that you are not taking sides and that you will still be in contact with your mum. Best of luck.x

Answer 2

females are stupid creatures always cheating and breaking the heart of males

Answer 3

I don't think if your father was seeing another woman that he would need a place to stay. It is more likely that they both need a bit of space. But I think you should resist putting your Dad up, for the simple reason that your Mum might (easily) misconstrue it and think that you are 'siding' with him.

I think you should firmly say that you love them both and you think it's best to keep out of it.

Chin up!

Answer 4

He just needs space, that doesn't mean they are splitting up, but it could mean there is some tension in their relationship.

Answer 5

Take your Dad in...  Listen to him - Listen to you Mom & be there for them!  You are a grown woman...  Remember, this isn't about you.  You'd kick yourself in the butt if you didn't try to help!  

Answer 6

They are your parents and you love then both, all that you can do it is to let your Dad stay with you for a few days, tell both of them that you love and support them, but this is some thing that they will have to work out on their own.

Answer 7

Maybe he and your mom have had a bit of an argument and just need some space.  Best thing to do is just ask if there is anything wrong.  If he wants or needs to talk he will.  Just don't take sides at this point. There are 2 sides to every story. You may have to ask your  mom too at some point to get her side of the story.  It may also be a case of that they no longer love each other enough to be together as a couple.  Sadly hundreds of people split up.  Its worse too when it's your parents.  But you never know they may be able to work through any problems they have.  It may be a lack of understanding on either side, or one is having an affair.  Just don't jump to conclusions.  Sometimes even the closest of people need their own space even if its for a couple of days.

If it does get to the point that they are splitting up (I do hope not) just don't be angry at either of them.  You will feel angry, betrayed, upset, hurt etc.  Remember its THEIR marriage not yours. Whatever they decide is best for them you have to go along with. Don't play either of them off against each other, be there for both of them equally.

Should it be a case of one of them cheating, be as supportive as you can to the other one. Don't slag the cheating one off because should they get back together they may discuss how you coped with it all.  Like you said you are 23, so its not like you are a small child.  But its still equally as upsetting. Cry if you want too.  It does help, Believe me. Just try and be strong for the moment till you find out the full story.  

Hopefully it may just be nothing.  

Good Luck and let us know if you can what happens.  Take good care of yourself.

Answer 8

tell your dad you love him and if he has problems with your mum then

to discuss with her. if he insists tell him it will cause a problem with

your relationship with your mother if she doesn't know about it. tell him

he can stay only if you speak to your mum and ask if she is ok with it.

she may have no idea and if he disappears for a few days and then

she finds our he's with you all h**l will break loose.

you are not responsible for them - but pop round see your mum - she may  say something. if not suggest to him they have counselling.

don't ask him if he's having an affair that will comprise you even more

if he is.

men tend to run away - tell him to sort it out!

and if they do split you will have to cope with it as it happens.

Answer 9

Its a terrible time for you. You don't want to seem to be taking sides, however you want to try be in both of their lives. Phone your mum, ask her what is going on, at least then if your dad comes to stay with you for a while you have been honest with your mum. Try to listen to both of them, its not your problem its theirs but you will feel you are in the middle, and in a way you are. Stop trying to work it out, let them do that, just be there for both of them, listen, don't judge, you don't know the facts yet. Even if one parent tells you something bad, listen to the other. Don't take sides. Its their lives they are messing up not yours.