Parents: What do you think about this?

Question

Hi,

My daughter just asked me if we could order teeshirts online at http:/www.abercrombie.com. I went online [hardly ever buy her stuff from all those 'trend' stores]

She found a shirt she liked, it just said abercrombie on it. It was 19.00$. I see girls her age [Mostly Friends] who wear Abercrombie, Aeropostale, and all those stupid stores. Do you think these prices are like,normal? I mean i am NOT paying $19.00 for some T-shirt that just says their name on it. Also, one of her friends is an 11 year old s**t. I swear. She wears Mini Skirts & Shorts, Tight T-shirts with the Bra's showing. I think parents are letting their kids grow up way to fast, plus the media. What do you think?

Answer 1

My kids dress nice. and i will never allow them to dress like that

Answer 2

I would let her buy a few "trend" shirts, but tell her that she needs to earn the money for them, or maybe just give her a budget of how much she can spend in that store.  It will show her how expensive the shirts are, in comparison to other places.  I would recommend going into the store to shop though, because then you can look at the sale clothing, and then you also don't have to pay shipping, which is VERY expensive, because of gas prices.  I completely know what you mean about parents letting their children grow up too fast, I have noticed that too, and it is just ridiculous!  If she wants to dress in more "trendy" ways, take her to target, they sell the types of clothes that are like brand names, but they are at more reasonable prices.  Also, if she likes brand name clothing, why don't you check out some local thrift and consignement shops.  They only take nice clothing, and they generally get some very nice brands.

Answer 3

oh yea i see it all the time 11 or 12 year olds wearing mini skirts and tight tees and booty shorts its horrible the way parents let there kids dress ive seen them out with there parents dress like that it drive me crazy i just wanna say something i think its ok to buy them something from one of those stores once in a while as a treat but all those trend clothes are very outrageously priced i couldn't afford to buy my kids a whole wardrobe of them

Answer 4

you can find name brand things on clearance, All of my daughters clothes are name brand and I never pay more that 3-10 dollars for a shirt or 5-10 for pants!  

Answer 5

if she wants this shirt let her pay for it. she can do extra chores for the money.  

Answer 6

Those are just trends that kids will eventually get over. those shirts though, feel like you're wearing paper, thats how thin it is. they're not worth it at all.

Answer 7

When you buy label clothes, you're paying for the maker/designer to drive a nice porche, mercedes, live in the mansion, sipping pina cola, and throwing lavish parties for their snotty friends with your monies.   Don't forget your paying their bills and sending their kids to one of those prestige colleges.   Now, it may look cool, do buying name brands pay your bills and sending your kids to colleges with $$$.  

Answer 8

I would tell her "You want it you can buy it with your money." or give it to her for her bday or some celebration. She will be happy.

Hope this helps

Answer 9

explain to her that you can get perfectly good clothes for cheaper! and that all this name brand stuff is just a waste of money. being spoiled wont keep ppl happy forever. you cant take stuff with you when you die.

try that.

good luck!

Answer 10

I agree with you.  When I started wearing what I wanted to (when I was young)  I had a job and was paying for it. My mom was not about brand names and high prices.  PS I'm surprised the price isn't higher to be honest.

Answer 11

Yes I know.

My 12 year old daughter loves that store.

I wouldn't pay $19.00 for that.

I can just geta  plain tee shirt and get a marker and write Abercombie and Fitch on it.

No big deal to me.

I lsort of like thats store.

She only gets that kind of stores on special occasions.

I usaully buy my  12 year old daughter clothes from , Roxy, Limited Too, Justice for Girls, Kohls..etc

Answer 12

here is an answer from a 14 year old...

i do ware that brand name and i have more than 1

but now i feel like every1 is waren that stuff so you feel like you are following what every1 else is doing

if she doesnt like that, dont get it  

Answer 13

I think you answered your own question.  You feel the shirts are too expensive, so the answer to your daughter is "no."

As to the way other children dress...that's between them and their parents.

All the best.

Answer 14

I am doing the fashion thing with our son now that he is in middle school he has lots more stuff from old navy which has great deals on line... spending 19.00 on a tee shirt if u can afford it do it... dont judge other peoples children she is dressing the way her mom is letting her if it bothers u talk to the childs mom but dont call her names, other wise that makes u look like the child...

Answer 15

I am a teen, and I think those prices are ridiculous. They should be paying US. Its just advertising for them. And the quality of the stuff is not very good. You can get something much cuter, much cheaper.

Answer 16

Well, then you don't need advice on whether to pay $19 for a shirt...you've decided not to do that already.

So on to the next thing...YES, they're growing up too fast.  My daughter will NOT be wearing belly shirts and short shirts...and no thongs and no pants that show her underwear either for that matter.  Yes, the media is making it worse...however, the media wouldn't be able to do that if parents didn't allow their children to buy/support those things.  If the majority of parents decided not to allow their children to support those celebrities and such then they'd sell the things we did allow our children to support.  One of the things I'm liking about the disney channel is that the shows they're having on are more innocent...High School Musical, Hannah Montana, iCarly, etc.  None of them wear half naked clothing and it's about acceptance of people that are different, being true to yourself and studying and making good life choices.  It's encouraging!  I just hope it's a trend that continues.  The thing that worries me is that "Hannah Montana" has gotten older and I'm afraid that she'll take her fan base into the "under-clothed" genre.

I'm going to do what I can to help Megan 'be cool' with her clothes (because let's face it, kids are truly MEAN about those things) while keeping her parts covered.

There is just something not right about a bunch of 5 yr old gyrating their hips and flipping their hair, and dressing sexier than we do!! I'm with you...!

Good luck on the shirt thing...she's not likely to be happy, after all, so you'll probably need it! :)

EDIT: Just had a thought...we have a 2nd hand shop here called Plato's Closet...they ONLY take name brand things that are under 2 years old and in good shape.  Cheap, cheap, cheap prices...check out if there's a similar shop in your area...?  I've attached a link below...

Answer 17

I would not allow my child to dress like your daughter's friend, but $19.00 isn't a bad deal and what does it matter if it is from a trend store as long as it fits your idea of a dress code. Think back to when you were a teenager, didn't you want to shop some where trendy?

Answer 18

I wouldn't  buy that kind of shirt that price either. My friend was looking something up for her wedding night and this place wanted this nice underwear for 22. I don't order anything online unless it not in walmart store.

Answer 19

$19 sounds pretty expensive for a tshirt.  Perhaps you can find some better deals with end of the season t's--check out old navy-they seem pretty good about unloading end of season clothes at a pretty decent price--$4 a shirt or so...

As for your daughter's 11 year old s**t friend--why are you letting your daughter hang out with a s**t?  If you are truly concerned about this, perhaps you should do a little parenting.  I'm afraid people might start thinking of your daughter as an undesirable person as well by hanging out with her.  s**t by association, if you will.  It's not easy to do, but make sure your leading by example and letting her know that you don't approve of things, before she starts thinking that she should be wearing miniskirts that show her cheeks off too.  

Good luck--feels like a losing battle sometimes, doesn't it?

Answer 20

I am a parent of 3. $19 doesn't sound too bad but I would not buy it just because it had a label that is supposedly "cool".  My teens think that people like that are so shallow and sad, and feel the only way they can "fit in" is to copy everyone else.  I teach my kids to be smarter than that.