Parents: What kind of adult are you trying to raise?

Question

I am curious about whether or not parents think about what kind of adult they are trying to raise? If so, what kind of adult are you trying to raise, and what are you actively doing as far as parenting goes to assure that your child turns out that way?

Answer 1

Don't have children because I'm a child myself. But If I had children, I would raise them to become stars. Like the next Britney Spears....because I want $$$

Answer 2

Adults that think for themselves, question everything and are not afraid to be different from the crowd.

Adults that turn disadvantage into advantage and think positive thoughts to attract positive things to them.

Adults that are not afraid to ask for help from others when they need it.

Adults that do not fear their responsibilities.

Adults that do not need to join a religion or go into a certain building made by men to find God - they know that in their darkest hour they will never feel alone for God is with them and this too shall pass and tommorrow is always a better day.

Adults that are loved by their parents no matter who or what they turn out to be.

Adults that can still hug their Mummy and Daddy!

How? By trying to be that Adult myself. Until I am that Adult I can not teach them a thing. Children learn by example. Every time I fall they will fall - so I do my best - that is all any parent can do - it isn't as easy as it sounds as I fall a lot - but then so did my Mum and Dad :)

Nice question.

Answer 3

I want to raise an adult who can think for himself, question the world around him, and keep his eyes and mind open. I want him to stand up for what he believes in and learn from every experience that comes his way.

Sorry to say, mine isn't born yet, but he is due any day now!

Answer 4

i am raising my daughter to be accepting of all people, be curios, to be loving, love to learn, work hard, be respectful trustworthy and responsible.

I teach by example. i included her in house hold projects yard work and chores. She is responsible for cleaning her room (she is not exposed to have it perfect, she is 3.5 years old), we read to her, we encourage questions and answer them. we talk openly about life in front of her about our feeling about society and life.  

We do the best we can and we will love her no matter what she does or who is grows to be.  

Answer 5

Ask my parents and they will tell you

They will probably say a respectful and kind man

Answer 6

Humble outgoing responsible adult. Teach him how to respected and be respected. Allow him to make his own decision and keep him occupied with positive activities. Teach him how to be humble and grateful for what he has.

Answer 7

I raised my son to love God before all others, and to turn to him with any problem he had, big or small!! He has always come back to that in times of need, and has never once found it to be untrue!

The lord has been so true, so good, and so awesome to all of us our entire lives, that I know that is the ONLY way to LIVE YOUR LIFE!!!

Today, my son is a healthy, strong man, and GOD has delivered him from many, many, accidents which he should have been severely injured or killed, without a sratch; I have no grand-children from him, but I have 2 precious grandsons from my step-daughter, and she and her husband are raising them in the church and they are a living testimony to GODS Glory!! They are the most beautiful children, and so full of HIS GOODNESS!! They are such a blessing to me! I get such a blessing just getting to read a bible story to them or explain their sunday school lesson to them! GOD has been so wonderful to me!!

We are just trying to raise them to be Godly adults and always give God the Glory for Everything In Our Lives!

Answer 8

my baby deserve to be whatever he wants to be and to make sure that happens i try to give him everything and open all the doors for him " sports , arts , education and i am trying to help him be number one in any thing i can help him with so when he decides what he want to be he can be very good at it and he will have multiple backgrounds and knowledge to support him in all his life ... so wish me luck :) and good luck for you too .

Answer 9

well im trying to raise a doctor adult and i encourage my kid everyday and tell him to get good grades and yeah i think thats pretty much it  

Answer 10

I am trying to raise kind, understanding, strong adults who are confident and who care about others. I encourage them daily to be children with these qualities, I am an adult with these qualities so they have a good example. All I can do is point them in the right direction, it'll be their choice which path they take.

Answer 11

I know I'm not exactly a parent, I'm not even an adult yet, I'm a fifteen year old who's going to be a sophomore in high school and I have my whole life ahead of me. But, this question seems pretty interesting and I've had nice, long talks to know what my mother wants from me. So I hope you don't mind me answering.

First off, on behalf of my mother I think she's doing a WONDERFUL job at raising me. I know I sound cocky, but I think I have the best mother in this WORLD. She is my rock and my support, I know I can always go to her. She is such a strong person who came to this country with a man who she thought loved her only to turn mentally and physically abusive on her and his child. I love her with all my heart, she is my number one. :)

I guess my mother wants to raise me as an adult who is not afraid to pursue their dreams and goals. I have big, huge dreams of becoming a published young adult author (of course I have other back ups in mind that are equally creative and something I'd love) and she's never once stopped supporting those dreams. Whatever writing contest is going on, or whenever I'm writing a prompt or a short story she's always willing to read my sad, but also sometimes raunchy stories and she is always willing to give me her true, honest opinion. She always says for me to ignore the people who say I can't do it and pay attention to the ones who say you can.

She also always raised me to be respectful to everyone around me, she always lived by the "golden rule", treat others the way you want to be treated. I think I live pretty well by that rule. I think I'm too shy to be disrespectul to others anyways.

She also raised me to always be accepting and open minded. This, besides following my dreams and being respectful is one of the greatest lessons she could ever teach me. This world is full of diversity and uniqueness and I try to embrace it. She always said to me that just because someone shares different beliefs or thoughts and ideas then me does not mean they should be treated differently than anybody else and I should just accept it.

She also raised me to work hard especially when it comes to my school work. In school, I think I'm a pretty good student. I do get a C....in any math subject, but I've been struggling with math for years (any math subject has always been difficult with me) and even with a tutor I strulggle, but hey I'm not perfect. Which brings me to another lesson she taught me, don't over work yourself so much that you become so stressed and sick. I think that's a hard one for me to find that perfect balance. Not slacking off but not overworking myself. But I think that's a lesson everyone struggles with, I wonder if people ever find that happy medium.

As for other things, she's also raising me to not be so critical of myself and actually love myself. Which I think out of everything she's trying to teach me, is my hardest lesson. I am truly my worst enemy and I don't want to say I'm a pessimistic person, but I don't know. There are days when I love myself and days where I just can't stand myself, hehe, I have a love/hate relationship with myself.

There are other things she's trying to teach me and raise me to be, I think the biggest thing is to be my own person and to not let anybody define who I am. But I give her an A+ on how she's raising me. She's doing a pretty sweet job and I love her. :D  

Answer 12

Responsible, empathetic, curious, optimistic, friendly, happy, fun, strong, healthy, polite, safe, helpful, self-aware, always working to leave the world in a better condition than it was when they got here.

We try to model those traits.  We admire them in others.  We encourage them in the children.

Answer 13

Mostly I want kids I don't have to worry about when they are gone from my home.  You know, they obey the laws but listen to their heart, take care of themselves, respect themselves and others.  What am I doing to encourage that?  Well, for starters I try very hard to be the adult I want them to be, I personally think that is the biggest part of raising a successful adult.

Answer 14

Hopefully I am raising kids to be adults who are "go getters".  I want them to know that nothing is out of their reach, if they want it they need to try it.  I am showing by example, by being practical, hard working, talking lots of common sense, encouraging them in their interests, school, projects etc.  I have high expectations of them, their behavior and their character.

Answer 15

I do my best to raise i two children the bestest i could ever offer them.  They had more than i ever had in my lifetime.  I want them to be themselves and only and not trying to be someone else.  They have their own personality and very outspoken and willing to try new adventures and what ever their dreams are I will help to make thier dreams come true as long as they are still a believer. You have to believe in your self in order for them to have faith in them.

Answer 16

These are some of the key traits I want her to have as a woman..Independant, organized, thoughtful, sensitive, curious, open-minded, critical, adaptable, disiplined, observant, dignified, confident but not loud & overbearing, knowledgable, self-concious, logical, optimistic, healthy, stylish, honest, humble, communicative. Phew! can't think of any more..

I am inspiring these traits in her by disiplining her....trying to teach not just punish, respecting her, listening to her and keeping comunication very open in our relationship, but lastly & most importantly I'm modelling these traits myself.

Answer 17

alot of parents are raising girls that will grow up to be selcountious about the way they look

Answer 18

I'm trying to raise my kids close to how I was raised.  If you want something you need to earn it.  You need to be able to sleep at night, honesty and integrity.

And to send them off to college so they can earn a good degree and move out, make a good living and take care of me when I'm old.