Parents always make me go out with them?

Question

Whenever I'm home, chances are so are my parents. Today while I was IN THE SHOWER y dad knocks on the door and says "hurry up we're meeting your mother for lunch" (she was at work) I got out of the shower, and he expected me to be ready in five minutes. I told him "just go the two of you, I don't want to go" I didn't want to go because there was no way I'd be ready in time, and he'd just yell at me to hurry up. Because I wouldn't go, he called my mom and said forget it. I'm so mad. Why do I have to go EVERYWHERE with them. I'm 16! It's not like they don't want me home alone or anything. I never get any alone time and I hate it. Why can't he just get over the fact that they bore me! I don't want to go out to dinner, sit there for an hour eating something I don't like and listen to them talk about nothing. What's is problem?!! I can't stand it. I just want to be alone someitmes, and they won't let me.

Answer 1

When I first started reading this, I thought you were only around nine years old and was ready to scold you.

Now, after learning that you are 16, I am ready to shake your father and try to make him realize that in only 2 years you could legally be gone.

They have to allow you to adjust to adult life now, before you end up out in the cold without a clue!

Answer 2

welcome to the teen years...yes, girls your age do need some freedom and alone time.  Talk to your mom, (us moms know this) and be open and "friendly" about it, don't start off w/an attitude or she won't listen. Tell her honestly that sometimes you might jsut want to hang out at home alone (and listen to music, chat on the phone w/your friends, watch a movie) if they have something else to do and that you know your not to have anybody over, etc.  It's hard for parents to let go, so help them w/this process, but make sure you can be trusted.  don't go and ruin it.  good luck!

Answer 3

What is required from both you and your parents is balance.

Your parents need to recognise that you are becoming more indepenent and need some away from them.

You need to recognise that your are part of a family and need to participate on a family level.

Both you and your parents need to engage as ADULTS. You must take the responsibility of being a young adult and your parents need to allow you to be a young adult.

(I do not accept that a 16 year old is a child)

Answer 4

If you're an only child, since you were born, I would imagine their lives revolved around you. They include you in everything they do because if they didnt, you'd be left out. Talk to your parents and tell them that you need alone and me time. That its OKAY for them to go out without you. They wont hurt your feelings by doing things by themselves and going eat out without you. But you also need to be careful not to hurt their feelings by not being with them AT ALL. You can still go do things with them, just not as much. As for them talking about things that bore you to death, why dont you talk about things going on in your life or even say, hey! why dont we check out this place to eat?? Just start talking to them and dont get angry. This is regular teen stuff.