Parents- and their subtle little messages

Question

am jus getting agrevated by my mother, i think she wants me to move out.

i thought that i was staying at the house for her benefit so that she wouldn't feel lonely, i suppose, but my home life is becoming like h**l.

i try my best every morning to get up and feel good about it but i just can't. Its stressing me out, when i'm home i get completely ignored, if i wanna go out i get 21 questions, if i return home same thing happens-21 questions. if i say i wanna go and see freinds i get shouted out and get little bulshit, daily talking down to like "what will freinds do for you"...your gonna do this....you don't need anyone"...it feels like the woman wants me to be alone for the rest of my life.

its stressing me the h**l out. i'm thinking of moving out, getting my life together without ******* manipulation and control.

when i was younger i used to see people getting angry at their mother and stuff and often looked down at those people, but now i can trully understand where their coming from. WHAT THE h**l AM I SUPPOSED TO DO...advice please people

Answer 1

Desert Storm, certainly if you are old and mature enough then I would say move out and make a life of your own.  Many things may be going on in your mom's life up to and including menopause, so this may be part of what is making her appear so off the wall.  You do not explain your financial situation or age with us but if you can do so and live comfortably it is probably a great idea.  I also realize (not trying to sound sexist) how difficult it is for two women to be under the same roof.  Have a good talk with your ma and get your life together.  I certainly hope that she doesn't want for you to be lonely and not have others in your life, that would be very sad and lonely life.  Best of luck.

Answer 2

You don't say how old you are, but if you have a job and some security I would MOVE.

You need to become independent at some stage, without someone belittling you and making you doubt yourself.

You can still keep in touch with her, but why stay if she is making your life miserable?