Parents are fighting and bringing child into it...?

Question

lately my parents have been fighting over the stupidest things.

like, tonight, i heard them yelling and screming about one going to mcdonalds and not invinting the other =/

and i'm an only child,

and my parents are divorced (at least not yet...)

and i don't know what to do.

they keep coming to me and saying bad things about the other to make me on them sides.

and when they are together i don't know who to talk to because the other gets mad because i'm supposed to be on the other person's side.

and i don't know what to do... :[

Answer 1

I think the best thing for you to do is sit them down and have this conversation with them.  They may be so caught up in their own drama that they don't realize how they're making you feel.  If you talk to them and it still doesn't stop, I'd say the best response is to say you don't want to get involved in their fighting.

Good luck!  

Answer 2

So your parents are fighting over you and they are involving you on their problems... That's really bad. Try to talk yourself our of it. Say things like "mom, dad, keep me out of your problems, ok?" or thaibgs like that. Try to explain why you don't want to be involved.

Good luck!

If it doesn't work, email me.  

Answer 3

Dont worry ur so not alone.......same with me. Well yell at ur parents abt hwo their bringing u into their problems.......yell! and they should understand....if not stay neautral.....be on none of their sides and if they say somthing bad abt the other tell them to shut up or since you seem young....please shut up maybe more proper...lol sry i couldnt write more im really tired but if you need anymore advice or if something happens just let me know...

Answer 4

First off, you need to tell them that they are so wrong in making you pick sides.  That is like the most unfair thing parents can do.  Let them know that their fighting and bickering is extremely childish, and that YOU have more maturity than they do.  Basically, tell them to either grow up, or go to see a counselor.  Either way, they have to stop putting you in the middle.

Answer 5

I know how you feel, I am the only kid too. and my parents fight sometimes too. but just try to think that " it's their problem, they will work it out."

Answer 6

Tell them both, at the same time. that they are being ridiculous and to stop shoving you in the middle of their c**p. tell them that you wont put up with it anymore.

the next time try to involve you in any way. put your fingers in your ears and yell LALALALALALA until they get the point that you will not participate in their petty little arguments that have deeper problems behind them.

You don't deserve to be put in this situation. nothing is is your fault, its their problem. its hard, but, stay stong and keep your word. take care and keep your friends close.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Next time one of them comes to you and says something bad about the other, put your hand up, and calmly say, "Excuse me, but that is MY father/mother you are talking bad about.  I love them and it hurts when you say bad stuff about them"

They need to realize they need counseling to help their marriage, not gossiping their p*****n