Parents are losing their minds!!!?

Question

i have noticed the past few years that my dad mostly has been not remembering things. like when i ask him something like going to the movies...i ask him in about 10 minutes and he doesnt remember. then my mom is a diabetic and just today i had some friends over and she didnt like it. i told her that i was going to thheir house when she was on the phone and she said ok. she tells me when they get over that she didnt say that i could go over..and then fusses about how i needed to call this kid to thank him for something. then when i had to go give them something that my friends forgot...she got mad that i would walk on the wet floor and i said that i would wait...then she just cursed and went to her room.

im want to help my parents since im going to be out of the house in two years and i just want to help them. please no stupid answers..this is serious.

Answer 1

Yeah, we get forgetful like that. lol  Don't ask them questions when they are on the phone or watching tv. Get eye contact and make sure they understand you and get clarification that they gave you permission or whatever. Say, "so you said it's ok for me to go then?" If it becomes necessary write it down and have them sign it. They will either laugh at themselves for being so goofy and forgetful, or they will realize they need to pay more attention to you when you are talking to them. Sounds like they are tuning you out, which isn't fair. Unless they are much much older, are they? Then you are a good son for wanting to help, encourage them to see their dr.

Answer 2

i know what you mean, i really agree with the 1st answer.

Starred question.

Answer 3

Sounds like early Alzheimer's at worst, lack of focus at best.  It's probably that you folks aren't having CLEAR conversations, undistracted.  Force less hurried situations.

Answer 4

Watch your parents and start learning information on Alzheimer's, dementia. You are looking into some serious issues here.

http://www.hmc.psu.edu/healthinfo/d/deme...

http://www.alz.org/alzheimers_disease_sy...

Having our parents getting older is harder on us than it is on them..not because we have a new responsibility to them, but because we want ..our parents back.....Good Luck Take Care and God Bless

Answer 5

You have some problems here. How I would handle it is write it on a piece of paper for them.

Going to Bob's House at 4:00 Saturday.

Then make them sign after the note. Get a spiral notebook so there is no excuse they couldn't find the note or you didn't write one. This will work for everyone.