Parents argue a lot : help?

Question

my parents have always argued for as long as i remember, they have months where they are nice to each other and then weeks of shouting over small things, and it usually ends up with my father not speaking to my mother or vice versa and it's really childish! I want to intervene because I hear some real bad things being said to each other thats isnt nice to hear from their kids point of view. They start off on something small and then it turns out into screaming and bringing up the past "remember when you said you were going to ...." etc. Is there anything I can say to them to shut them up. They never split up (they have in the past only to get back) but its just annoying hearing them bickering. any help on telling them to stop?

Serious answers please, thanks a lot!

Answer 1

u know what! LEAVE IT! i happens all the time... they fight because they love each other too much! they fight and were the one who gets upset end of the day! Dont worry.. IF things gets worse just talk to them when they r good with each other and talk in a calm n mature voice,, Everything would be ok .. dont worry my friend...

HOPE IT HELPS!

Answer 2

There are two outcomes for this situation.

One, you keep it all in, eventually causing you to develop a completely separate, suppressed dark side, which may lead to a mental breakdown, heart failure, panic attacks, insomnia, and/or the need for therapy (I took this option and it didn't work as you can tell)

Two, talk it out with them and be as respectful as possible.  The many times I attempted to talk with my parents in the past often backfired because I lost my temper.  Be sure to talk in "I feel" language not "you are" language.  For example, don't tell them that they're being immature and driving you nuts, tell them that when they argue it makes you feel trapped and that you would like to see them happy.

And hey, no hard feelings on the blue hair comment dude.  It's easy to forget that there are real people on Y! answers, and I'm typically just on here to pass the time at work.  It's also easy to forget that there are younger folks out there (such as yourself) and it's not the best to harass them.  So, I'm sorry dude.  My entire childhood was h**l because of my parents fighting and me fighting with them.  Take the time to make a difference if you can.

When in doubt, wait it out.  Each day you age, the more they'll look to you as a respectable young man, not a nuisance.

Answer 3

approach each one individually and explain how you feel, as a mature adult they each should be able to control their outbursts, at least not infront of the children, tell them to have their debates in private as you as witness are not old enough nor wise enough to understand x

Answer 4

Just stay out of it and let them get on with it, your just a kid so don't poke your nose in where it isn't wanted.

Answer 5

Well hun, i mean you could try to intervene and tell them how you feel about it, then at least your point of veiw would be out there.

If they know that it's hurting their child/children then that may be their incentive to stop, or at least tone it down a bit.  

Answer 6

well if the small things they fight over are things like not going food shopping then just remind them of the things they've been ask to do by the other parent by saying things like "hey dad/mum didn't mum/dad want you to do the laundry" and just try that also if you have other siblings then ask them to join in. also ask them how they feel and if they don't like it then ask them to tell your parents how you feel. maybe if you have an elder sibling that's over 18 then maybe they could ask on your behalf. i just go into my room and play my ipod (with ear plugs coz loud nelly furtardo music is not going to help their moods! lol) but yh have a go and maybe (this is wot my sis did and they did calm down she just ran up to her room and cried! i know this might not apeal to you but it might help! my lil' bro just enjoys them arguin coz he can pick up new contacts by eaves dropping! GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 7

Go to them in different times and just tell them how you feel about all the arguing and tell them to work it about because it will affect their relationship with you.

Good luck ;)

Answer 8

My parents are real similar sometimes.  When they do, I just tell them how it affects me when I am only a kid & how I feel about it.  Then they try to keep it down or try to save it to where they could talk about it later, but not always.  Just talk to them, I am sure they'll understand your point of view and how it affects you, if you speak up maybe they'll at least try and tone it down around you.  Hope that helps, and good luck!

Answer 9

Tell them that if they want the last thing for their son to remember, if you hypothetically die tomorrow, is their constant fighting.