Parents can you give me positive reasons for a 7yr old to be homeschooled?

Question

I want to homeschool my son he is above average in everything and he is just not getting anything out of public school.

Since he was a few months old I have always in some way or another taught him.

I am a christian and his father is not we were never married I had him when I was 19. But his father is a big part in his life. We have 50/50 custody of him. I am now happily married for two years to a GREAT christian man.

I want to homeschool his dad does not see the point. How do I show him that this is in his best interest and he will still be able to socialize.

Please answer my other questions if you have time. (donnyandmelissa)

Answer 1

Honestly, I think you already know the reasons for this. You just need Dad to get on board. First, is he comfortable with your religion? If so, you have a better chance of explaining to him any religious teaching your son may receive. Are you willing to teach your child about evolution without placing a religious slant on the topic if he insists? (Sorry, if that goes against your religious beliefs. I'm just trying to find a good common ground for the two of you.) That is often a sticking point with some people and I do not think you should let it get in the way of your choice to HS. When that day comes, you could even teach him your thoughts on the matter and have Daddy teach his. There is a way to do this that is leasing to everyone. You could send off for some free samples of pre-packaged curriculums. Ask your ex to go over them with you and your husband. Let him know that he is a part of this process. Ask for his input. Invite him to a HS support group meeting or a party thrown by and for HSers. If he can see it, hear it and hold the information in his hands, he is more likely to give HS some serious thought. Perhaps you can even send projects and papers to his house on the weekends so that he can clearly see what is being learned.

Answer 2

Homeschoolers score higher on tests. Bullying, guns, cliques are all reasons not to send your child to the classroom the US calls the school system. It is terrific for losers, but since your child is bright he will be weighed down in group projects  helping those intellectually challenged classmates. Only in this country do we focus on the challenged more than the advanced students. Even in the wolf pack in nature, they know to favor the alpha.  Your son can still socialize in extra curricular activities and I know he will not be shortchanged. Most important is his relationship with you two. Good luck persuading him. I hope he isnt too righteous

Answer 3

Your statement that he's above average is a reason in itself.  There are a lot of reasons for it.  You have to figure out your own reasons and go from there.  Just a word of advice...turn a deaf ear to all the "socialization" nonsense you're going to hear.  It's NOT an issue.  My kids are intelligent, well settled, polite, secure, confident, compassionate, HAPPY, healthy and at least one to two grades levels ahead.  My kids are NOT bored, scared, lonely, intimidated, bullied, confused, left behind, labeled or confined.  They're interested in what they're learning, because they choose it.  And yes, they're "socialized".  They go way more places and meet way more people than they ever did when they were in school.  We gave them all a choice about their schooling.  Only one chose to go, in the kindergarten year.  He was home by Christmas.  I would recommend that you look into a program called Sonlight.  Here's the link:

http://www.sonlight.com/

I wish you the best.  For us, it has been fantastic.

Answer 4

a good compromise would be to take him to a privat eschool those always challenge children.

Answer 5

It is the BEST option for a child who is above or below average to be hs'ed - where else could your child have a private tutor who LOVED him and wanted what was best for him??

I think the 2 things you need to do with the boy's father are to show him that you will use an above-average curriculum, to meet your son's educational needs, and you need to have a schedule in place so you can show the boy will be able to socialize.  [That seems to be the sticking point of hsing - socialization - so that is what you should emphasize to the boy's father.  Hahaha, don't tell him the REALLY BIG ISSUE with hsing is how to keep the house clean with the kids home all day...]  You need to check with your local hs group to see what they offer - PE classes, a spelling bee or history fair, etc.  Get a copy of their schedule for this year so you can show what will be available.  Also, note what your son does at church - any SS class or club he goes to IS socialization.  If he is in any kids' choir or sports team, this will also count.  You could also make a list of what field trips you personally would take him on this year.  Hey, maybe even involve the boy's father by getting him to do certain field trips.

Answer 6

If you are able to put the time and all the work into homeschooling, it is generally superior to any public schools by far! It is very important to also get your child into some activities where he will be able to socialize with kids his own age though. Like sports, or some kind of club that he would enjoy.

In homeschooling, you have some options. You can either go through a school district where you will meet with a teacher every week or 2 so that you can ask for any help, and to turn in school work, and pick up more. I like this way because you know for sure you are keeping up with grade standards, as well as if your child is ahead. And most are fine with working ahead as long as your child is doing well. This way may also help your childs father feel better about homeschooling.

I dont know much about the other way, other then you can register with the state somehow, then you are completely on your own to figure out what to teach your child.

You child will recieve one on one instruction from you, patience, understanding, and flexibility to vacation or do other things when kids are normally in school. This can be fun. Example, do school work on saturday, and on monday go to an amusement park that is normally really busy on weekends. Or vacation when most people are in school, there are advantages to that.

I really love the option of homeschooling. Also, the influance of falling in with the wrong crowd is pretty much eliminated, since you know all of his friends while he is young. Learning bad things at school, not an issue anymore.

Good luck, check out some home schools in your area, there are even ofter parents that plan activities as a group for their home schooled kids.

Answer 7

Reasons to homeschool ANY child: more personalized education (which means BETTER educated in the long run), more free time, less stress, better influences... As for the socializing, you could get a list of activities going on within your community--both for the general public and within homeschooling communities, and you could just create a general 'plan' of how you would meet his social needs.

That said, if you have 50/50 custody of him, that is really going to cause some problems for homeschooling. What is your son going to do for school when he's with his father? He can't go to school one week and homeschool the next (or whatever arrangement you have). You can't expect his father to undertake such a responsibility just because you want to.

If you have some other arrangement where your son being with you for school time isn't going to cause problems with the custody arrangements, then reall y look into some of the research out there that you could share with the dad. Ask him to at least be open to discussing it and reading material on it before the next school year starts. This http://www.fraserinstitute.org/commerce.... is one of my favourite publications looking at homeschooling and its effects.

Be sure, too, to gently and respectfully cover all of his fears about homeschooling. If he sees you are willing to listen to him as much as you want him to listen to you, he won't feel the need to dig in his heels and will be more likely to be open to the possibility.

Answer 8

As an "above average" child, he can go at his own pacing in his work w/o waiting for others to catch up.  He'll have several hours each day to explore other things of interest.  You can tailor the curriculum to his learning style.  You'll have more time for activities with other children.  He'll be out "in the real world" with people of all ages, not just other 7-8 year olds.

You should connect to homeschoolers in your area to find out what activities are available.  I live in a city of about 65,000, and we have TONS to do - so much we can't do it all.  HS swimming team, HS bowling, HS ice skating, HS co-ops,  HS park days, HS field trips, HS tournaments (spelling bee, math, Contig, speech, etc), on and on and on.

My son is 10, and since he's always been HS'ed he and his HS'ed friends are respectful to others, themselves, and those in authority.  They know how to behave appropriately in public.  They really *want* to learn b/c they are not force-fed their education.

There are many, many, pros.  It varies a lot from family to family, just as the reasons for HS'ing varies, as does the method.