Parents coming to visit sooner than expected???

Question

My parents and brother are coming to visit me and stay here at my house for a week in Alabama. I haven't seen them for 3 years. On there way here they were supposed to do some sight-seeing and explore. Well my mom called me tonight and told me she wanted to come here sooner than expected, meaning tomorrow. I was hoping she would've gave me a earlier notice than that since I am not prepared!! I hesitated, and told her I had to talk to my hubby first.She took it the wrong way and kept saying that I must not want to see her. When I called my hubby he agreed and said Wednesday would be better. So now she has me feeling guilty for her having to stay in a hotel for another night until Wednesday. Is this my fault?? I think it is understandable if I am not prepared for guests. I don't even have an adequate amount of groceries!!But my mom is taking it the wrong way. What should I do??

Answer 1

Don't let them bully you. There is plenty to do anywhere you go.

If they can't understand that then it is their problem.

Answer 2

Whether you are ready for them or not, they are your family.  Did anyone ask them if they were ready when you or your brother were born?  We alway make room for family even if there isn't any.  Family always should come first.  My parents would be very insulted if I asked them to stay in a Hotel even for one night and I would never, ever ask them to.

Answer 3

Your mother can hardly argue with the truth.  Wanting to come earlier probably has everything to do with her love for you, and her eagerness to finally see you again.  She's likely fit to be tied with anticipation.  She may be hurt because she reads rejection into your reluctance. This is your Mommy - things don't have to be perfect for her to see you.    

Answer 4

so what if they come early tell them the truth that if they come now your n ot ready and you don't have enough food in the house for everybody i'm sure they will understand and if my m om called and said she was coming to visit i wouldn't care if i was ready or not i mean come on you haven't seen her in 3 years find a way to deal with it

Answer 5

There’s no way I’d tell my family to stay in a hotel, no matter how unprepared for guests I was.  My family is welcome in my home anytime they want to come.  But with that said, I’ll admit they don’t visit often, and if they were daily visitors, I might feel a little differently.  But obviously your family doesn’t visit often either if you haven’t seen them in 3 years.

  

Nor would I feel the need to first call and discuss this with my husband--other than to tell him that they’re coming early.  I wouldn’t need to ask his ‘permission’ and basically that’s what your call to him boiled down to (although I’m sure you’ll deny that).

What do I think you should do?  The thing you should have done in the first place--tell her to come tomorrow, but warn her that since they’re arriving earlier than expected, you’re not fully prepared, so your groceries are low and your house may not be spotless…they won’t care.

Answer 6

let them come and stay, u need not prepare a big banquet for them, they will understand and cooperate with you in getting things arranged, now if u have already said to them to come on wednesday, then go and meet her in the hotel and explain the situation, she will definately understand the situation

Answer 7

if i had not seen my mom in 3 years i would want her to come early. you could always take them shopping with you and just catch up. they are your family and i am sure if they are anything like mine they don't care if you have a million thing you had planed to do before they get there. that they would be happy to help you with it. they are your family after all.