Parents (dads mainly) - when would think it ok for your daughter to lose her virginity?

Question

Let me state two things first -

I AM A VIRGIN.

I PLAN ON KEEPING IT THAT WAY FOR A WHILE

I don't have a boyfriend, and I don't plan on having s*x any time soon, so that's not why I'm asking.

But I never talk to my dad about my relationships, I do to my Mum, sometimes.

But on a few occasions before, my dads made referances to s*x, and then commented on it saying stuff like "and if you know anything about that, i'll knock your head off" so it's kinda obvious he doesn't want me doing anything.

But I mean, realistically, would you rather she waited until marrige? Or just legal, at least?

I mean, I'm 15 in a few, and I'm not saying I want to, but there is a guy I like, and if we ended up dating, it could be a possibilty -next year I mean, I do have to trust the guy etc.

But I'm just wondering if my Dad would kill me for it.

Your opinions please :)

Answer 1

me like most dads will say never

Answer 2

I was 15 when I lost my virginity.  I ended up marrying him, but we got divorced just a year later.  I'm still not sure if I truly loved him or if I married him because I didn't believe in s*x before marriage.  I wish I would have waited, but then again I'm not so sure my life would have panned out like it has and I am very happy now.  I honestly (looking back) don't believe I was truly capable of knowing what TRUE love was until I was much older.  I don't think anyone should have s*x unless it is true love, but if my daughter comes to me and tells me she is having s*x, I would not "kill" her.  I would embrace her and educate her more than I thought I already had.  She is only 12 right now and knows everything.  She (knock on wood) said that she plans to wait until marriage.

Answer 3

hun Im 31 and I still get those comments from my dad!!! No matter whether youre 10 or 50 you'll always be your dads little girl and the thought of a man slobbering all over you will always be our dads worst nightmare - remember they were young horny men at one stage too, so they know what guys are doing to us!!!

When you're older you dad will know that it is a big possibility that you will be having premarital s*x, I personally dont believe in waiting until after marriage so am sexually active, and whilst I know my dad knows this, Id never actually admit it!!

x*x

Answer 4

SAVE IT TILL YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH!!!!!!!

Answer 5

As a Dad, let me tell you that the hardest time in bringing up your kids is the time when you have to accept that you are no longer one of the hubs that their lives revolve around and that they are no longer YOUR little girl, or little boy. They are young women and young men building a life of their own.

Dads, unfortunately for you, remember what THEY were like when they were young! They dont want THEIR daughters  to be easy conquests like some of their early girlfriends. they remember that young girls are SO gullible and want to believe all the rubbish the boys pile on them to get them into bed.

16 seems to be a watershed age when dads reluctantly accept that their daughter/s may be having 'adult' relationships.  before that age it is hard to accept because Dad knows the pit falls and is no longer travelling through life with Rose tinted glasses!

When you decide that the time is right for you to be in an 'adult' relationship your dad may not like the idea but will most likely already be prepared for the eventuality and he sure is not going to murder you. I know that you will think this just plain old fashioned, but it is a great pity that so many youngsters dash into adult relationships before they are really out of childhood.

My daughter was always able to talk freely about personal matters with me but not with her Mum - probably because I am very placid and Mum has a hair trigger temper, so I would hear her out when Mum would explode.

Answer 6

i dont think your dad will ever want to know much about your s*x life. I think as long as you wait untill your legal, your dad trusts the guy and you have safe s*x (using condoms AND birth control) then your Dad may turn a blind eye. But then everyone is different. Just be honest and show your maturity and he will trust you much more to make the right choices.

Answer 7

I'm a dad have 14 year old daughter...Boys of this age 15, 16, 17...have no clue who they are and are dangerous 'cause all they want is the one thing. Unless they are deeply in love with you and have some kind of future...What kind of future can they realistically have when they are that young? Why bother 'cause they don't know what they are doing. You need to protect your body from frivalous boys who would like nothing better than to get a notch in their belt. Some are good though...you will need to evaluate your feelings, your readiness and whether or not a boy is worth having you...remember you are in control. Boys will be boys and girls are typically the ones who control this. Stay in control. Do the right thing for you and for the right reasons and convictions. Be smart Hun! Take care.

Answer 8

I would want my daughter to have s*x for the first time on her wedding night.

And not before.

And he won't KILL you, but it will break his heart.  And he will be so hurt and not able to see you the same way again afterwards.

I mean really.  15 and having s*x.  That's just too d**n young.

Answer 9

im 13 and not a virgin....i lost it and hated it he told everyone!!!then ppl tired to have s*x with me all the time if u can trust the guy not to tell anyone and if so just have him tell his bffs who can KEEP THERE MOUTH SHUT!!! and ur dad wont kill u in his mind ur his lil girl still he sees u like ur 5 still it will hurt him..but then he will know tht ur blooming.......just make sure u use protection...PLZ USE PROTECTION!!!we didnt and trust my life was horrible 4 41/2 months!!!! until i lost it so plz use protection plz

Answer 10

Good for you! I will not like my daughter to take risks of an early or unwanted pregnancy and a s*x disease. After all it is a future life that is at stake.