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Parents failing to turning up for regular contact

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my grandchild is in my care under a interim care order, the parents are allowed three supervised contact visits a week,, they are failing to attend on a regular basis on average they seem to attend one a week always coming up with poor excuses what will happen if they continue to be like this,,, anyone who can answer this for me thankyou x x

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  1. The courts or Child protective services, will see the parents behaviour as detrimental to the child.

    Children need stabling influences in their lives & his/her parents are not proving to be stabling influences.

    If the care order states that the child is to have 3 contact visits with his/her parents per week, then his/her parents should turn up for those visits. It's their child that they are hurting, they must be blind if they can not see the damage they are doing to the child.

    The child is lucky in one respect though hun, he/she has you as one stabling influence in his/her life. He/she is happy & well cared for with you. He/she has a great role model in you, you can teach him/her the manners, morals & patience that his/her parents seem to have convieniently forgotten.

    Good Luck. X :-)


  2. Gosh!  This is so close to home it could almost be my question!

    My beautiful grandchild is being brought up by my ex and his wife, I am happy about that as with ill health I am not be able to.

    My son is speaking to nobody in the family at the moment including his child.  I don't excuse his behaviour but with what has gone on some of it could be understood.

    His ex girlfriend however cannot be excused for her behaviour and no amount of her trying to look good will never work in my eyes or other family members.  

    The child will grow up hating their parents for not being there when they should have been and it will be their own fault.  As the visits are supervised I hope something is sorted out soon for your grandchild's sake.  I believe that the child will look on the grandparents as the parents as they have given a stable home and family life by them - such as it can be.

    I do hope your grandchild's life is sorted out for the better soon as I pray my grandchild's will be.

  3. I think as long as your grand daughter has you in her life and a sense of stability she will be fine overall.  However, if her parents don't put themselves in her life on a more regular basis she may grow up to resent them.  

  4. It can be used against them if you are applying for sole custody of your grandchild or if there is an application for the child to go into care from social services (UK).

    You grandchild has an interim care order for a reason so unless the parents pull their socks up they could lose their child, in an extreme example.

    If social services are already involved you could try discussing it with them informally.

    Best of luck - you sound like a great grandmother/ mother

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