Parents help...? (LONG)?

Question

Okay, so I dont really know what to do. My parents are so strict. Over the summer i hung out with my friends TWICE. And they make me go over my homework with them... It's really annoying. But I am a senior! I think my homework should be my buisness and I can take care of it with out them! They also make me plug in my phone to charge in there room at night at 10:30 because i will stay up ALL night texting or talking on the phone to a guy.. (Which i did do that once, but it was TWO YEARS AGO!) It's been going on ever since then. I also have to get off the computer every night at 9:30 because they think it takes me an hour to get ready for bed. If its 9:31 they start yelling me. My parents also think im a L*****n or something I swear. So i've only had one boyfriend.. so what. They say it with everything. Oh that shirt looks like a L*****n, oh you can't do your hair that way you look like a L*****n. They even said my WoW charachter looked like one so i was going to have to delete it. I don't know what to do anymore I just want to get out of this house but I really can't. Does anyone have any suggestions? Oh, and everytime I try to be like Mom, I'm a senior I can handle my own homework.. All she does is yell at me "You always procrastinate! And you never do any of your homework! Without me you would be failing all your classes! And blah blah blah" But I'm the one doing my homework. So I don't like to do my homework RIGHT after school, i like doing it at five or six.. I ALWAYS finish my homework. And I'm a really good student. Without my mom i would have the exact same grades and the exact same test scores but i would just have less stress =/

Answer 1

are you 18? if so you need to tell your parents you are not a baby anymore and can do things on your own. if nothing happens then listen for the year and go to a college far away next year

Answer 2

She is being a mom. She cares and wants to see you suceed. The L*****n thing is wierd, I would just ignore that.

You could ask her to let you keep track of homework and computer and cell phone on your own without her petering you. If you fall behind doing things on your own tehn she proved her point.

Answer 3

There seems to be so much yelling and not enough talking. Sit with your Mother explain that you feel suffocated at times. Tell her you appreciate all the years she has spent bringing you up but now you would like to go things alone as she did and you would appreciate her still being there when you needed her. Then I would take her for a coffee or buy some flowers to prove that she is appreciated by you and hopefully things will resolve. You see, se is trying to hang on to you, you are still her little girl and she does not want to lose you, every Mother goes through this but react in different ways. Try to encourage her to join some activities, try to include her in something at the school, for example, ask her to knit some items that could be sold for charity at your school. I hope then you will be on a 1 to 1 with her.

Answer 4

Ok...if you are so tired of it..run away! Get a job...pay for yourself and stop complaining about your parents (who probably care). Then when you do...get back here and tell us how happy you are once you think you have obtained your freedom...Take Care little one

Answer 5

WOW well being a senior is hard u have homework,school,and parents.They just want the best of u.And u need to have a talk with your parents,tell them ''i am old enough to handle myself.I can do homework and everything.I am old enough to do stuff on my own I am not a little kid anymore and I can do stuff myself.I will do my homework,and just because i wear my hair and had one boyfriend does not make me L*****n.''Try that but it seems they are going over board w/ this.by 18 u can move out they do not have legal custiady and find a job when 18!!!

GL=)))

-Sarah

Answer 6

They want what's best for you, but this is a little outta control, especially the phone thing and them calling you a L*****n.  I'd talk to them straight forward.  Usually parents won't yell at you if you really act hurt about things, and they SHOULD listen to reason..  If they end up yelling at you, then I'd go see a guidance counselor at your school to get help.

Answer 7

Ahhh sweety I really feel for you.

Growing up , I regret this,But I HATED my mom. She was so strict, or so I thought. Now that I am grown I realize she was only trying to help me. ...

but thats just me

As for you, this is something that you have to deal with your parents. May I suggest that you write them a letter? When I did something wrong ( because I wasn't much of a good girl like you,I gave mom a reason to be strict)  I always just wrote her a letter. If your mom has email, do it that way. But like I said writing something and truely expressing every word in the letter should most likely help you. Leave it somewhere where you know she goes every day and let her sit and read it.

But sweety, in the letter don't just sound like a typical teen who "Wants there space" We know you aren't. And when writing, be very serious about it and show her how mature you've become. I really hope this helps. Good luck ! ;)

Answer 8

Well for the L*****n problem i know your parents are strict but i would probably just tell one of ur really close guy friends at school or if you kno one guy tht likes you, tell him and then bring them to ur house for dinner or something and kiss them rite in front of your parents. For the grades/homework thing..if you like being a good student u might not like this but this is wut i suggest..go to your mom and say mom i can do my own homework i am responsible and if you dont trust me well im just gonna have to STOP doin my homework to show u tht if you think you yellin at me makes me do my homeroom your wrong cuz u can yell at me right now and im still not gonna do my homework. i can do it by my self..im a senior! im not 10 anymore! For the phone problem..i would hide your phone and be like mom i lost my phone. so u can like plug ur phone in whenva ur moms not home or if u have an ourfit like on the side of ur bed u can plug it in and have it charge under ur bed. u can use this until ur mom or dad suggest that either u find ur phone or wateva they punish u for then ur gonna have to say mom dad..im a senior and keep treating me like a baby im never gonna grow up so just leave me the h*ll alone pleasE! tht might be a little much but tht should tell them.  

Answer 9

how old are you? if you're 18 years old, then you can move out because they don't have legal custity over you anymore.

Answer 10

You poor dear, I do feel for you!  It seems they lost there trust in you when you stayed on the phone all night with a boy 2 years ago.  Well, hey, they should be happy it was a boy since they're so convinced you're a L*****n.  Your parents need to give you some breathing space, may be you need to have a heart ot heart talk with them and make a deal with them so that you can prove you are responsible.  If they have to keep telling you what to do all the time, how will they know how responsible you really are?

Answer 11

Wooooo. Okay, not to sound negative, but you DO realize we only have one side of the story here, so forgive me if I come off as not completely in your camp. I promise, that's the only reason why.

A parent's job is simple: raise the kid to be a helpful part of society. How they choose to do it is up to them (mostly). I think they sound waaay overly-concerned with your activities and stuff, but can you understand where they're coming from? Even if you texted all night only once, they simply aren't giving you the chance to do it again. That's their right, but I think it's time to see if you can fly on your own. The bottom line seems to be that they don't trust you one whit. I think it would do you all some good if you ask them if they could sit down for a few minutes to listen to what you have to say to them WITHOUT TALKING for five minutes. Don't be angry. Don't exaggerate. Explain to them that you are an adult (whether you're 18 or not) and you think it's time they trusted you to be responsible. There's no other way to know what you're capable of if they won't let you try on your own, after all. Good luck!!

edit: Plus, those L*****n comments... seriously, I think with their overly type-A personalities, they're more likely to push a child in that direction than most families would be...  are they homophobic or what? Thinking homosexuality is wrong is one thing, but looking down on them is wrong, too. Their comments make their feelings on this clear, and it's very rude of them.   :/

Answer 12

Think about it this way, you're heading off to college and starting your life. You're parents love you, and all they want is the best for you. You need to tell them (calmly) that you're going to be moving on with your life. If they keep trying to help you along, you won't make your own mistakes and learn from them. But they do mean well, they love you so much that they don't want you to see the darker side of people.

And as for only having one boyfriend, good for you. At least your not like the other brats who hook up with guys left and right. I'm a jounior and only had one boyfriend, and i have friends who've never gone out with a guy. It doesn't define you, and it most certainly doesn't make you a L*****n.

You're studies are very imporant, so show your parents when your work is done. Say, "MOM LOOK LOOK IT'S DONE!" Show it off. Be proud of yourself even when its just a little school assaignment. And please, it's your senior year girl, DON'T STRESS! This is the last year you have as a kid. Then the world is all yours to take on.