Parents how would you act to your 17 year old sons girlfriend if she had his baby?

Question

Im just wondering cause me and my boyfriend just had a baby three months ago (both 17) and his mom has helped me a lot and his whole family loves the baby but i still feel like this mom and dad hate me and so i dont like going over there but i just wanted to know somewhat of how they could feel and anything i could do. . .

Answer 1

sorry but it kind a funny when you say you think his mum doesn't like you mums that have sons find it very hard to let go of there boys than girls it very hard for a girl to win over a boys mum i remember when i was dating this boy and his mum use to give me dirty looks when she saw me cause i was dating her son but the thing was i new it was just a fling and not real love. his mum  will have to get over her self cause even if you 2 don't make it as a couple u will still be a round cause of the baby so if he really loves you he stick to your side and not hers but here i am 18 and i just in a relationship and his mum is still warming up to me

Answer 2

Disappointed at their stupidity, ignorance, the poor child's future, and the loss of both of your futures. You BOTH screwed up and now that child will suffer.

Answer 3

i wouldn't be too happy about it, but i would learn to accept the fact that it's happened.

i definitely wouldn't hate you for it.

but it's probably all in your head.

if it's not, they just need some more time to adjust.

but remember to always be polite :)

Answer 4

they hate feeling should go away. they be upset with you since you let it happen.

there blaming you in there mind is easier for them to blam you for there own sons fault. you should be sharing reposiblites.

as far as that dont let it bug you and keep going dont do anything. or you could make it worse.

Answer 5

Truthfully I would not be too happy with either on of you.

17 is way to soon in my opinion to start a family.....you should be getting ready for college and the start of another chapter in your lives.

I would help as much as I could financially.....I would of course love the child.....but I would be very disappointed.

Answer 6

they may look on you as the woman that wrecked their sons life but they need to realise that it takes two to make a baby.

Answer 7

I don't think theres much you can do to make them HAPPY with the situation, eventually i would think they'll be more comfrotable with it though. If the baby is 3 mos., its still a pretty new thing for them to adjust to. I doubt they HATE you if they've helped you out, they're probably disapointed in the fact your both young and have a HUGE responsibility now,when most people your age are just barely getting an idea of who they are and what they want in life.They have to realize you didnt get pregnant alone. Just be a good parent and you'll earn respect.

Answer 8

Well your 17 years old and there grand parents give it time for them to get used to things.  I mean think about it now that your a parent what if you child had a baby with someone else how would you feel?  Know what i mean?

Answer 9

i was 17 when i had my son. don't even ask how old he was. he's not a part of our lives and isn't important, my parents were a little angry about it, but they came around it just took some time. and he is 17 probably still in high school or getting ready to start college how does the baby affect that?

Answer 10

It is not what I would want but I would not hate you for it. Whats done is done and it cannot be taken back. No sense in staying mad about it. You should not have to keep paying. Maybe she does not really hate you. Maybe you are just taking it that way. You could tell her how you really appreciate the help that she has given you and you are glad that she has not condemned you but accepted your situation. Just be open and honest with her.

Answer 11

Well I was 17 when I had my first daughter with my b/f(now husband) and his mom actually treated me better.I dont know why she hated me from the get go because I was shy,I wasn't a hoebag I always wore clothes that COVERED my body,I was relaly polite and tried to make conversation so they wouldn't think I was stuck up but she still ended up not liking me(I think it was because he baby was taken then) but I dunno we do not get along and never have. As for me as a parent of 3 girls(well almost 3) I won't be in that situation,but if I was and she was a decent person I would treat her with respect because for one the girl didn't do anything to make me think she was a bad person and for two I would want to see my grandchild every so often instead of just on holidays or something like that. They could feel like they lost their baby to someone else and now he is a daddy so maybe it scares them to know that...

Just try to be as nice as possible and even if you don't like going over there I would suggest doing what I do and suck it up for that day and go over anyway(even tho I absolutely HATE seeing his mom) its better for them to know they do not intimidate you and you are "comfortable" with being around them and it will make your boyfriends life 20xs easier.