Parents just don't understand?

Question

I feel like my parents never listened to me. I never asked for anything but respect. I wanted to make them happy by earning good grades and studying hard. I've always been an A student and I've never broken their trust, but they never seemed to understand. Whenever i ask to go shopping my dad gets furious and says I'm always wasting their money. I'm not spoiled and I don't wear high end fashion labels. I rarely go shopping and I haven't gone this whole year of 2008. My mom never buys me anything over $10, yet she goes out Friday nights with her friends to go shopping. Whenever i ask for school supplies my dad says to use the old folders/pens/pencils because we have so many. Sometimes it just feels nice to have new things around the house. Whenever i ask for shoes, they argue and say one pair of shoes will last me all year and never buy me anything. I'm 16 but i can't get a job because I'm volunteering for hours. They don't even consider giving me allowance or letting me get a job because it's either "a waste of money" or "a waste of time". Whenever i ask to go out with friends, for a movie or just hanging out, they say no, you have to study and study and study. I believe that people need breaks and you can't study all the time. My friends get to go out any time they want and they don't even have to ask. My older brother who is 19 also doesn't need to ask, he goes out whenever he wants. My parents don't care where they go and give him an allowance. All i wanted was for a little freedom and independence.

Answer 1

I know how you feel. At least i did to some degree.

I have an older brother, and he always got to go out late and hang out with his friends 24/7, while it felt like I had to stay home and hang out with my parents. I finally just sat down and talked to them and they got it. i know it feels like they should just understand, but sometimes they need a little push!

The worst thing that happens is nothing changes so you should try it!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Your brother is an adult and doesn't need permission to do anything from your parents. You however have to wait until you are 18. As soon as you hit 18, get a job, get an account, save up some money, move out.

Answer 3

That really sucks =( I'm in the same situation as you, and I don't like it at all. However, I go out when I want to- I just leave ntoes for my parents letting them know where I am.

If you have somewhere to go, then go. Leave a note, call them or tell them, but go. you need a life too, or you will get burnt out from studying, and then what? You won't feel like doing anything anymore. This is where I'm at right now. So if I need a break from my family, i leave. I go to the library for a few hours, or hang out with my friends. Or just take a quick walk around the block.

But do SOMETHING. You can't always please your parents, but you do have to respect them. Respect them, but be firm in your choices.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

I would go ahead, stop volunteering and get a job.  It makes me cringe to hear about your situation... I'm sorry.  If there is seriously nothing you can do... you only have two more years under their Hitler-like regime.  Perhaps you can get a college scholarship because of your grades.  Anyway you do it... get out of there when HS is over and never look back.  Your parents sound like jerks.  

Answer 5

i know wut u mean about the friend thing i have it lyk tht too

try getting a job during the summer on the weekends and volunteer on teh weekdays tht way u can do both hope i helped