Parents know that I party and have s*x now...help!?

Question

I'm 18 and about to leave for college in a couple weeks. I have been drinking/partying/having s*x for over a year now and my parents have been for the most part oblivious (i know they are not stupid but i have been very secretive and pretty much live a double life). i'm an only child and my parents think i'm an "angel." today my mom overheard my phone convo with a friend that was about our crazy weekend....now my parents know....so what do i do now? and advice? i'm really depressed and upset.

Answer 1

youre 18, and an adult, be honest. if they didn't ask about whether you were an angel or not, its not your fault.

what can they do? hate you for being normal? kick you out? honesty is the best way. you cant change whats past.

Answer 2

talk to them

ur an adult

there will understand

Answer 3

deal with it

Answer 4

You Pretty Much Bit The Hand That Fed You. Now You have To Sit And Suffer The Consequences. Whether You, Or You parents want To Or Not.

Answer 5

You're just lucky your parents didn't find out about your wild ways through a pregnancy or jail time for underage drinking. The way you're living is foolish and I'm glad you're parents found out. Now maybe they'll help you get on the right track and start making wiser decisions. You're 18 so please GROW UP! s*x is for married couples and drinking is not for 18 year olds.

Answer 6

What, did you think they would never find out? guess you'll just have to deal with the fact you are no longer an "angel" in their eyes. At least it didn't happen until now though. You are moving on to college at just the right time, sounds like. So, what was the problem again? Do you feel bad because maybe you feel it's wrong? or are you just feeling bad for disappointing them? Face it, you end up disappointing them sooner or later--it could have been worse. Just relax and love them--what else can you do.

Answer 7

I'm sure it's pretty disheartening knowing you're probably disappointed them.  But regardless of how long you've been deceiving them, you are an adult now, and are free to make your own choices.  You don't want to know about their s*x lives, and are under no obligation to include them in the loop about yours.

If their trust is important to you and you're upset about disappointing them, the best thing to do is approach them with the information and help ease their minds (and your guilt).  Assure them that their parental efforts were not in vain.  I would say something like, "I know you overheard my conversation, and I can't imagine what you must think, but I just wanted you to know that despite laughing it up with my friends about my behavior, I really am being careful and responsible.  I need to feel the world out for myself a bit, but I'm sure I won't wander too far from the values you've raised me with."

Parents get worried when their kids seem to be wandering too far from the values they've tried so hard for years to instill.  Keeping open lines of communication and trust, while establishing your adulthood and ability to make your own decisions, should help make things easier on both you and your parents.

Answer 8

Change your ways!!!  Go to a good church---not just any one, repent, get counseling, get new friends.  Change!  If they see you changing they won't be so upset.  Don't break their hearts.

Answer 9

Your parents think you're an angel...really? What, they're unable to smell alcohol? They don't notice when you're out in the evenings?

They know. They've known for months. They've just chosen to let you make your own mistakes. I'm afraid you're the one who has been oblivious.

It's up to you now. Is this the way you want to live your life or isn't it?

Answer 10

just try to ignore all the akwardness if ur parents dont say anything then that means that they dont want wanna talk about it either but if they do just come out and say the truth ur 18 its not like u broke the law.....and i on a personal not i have already had s*x and im only 17 but i never talk about it at my house when im on the phone wit my friends

Answer 11

You should be upset, you have been living a pretty wild life for an 18 yr. old. At that rate you`ll be burned out at 25. Stop your drinking and sleeping around and try to gain your parents trust back, you apparently hurt them deeply. Knuckle down to your college studies and strive for high grades, that will show your parents you have turned over a new leaf and toned down your partying ways. Get your head together and get a good education, that will take you farther in life than being a party girl.

Answer 12

growing pains. are they mad?? must be. i feel worse for your parents than i do u. don't live a double life anymore. be honest about what u do-- no matter what life u live. lol. do u really think thats the first time they overheard u on the phone? anyway, i think they lost a little trust in u, cuz im sure you have told a lie or two in that time frame. u have to earn it back by being honest. parents know-- alot have been there and done that. and maybe they HAD a life like that, too, and just never told u. i dont know. do u feel guilty now?? thats normal. do they make u feel guilty?? lol thats normal too for some parents. man....i remember that feeling of the first official "bust" of my parents catching me party. everything changed for me. i feel for u and your parents. u cant have it both ways and feel good about lying and whatever else u do to be "secretive". just have to take it like a man/woman. growing pains.

Answer 13

YOU ARE 18, your parents know what your doing, dont be fooled...sometimes parents just wish to ignore things they know. The best thing you can do is re-assure your parents before you leave for college that they raised you right and even though your having fun and doing typical teenage things that you will be careful...tell them the things you wont do...some examples are , you will not drink and drive, or get into a car with anyone who is drinking, tell them you will always have protected s*x, ...sometimes parents want to  know what you wont do more then what you will do..they will know that you are aware of what is wrong, not only what is right..

Answer 14

when your 18, it makes you an adult....

Answer 15

What upsets you?  Are you upset because your parents are disappoitned or you feel guilty?  Are you upset because you are in trouble?  You need to answer that question before you can figure out what to do.

Answer 16

HAHA DANG U FCUKED UP LOL U CANT REALLY DO **** NOW CUZ THEY KNO... BUT JUST LET THEM KNOW YOU'RE BEING SAFE ATLEAST. USING PROTECTION, NOT DRINKING & DRIVING..ETC... OR YOU CAN JUST TELL THEM ITS PART OF LIFE & UR GROWING UP =] HAHA TIMES ARE CHANGING AND BEING YOUNG AND ******* UP IS THE FUN IN LIFE LOL =] AHAHA I WISH U THE BEST BUT DONT STOP LIVIN IT UP =]

Answer 17

Well you've only got yourself to blame for hiding what you get up to from your parents - so in terms of being upset and depressed you'll just have to deal with it.

Life is all about the choices we made and learning to live with the consequences.

Answer 18

talk to them about it..

your 18, your basically an adult noww...