Parents of 19 year olds?

Question

I'm 19 and living at home with my parents for the summer and plane on returning to college in the fall. Lately my parents have been trying to run my life, telling where i can go, where i cant, who i can see and who i cant. I feel that as a 19 year old who has already attend a year of college and lived on her own for that time, I can make my own dicisions. I do understand that there are some rules I have to follow while living thing there house, but how do i tell them they need to loosen the ranes a lot. I feel that they have crossed the line, but they feel they can still ground me. I would just like to know how you deal with your 19 year old.

Answer 1

There will come a time when your parents aren't around to "run your life" anymore and you will miss it. For now, suck it up and do as they say. You'll get more of their respect if you follow their rules without complaining about it. Just remember that you will be back at school and on your own soon.

Answer 2

Is it possiable to stay somehwere else,if this is such a problem.There gonna act like parents no matter what.They have probably missed you why u we're gone so now they are overduing it forgetting of your knew independance...Good luck.

Answer 3

My son is 19, I do like to know when he go's out and when he will be back home,  He lives at home, works full time, is very responsible but some times as his mom I am over protective and some times say he shouldn't go to certain places, but we usually talk things out, it's hard for a parent to just let go, and hard for teens to understand all we want is to protect you guys, what I would suggest is having a calm talk with them and explain you are away at school and have to make your own choices and they are not there to see what your doing and so far you've made right choices so for them to just trust you and kinda loosen up, and like you said you do live in there home and they take care of you so there are rules you have to follow, just try and see if you can all come to some happy place where your parents are comfortable and your comfortable it's not easy I know, I have a hard time doing it my self, but  my son dose talk to me and eventually I do understand some times us parents forget what it was like to be 19 and want some freedom, it will get better

Answer 4

hey if you live in their house then their rules, thems the brakes

Answer 5

my ex's parents turned into monsters when he turned 18 - they thought that he was going to leave immediately because he could, so they tried to hold on as tight as possible.

maybe that's kind of what your parents are doing.

talk to them - tell them that you really appreciate staying with them, and all the help they've given you, but you're not a child anymore and would appreciate if they'd treat you with a little more respect.  tell them you understand that there is rules since you are living with them, but that you have your routine and way of doing things, and would prefer not to change it so you aren't dependant on them when you go back to college.  (not that you will be, but it may sound good)

Answer 6

As long as they fund your existence, they will continue to have power over you.  And parents always think they know what's best for their children.  Try to demonstrate how responsible you are, avoid childish arguments (but don't be afraid to voice your opinion, politely), and accept that you won't really have that much control until you're living on your own.

Answer 7

Girl know exactly how you feel!!!  I'm 18 and feeling the same way!!! lol I dont know what to tell you but all i know is what others have told me. & something that you could probably tell your parents. We're done growing up. We're living our lives . They're the ones growing up. && they have to realize that. They need to let go... we know that but they don't. I'm the oldest out of 3. I've grown to be a chauffer, maid, and babysitter, but not a daughter, so it sucks...but hey of you decide to talk to them, let me know how it turns out!!!! I would like advice, also!!

Answer 8

Tell them I am going to college, so I think I can see who I want

           They can't run your life forever!!!!!

Answer 9

As long as you live in their house, they will try to run your life. Its just a natural thing for parents to do (even if you are 40). Just talk to both your parents and remind them that you are a responsible adult and check in with them if you are running late so they don't worry...

Answer 10

my 20 year old son lives his own life. comes and goes as he pleases. ive learnt that he has to make his own mistakes. i still worry sometimes, obviously, but i have to trust him.

Answer 11

yeah, well I am 15, and you being 19 does not make you really too much older than me.

Anyways, I think the time that they will let you be more free is when you get out of college and get a high paying job that uses your education,that will make you look more like a responsible adult. If not that they will let you be free for sure once you are maried once you are older. So just wait because you are still a student.

I think the same thing of my parents, but just look to the future, you probably only have a little bit of this much time left