Parents of adopted children....?

Question

I have a few questions if you don't mind answering them. If you don't wish to answer one of them please just skip it.

1. How many children have you adopted?

2. How old were they?

3. Was the process a postivie and enjoyable experience?

4. Did you adopt from foster care?

5. Did you adopt from a different country?

6. Did you name them or did you keep their names?

7. Would you do it again?

Thanks so much for your time:o)

Answer 1

1. Q: How many children have you adopted?

    A: 1

2. Q: How old were they?

    A: 2 weeks old

3. Q: Was the process a postivie and enjoyable experience?

    A: We had to battle with another couple and near the end of the process an aunt almost adopted her, but we got her in the end because the aunt was proven as an unfit gaurdian. So it wasn't very joyful.

4. Q: Did you adopt from foster care?

    A: No.

5. Q: Did you adopt from a different country?

    A: No

6. Q: Did you name them or did you keep their names?

    A: Her birth parents hadn't named her, but me and the birthmother decided on a name.

7. Q:  Would you do it again?

    A: Yes. I would like to help more children, and so does my fiance. I was adopted, so I feel it's important.

Answer 2

1. Two (siblings)

2. 18 months and 3 years old

3. The process was scary, painful, and frustrating

4. yes

5. No

6. kept their names

7. Yes

Answer 3

2

approx. 5 wks old,  2yr old

bittersweet.  Happy to be parents but sad to watch DD's other mother in pain.

no

yes one child

kept their names

no, not unless from foster care.  Currently foster care is the only adoption i can 100% support.  

Learn from me.  It is not a good place to be in wondering if with a little more support or money my children's first parents might have kept them.  Its not a "happy" place to be.

Love my children beyond words and can't imagine my life without them.  The guilt i mentioned ^^^ eats at me daily.

Answer 4

1.  One

2.  A week

3.  Yes

4.  No

5.  No

6.  The name was Baby, so we named our child

7.  It was emotionally hard and financially stressful.  If it weren't for the financial aspect, we probably would do it again.

Answer 5

1. one

2. one year old

3. both positive and negative...our child is wonderful, the system is unethical.

4. yes

5. no

6. Kept his name

7. Yes

Answer 6

1. 5 (sibling group) and now I am helping their first father raise their 2 youngest siblings since their first mother died.

2. At the time of adoption?  7, 6, 4, 2, and 1

3. Foster care sucks.  I am just happy that I became friends with their first mom.  We worked together to do the right thing for the kids and let CD play their games alone.

4. Yup.

5. No.

6. We kept their first names and let the older ones choose new middle names.  The 2 year old took my partners middle name and the 1 year old took my middle name.  Their first mom was okay with this or I don't think we would have done it.  And the kids thought it was awesome.

7. Lord have mercy.  Hopefully no time soon.  We have 7 right now.  That's plenty!

Answer 7

1)  2

2)  22mos and 23 mos

3) very positive and enjoyable

4) no

5) Yes China

6) new middle name, old name as middle name

7) Yes if my husband would agree--2 bio and 2 adopted is enough for hime.  I would like to adopt 2 more aged 7 and 8

Answer 8

1.  We are in the process now of adopting

2.  He is currently 6

3.  Still pondering this as his adoption is going to be a difficult one

4.  Yes

5.  No

6.  He will keep his same name, we will move his last name to his middle name and add our last name

7.  No

Answer 9

1. One

2. got to watch my son be born and take him from the hospital got to hear his hearbeat at the doctor's office before his birth.

3. Postive and continues to be great realtionship with bio mom and dad.

4. No but he would have been in foster care bio mom and dad had no choice any child she has if not with adoption plan CPS will automatically take away.

5. Orginally going to adopt from Guatamala it closed so ended with domestic open adoption at last minute

6. We named our son bio mom and dad didn't have a name picked yet though we told them they could. Once we told them the name they loved and it seemed fitting to them

7. Most defintely do it again and hope to do it soon

Answer 10

2 adopted children, 1 not

They were infants

Process was very positive, although we felt very badly for the birth mothers (VERY young teens). Neither wanted anything to do with us or the adoption, but we send update letters to the agency periodically to be kept in a folder in case a family member ever comes looking for information/news on what became of the children.

3rd adoption will be through foster care (we will take older child)

Yes, from Korea

We named them. The names they had been given were just the next names on a list...they weren't given to them by anyone who cared about them or had ever even seen them. If the birth mothers had named them, we would have kept the names.

I would absolutely do it again, but our next will be an older child (6-9) through the foster to adopt program.

Answer 11

1. One

2. 6 months

3. Lots of paperwork and hoops to jump through. Lots of waiting.  But the travel to get her was fantastic

4.  no

5.  yes

6.  I changed her name.  kept her birth name as her middle name.  Also she knows her birth name so if she wants to use it in the future she can

7. If I wanted a second child, yes I would absolutely

Answer 12

I adopted a 3 year old girl from china and I absolutely love her to death.

It is such a great experience and I wouldn't have had it any other way. I kept her name, Kayla. She is my world.  

Answer 13

1.  2 (a sibling group)

2. 10 and 5 at the time of adoption.

3. Enjoyable?  Well, it was long and tedious.  But we did not have any unexpected delays or problems in the process.  We were able to meet our children's mother and speak to her, for which I'm grateful.  We do have ongoing contact.

4. No.

5. Yes.

6. Kept their names.

7. Yes, but only by using the same agency and same route if we were to adopt from overseas again.  I do not think we will adopt again, but I can't rule out a possibility of adopting a teenager or teenage sibling group through foster care, later in life.

Answer 14

I adopted my step daugter who was 6 years old at the time.

I believe it would have been a much more enjoyable experience if I would have kept it a closed adoption.  Her bio mother is now in the pic and telling her stories that are not true but because she has just reunited with her she cant see through anything.

She kept her name since her father is my husband.

Adopting my daughter was a beautiful experience, one that I would do all over again but like I said differently.

Hindsight is 20 20 and I do know that, and the old saying I wish I knew then what I know now is so true.

My advice to anyone adopting is think long and hard before you include the birthparent into the adoption.  I never really felt like I was her mother.  Her birth mother intruded on so many things it isnt funny.